As a 14 Year Old Teenager, I Hit a Girl :(
True confession that I am not proud of, but I can only chalk up to experience. I was 14 years old and there was a neighbor girl, also 14, who was screaming at me, making a scene in front of my friends. I forget what started it, but she was letting loose pretty good and her face was within inches of my own, calling me fa***t...etc. Without thinking, I smacked her on the side of her face and she ran home crying.
The next day, in school, boy did I pay the price. I had about 6 different guys threaten me in school. Later that afternoon, a kid got in my face, punched me first, and we brawled in the hallway. We exchanged punches and within seconds a few teachers broke it up. Shortly afterward, I was sitting in the school office with the other kid sitting on the other side of the room. The police came and asked me if I wanted to file charges against the other kid, especially since a teacher had heard earlier that some kids were threatening me. So, here I was, my face had some minor cuts from the kids ring, I was jumped in the hallway by this kid who clearly wanted revenge for the girl.
At age 14, I realized right there and then how completely foolish and wrong I felt for smacking the girl the day before. At age 14 it dawned on my just how vulnerable the girl was and regardless of what she said to me, I needed to just let it go....
To this day, I remember telling the cop "no, I won't press charges, I had it coming and I deserved it".
25 years later I have never since put an aggressive hand on a woman, nor have I threatened to. When those situations have come up, I remember how foolish I had felt on that day at age 14 and I simply walk away. I may argue my point, but it has not and will not come to my using force against a defenseless woman.