I Think This Girl Needs To Grow Up

I liked this girl for a while, but a while ago she proved she's too immature for me.

I'll admit I made some mistakes and gave her reasons to dislike me in the past, but that was 3 years ago and I've already apologized. Yet she just can't seem to let it go. Nowadays it's her making mistakes, but she still is trying to pin all the blame for our failed friendship on me. 

We stopped being friends for a while because she got on my nerves, but eventually I sent her a text saying she can text me if she wants. She responded by saying I'm a "horrible person that doesn't deserve a third chance." Once asking why she thinks that, she started talking about stuff that happened three years ago. And really what I did wasn't even a big deal anyway; none of them were invited me to anything, so I started feeling left out, got upset, and I started a bunch of drama.

We argued for a bit and I tried to explain that she needs to get over the past, but she kept trying to use that as an excuse to hate me. Eventually I grew irritated, so I told her she needs to grow up and accept responsibility for her actions. She got angry and tried to pin things on me again, so I said the same thing and this time started ignoring her. If she ever does grow up enough to apologize and hone up to her mistakes I'll forgive her, but I'm not putting up with someone that can't even admit it when they're the one at fault.

The sad thing is this girl is 22, so age-wise she is a year older than I am.
tjlkitty tjlkitty
22-25, M
2 Responses Jan 19, 2013

Do you have to be friends with this girl?....Wouldn't it be better to just draw a line under this, and call it a day...People are often not completely Up Front about what they want, and to be honest, I really don't think she wants you as a friend, she just wants some one to bully and taunt...perhaps she has issues that you don't know about, with other family & friends and this is her way of letting off steam....don't be a punchbag...

Hey hey, I'm so sorry that things turned out this way for you :(

Words are immaterial swords that can never be taken back once plunged, and the wounds they cause may be deeper than we know.

I think she's still angry with you for what you've done (women carry deep grudges, trust me on this) , and if you ever decide to become friends again, show her that you meant every word you said in your apology, and that you really are willing to take the high road to start all over and offer her the olive branch first.

Best of luck! :)