About Fifteen Years Ago . . .

I could never understand why anyone would want to physically hurt someone.

I too hate abuse but nowadays its not only wife beating but husband and even parent beating children from ages of 10/11 who physically and severely verbally abuse parent mainly Mother and if they react,threaten with child-line or Social services.All Abuse must be STOPPED!

I get beat by my husband... He says because I don't know my place. So I started fighting him back now he doesn't hit me as much but I wish I can leave..... There is no help. I called ever dv shelter every single one was full.

No one deserved to be abuse. Men just need to be more in control cause you have the physical strength that can kill in an instant and that leave very little next to none for a woman to survive. I'm not saying that men are the only one who are abusers. Abuser doesn't discriminated by gender, age, race or any means.

I understand your point of view but I have once been physical with a woman, my now ex. I was very very much in love and thought she was the most amazing person I could hope to be with. We had 2 beautiful kids and nice house, good jobs, our own business, but I always felt that she didn't really love me the way I hoped for. It probably didn't come as much of a shock when I caught her out cheating on me. I lost my temper and grabbed her by the throat and threatened to kill her. I regret it from the perspective of I wish I had just left her but to be honest I still think she deserved that and more. I told her to call the police before I did do more and admitted everything and got a conviction but to be honest after several years of feeling guilty I now wish we had a law that she could have been arrested for ripping a great big hole in my heart. It's perfectly acceptable for a woman to screw with your life and destroy you emotionally but if you turn around and get angry or physical then you are a nasty violent man. In the 10 years we were together she threw books, a vase and punched me. I never touched her until I had my heart ripped out. Then I lost it. I no longer regret it and to be honest, if I'd known how long it (her infidelity) would affect me for I'd probably shown less restraint than I actually did. Sorry but women arent always helpless victims and men aren't always completely the abuser. I appreciate no one should resort to violence in theory but it's not always that straight forward. Sometimes situations make us do things we shouldn't because we are human with emotions not robots. Having said that I think it's right that I got arrested and that everyone has the right to protection but morally and emotionally I still feel I was hurt more. Bruises heal but some of the emotional scare inflicted in a relationship last forever. I'm in a relationship now that is much better in that she is much more caring and loving but I still find it hard to trust and I don't think I'll ever be able to love the same again. Was I right to use physical violence? No. Was she right to destroy my family, my heart and my life? NO!!! I only see my kids 1/3 of the week now and I'm a great dad and love my kids. I was a good provider, I was loyal, I loved her. Life is not always straight forward.

That is wrong to do, the only reason i could see is if she cheated on him

they don't know what love is. they had sex only.

It's very bad WOMEN is for LOVE not for HIT.

disgusting. oie. and thats why i launch investigations

hear hear

There are lots of types of abuse and physical is only one. Believe me that verbal abuse is just as bad and intimidation through silence is another. The scars are just the same as if a fist hit you.



I agree that no real man should hit a woman. Being stronger he has the option of just walking away and not letting his anger rage and get out of control. Hands are made to caress and show love not beat and abuse.



You don;t know if you could have stopped the second night or not. Don't feel guilty about it. Sounds like you learned a lesson. Use the lessons learned the next time you see or hear it happen.



He deserved ever bit of the beating he got. Men like him are cowards. You admitted your shame and that takes a very different and courageous type of man. God bless you and I do hope you never have to experience this again.

Very well said sir.But i believe its the women who has to stand up and fight for it.because all men are like that.Its women who are the sufferers.she has to fight for it.As for the domestic violence certainly it has been increasing not just in US but in other countries too.

Wow, that is a horrible story. I always get upset when I see a girl with someone (or even a guy with someone) who is abusive, verbally and physically. I just want to shake them and say "look!!!" I don't think you can really be blamed for lack of action, it's hard to think straight and act quickly in such experiences. I would probably have boen too shocked to do anything right away, myself, which pains me to say.

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The word of God:The holy bible condems violence of any sort in its entirety, how we need to regulate our life wiyh the word of God, it definitely would do us much good

Sounds like me and a past boyfriend, I was afraid of him most of the time, and when I see guys being rude, crude hategul to girls, I know they probably are just like him....and thankfully not all guys are like that *-* = + hugs for posting that.

KARMA .

This was so inspiring to me. I am a huge believer in Karma and aliens. I honestly don't believe that it was him however. I do feel that the aliens were the true culprits. They framed this innocent man in this hanus crime that was really done by aliens. I can't stress it enough, people are so deaf to "aliens" and they just brush it off like it is nothing.



Man = Innocent

Female = Wrong place wrong time (should have believed in aliens)

Dont feel bad for not doing more cause a woman thats been abused the stay cause its what they are used too. They think its what they diserve to them they are not good enough and only their abuser would ever want them some cases by the time they have made up their mind to leave its too late. I say help them once ifbthey go back let it go but you have a good heart.

