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As a 14 Year Old Teenager, I Hit a Girl :(
Jun 9th, 2008
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rue confession that I am not proud of, but I can only chalk up to experience. I was 14 years old and there was a neighbor girl, also 14, who was screaming at me, making a scene in front of my friends. I forget what started it, but she was letting loose pretty good and her face was within inches of my own, calling me fa***t...etc. Without thinking, I smacked her on the side of her face and she ran home crying.
The next day, in school, boy did I pay the price. I had about 6 different guys threaten me in school. Later that afternoon, a kid got in my face, punched me first, and we brawled in the hallway. We exchanged punches and within seconds a few teachers broke it up. Shortly afterward, I was sitting in the school office with the other kid sitting on the other side of the room. The police came and asked me if I wanted to file charges against the other kid, especially since a teacher had heard earlier that some kids were threatening me. So, here I was, my face had some minor cuts from the kids ring, I was jumped in the hallway by this kid who clearly wanted revenge for the girl.
At age 14, I realized right there and then how completely foolish and wrong I felt for smacking the girl the day before. At age 14 it dawned on my just how vulnerable the girl was and regardless of what she said to me, I needed to just let it go....
To this day, I remember telling the cop "no, I won't press charges, I had it coming and I deserved it".
25 years later I have never since put an aggressive hand on a woman, nor have I threatened to. When those situations have come up, I remember how foolish I had felt on that day at age 14 and I simply walk away. I may argue my point, but it has not and will not come to my using force against a defenseless woman.
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  | Posted Jun 9th, 2008 at 6:38PM Mmm... I'm not sure we're "defenseless," entirely, but your chivalry is definitely appreciated. =D +6 nods   |
 | Posted Jun 9th, 2008 at 6:43PM Thanks EP.....not all women are defenseless, but in many cases they are....an example is my ex of a 15 year marriage who is 5'2" and 100lbs compared to me at 6' 2" and 210 lbs...not defenseless, but not much of a fight either. +5 nods |
 | Posted Jun 29th, 2008 at 5:36AM This is a great story. Takes a man to admit, accept and move on on. And at such a young age to act as you did afterwards is impressive. You should be proud of yourself... +8 nods |
 | Posted Jul 23rd, 2008 at 9:14PM i definitely admire the courage to admit that you were wrong in resorting to physical violence, but i still think it's unfair that women can get away with so much more than men. in middle school once, there was a boy with a broken arm and a cast and a girl threw him on the ground but wasn't punished. if it had been the other way around, surely the boy would be in trouble i just think it's unfair that you ended up paying for something the girl started. you know? +6 nods |
 | Posted Jul 24th, 2008 at 11:49AM hey, you are a real man! +4 nods |
 | Posted Jul 24th, 2008 at 2:27PM it sounds like she made you feel quite threatened your fight or flight response made have went off because your senses were telling you that she was going to strike you...do you forgive your self.sounds like you learned from an experience thank you for sharing it with us +3 nods |
 | Posted Jul 24th, 2008 at 11:07PM I wish everyone could learn from their experiences like you did! It's encouraging that so many people stepped up to defend her (if bad for you) when, as people get older and especially married, they are less likely to admit being hurt or go for help. I am glad you will never endanger someone that way and hope your example has led others. +2 nods |
 | Posted Jul 25th, 2008 at 12:52AM cinamonapple i agree that it is'n fair that women get away with more then men +3 nods |
 | Posted Jul 25th, 2008 at 5:45AM Not comments till not listen the ture views but If any mistake in your 14 year age so is not a your Mistake is mistake your Parents who not care the her childs Till not comments +2 nods |
 | Posted Jul 25th, 2008 at 10:44AM I've had a lot of experience helping DV victims. I've seen some bad stuff. But what most people either don't know or don't want to admit is... MEN GET BEAT, TOO. I'm married to a man who was badly beaten by his ex for six years. When I met him, all his clothes were ripped up, I mean ALL of them, from her. He has scars all over his body from her hitting, punching, throwing things... His lips, eyes, and cheeks have been split open multiple times by the diamond ring he gave her. He never hit her or hurt her back. He bought her expensive gifts to try to make her happy. Not only did it not help, but she treated the gifts like they were garbage. There's more, and worse, to the story. But my point is, there are limits to what anyone, including women, should be allowed to do. HARM NONE. +13 nods |
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