Room Mates Or Soul Mates?

My boyfriend and I have been together 17 years. We have 3 children and bought a house together. He says he does not " believe " in marriage

but I feel differently. I have always wanted to be married. 

He goes through "distant periods" where he is distracted and self absorbed (working, working out, traveling for work etc.)

He is very responsible and provides for us the best he can. He is self employed, so he works seven days a week (the hours vary).

My problem is, he is so distant from me and the children, I feel like we are just room mates. 

 I feel like we are living two separate lives under the same roof. I am the mother, housewife, renovator (working on our house), I also have a part-time job ( I got the job so he would have to spend time with the kids at night alone). And he is the financial provider.

Once in a while he seems to surface emotionally, but it doesn't last for long. I feel alone and bored in our relationship most of the time and I feel like our children don't have a father that truly participates in their lives.

I believe r I have been patient, but what do I do with my unhappiness?


angelaY angelaY
41-45, F
Feb 18, 2010