I Can Tell You Why It Happens Too
My brother is going to be 40 years old soon and the only time he ever got close to being married was a joke. He follows every law he's even remotely aware of, has a job (and a car, place, etc), cares about intelligent things and wants a future for himself. Yet girls won't touch him... He's even bought into this stupid notion that "the problem is him", so he's taking anti-depressants, sees a counselor etc :-D
What's really going on here? I can tell you.
There's a little known fact of "social physics" that almost nobody is aware of. I have done experiments and proven (to atleast my satisfaction) everything I am saying here.
Every human being sends off something "that is like" (behaves with the symantics of) a "transponder signal". I don't know what "the transport"
is, but something carries this signal between human beings. Maybe it is non-verbal things such as hand-gestures or maybe is something "more interesting", such as 'ESP'. All I know is that: 1) it is transmitted "somehow" and 2) it doesn't transmit over The Internet at all (not surprising, huh).
What the signal contains is "what you are about", or vastly more accurately "what you have been thinking about or caring about RECENTLY".
The vast majority of Americans only care about one (usually atleast two) or more of the following: 1) sports, 2) organized religion, and 3) gossip (whose doing what and to whom "peoplestuff"). They are looking for a "transponder signal" in others that reflects that. Anyone else makes them uncomfortable. They don't know "why they are", they just are, and "that is good enough for them" so they avoid that person. My brother is not into sports, is probably not into gossip, and though he's a Christian, he's a free-thinking Christian, so his signal probably doesn't "transpond" as Christianity to any conventional Christrian :-D
My signal right now is saying "loves inanimate ob
Perhaps the most fascinating thing though is that you can willing change what this "signal" contains. I'd literally read sports magazines before going out to drink in bars and more people would start conversations with me. It is believed that the "residual effect" of such an action can last as long as a week after you've been thinking about/engaging in a particular thing.
Why don't I do this then? 1) it's a lie. People who don't like lying probably won't like this strategy 2) It eats into my time. If I spent 15 minutes reading Sports Illustrated, that's 15 minutes I can never get back :-D