Sometimes it is hard to get involved with friends, neighbours or family members who are going through abuse with their abusive partners. BUT, if you can find someone out there who will be willing to help (even if it means calling law enforcements) then do it! You could be saving a life. I'm pleased to know that you tried to do something, but unfortunately the people that you did tell, did absolutely nothing about it. It is such a shame to know that the so called 'Task Force' weren't at all helpful SHAME ON THEM! Thank goodness there are people like you in this violent world that wake up & TRY to do something about it..Thumbs up to you Wading! :)

Rey21 ... i dont think it was quite meant that way.. just probably meant that god maybe taught him a lesson.. life is how it is. karma catches up with you. i wouldnt want anyone to get hurt in life.. but we live in a dog eat dog world. im sure it wasnt meant in the way that you thought.

i know it sounds real good. but u should realise that the way you express that anger against violence by being happy for the man getting hit is not good. not a good sign at all.

anyways, my main concern is that why do you ever make a statement that a women should never be hit? do not get me wrong i am strictly against a women getting hit but you of all people who realize that violence is not good, that preference should be not considering the sex of the person. ask yourselves... if you see a helpless woman or man getting hit... who would you sympathise more? if you choose any1... you need to work on your sexist behaviour.

no offence... it is just my thought, please tell me if it is wrong :)

must have been horrilbe hearing it! my sister went through the same ordeal if not worse. her boyfriend was psychotic! would beat her, hold knives to her throat, get her drunk and rape her in her sleep. made her abort his child and then held her responsible for killing it. broke mirrors and made her walk accross the glass. she left him... after 9months or more of abuse. dont know what made her stick with him. maybe the fact that he had ******** her of all confidence and she thought the only person who wanted her was him and that no1 else cared for her. we tried calling the police but she withdrew her statement. after all, our whole family would be dragged under the carpet and the guy would only have got about 16months!

Many many women go threw abuse of one kind or another. It is truely horrid to think that soemone you love could an dwould do such things. And then men wonder why there are so many issues with women. Maybe if they had grown up with being abused physically, mentally sexually then they might just see why a person might be reacting the way they are. It si not an excuss but it is a reason. When you are being tortured by the people you love and trust it becomes hard to keep trusting.

You did what you could at the time and I commend you on that, but, the abused does have to make the final choice to do something. And unfortunately there have been many cases of the good sumariton being sued or hurt themselves because they interferred. That is wrong to happen but it does. All you can do is what you think is right at that moment.

And I don't think it's wrong that you were happy to hear what had happened to the guy. In one respect I hope he learned his lesson, but, unfortunately he probably didn't.

Thank you from all of us past, present and future for victims for caring and doing your part :)

Two things...I use to visit my sister and the people downstairs from her made those sames sounds. I called the police. It was so loud it almost sounded like it was right in her apartment. The woman baddly beaten woman came upstairs to inform us to mind our own business! I'm use to, was use to protecting my sister. One day I saw this big mass on her face. She told me it was a cratch but it looked liked her face was dragged on some road. I asked if I could stay that night in case I was on to something and it might have been her boyfriend. She irritatingly rolled her eyes and puffed out a breath. My clue to leave. I found out a month later HE had bitten her face in a rage. I looked for him angrily for months. I found out he was hit and killed by a car. I was happy but I kinda felt bad that I wasn't the one that did it. Now She's been unhappily in a another abusive relationship for years. I used all my savings tring to get her out but she just keeps going back. I'm glad the lady you heard knew it was wrong and knew she should have better even if that means no relationship. The truth is though, you were a man. Most people now days don't even call the police. They REALLY DON'T do anything. Good job!

I agree.Domestic is becoming very common these days...its not just some countries....now its being observed in almost all the countries.

this wz gud

the unfortunate truth is a lot of victims of domestic violence keep running back to the person doing it often with tragic consequences.

nothing can make any man or woman explode into physical violence-its a CHOICE each individual makes.ITS AN EXCUSE to say that anyone can be made to explode.If anyone is getting messed around by another person they can just walk away.......and reasses the situation.physically beating the crap out of someone is not a punishment!you have just made a victim out of them ,whether they had it coming or not.

RULE NO 1-dont get mad,get even.Look at that fine example on the net of a guy finding out that his fiance was screwing the best man,days before the wedding.The groom says nothing,hires a pi to get some photos as proof, goes through the wedding and then makes a speech at the reception.Then he tells each guest at the wedding to open up the envelopes left on the tables.Each envelope contained a pic of the bride and best man at it.the bride was humiliated,the best man was humiliated and by going through with the wedding his inlaws paid for a wedding that got annuled the next day.Now that is a punishment !!if that guy had been dumb enough to hit the fiance when he found out-he would have been up in court with his reputation ruined-by using his brain, he not only got even ,he got respect.

I'm a "firm believer" THERE ARE "TWO" SIDES To Every Situation "involving TWO people.

I'll AGREE with you "that it was TRAGIC what you heard/experienced.

I'd be "interested" to hear your 'take' On A Female "who TOYS with a mans' affections.

Is SHE "justified" in Getting Away WITH SUCH BEHAVIOUR; "simply" because She Is A Female ???

SADLY, women Are Guilty "of this"...

MORE times "than they will admit'.

It CAN "enrage" A man. "Cause" him TO EXPLODE.