I Dislike Kids... But I Hate Kid People!

i happen to just stumble upon this story. yea you really opened up my view on this topic. most my life ive always leaned toward the side of never wanting kids. sometimes it wavers just a bit but not much. but whoa, i never thought about this that way before as to why people dont have any kids. its way more than meets the eye. i will cease that question from now on, i dont want to hurt someones feelings.

I get what you're saying! Over and over and over again, I see parents lose their freakin' minds over their kids. Oh, not the usual "Timmy, do not glue your sister to the dog." No, I'm talking about parents who will DO ANYTHING for their kids. ANYTHING, including, but not limited to, MURDER.

I've seen them throw away all their money on a kid who decries innocence, but turns out, in the end, to be the drug pusher he claimed he never was. Fathers help their sons kill their sons' wives so that the son can have sole custody of the "grand babies".

Mothers KILL for their kids. Fathers KILL for their kids. Why am I not a parent? BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO BECOME A MURDERER.

People with kids ARE CRAZY.

Thanks for your story.

Here're reasons why I don't like the "kid people" to whom you're referring.



*My husband and I either break even or write a check to the IRS each year. We do not qualify for dependent exemptions, nor will we ever qualify for an EITC. Okay, fine, what the **** ever. Here's the ******: It's NEVER enough. All year long, it's the proverbial hand stuck out for donations: Asking for school supplies, coats, shoes, even ******* cars, money, money, money, money FOR THE CHILDREN. Passing around fund raiser magazines. Santimonious emails from the charity collectors, newspaper articles indicate to us, "You can skip that EXPENSIVE ESPRESSO all month long and be able afford to donate the amount we're asking." And then, there are the lackwit rude people who will actually say something like, "You don't have kids! You can AFFORD to come to this 15.00 hot dog lunch, all proceeds going to, 'Free Swimming Lessons for Underpriviliged Children'!!"



*Crowing about "The Village". Their interpretation of the Village is: they should donate to such examples above and vote themselves property tax raises, they should give up their seat on the bus, they should not grab the last cupcake with sprinkles at the bakery because Spoiledleigh behind them wants it. However the village dares scold a child, the Grizzly Mom comes out.



*The phenomenon of Grizzly Mom.



*Parents who post 47 times a day on Facebook about how they lack time and rest in their lives.



*Taking the question of "Do you have kids?" past that question. Being rude about someone being childfree. Spewing of the BINGOs.



*Playing the kid "card".



*Verbally assuming all childfree are well rested, have plenty of money, have no worries and only think about themselves, the pub and expensive clothing.

Overpopulation is a fact. 7 Billion people can not be dismissed as a myth. What, do you think you can just keep cramming college students into a phone booth forever? Do you know why people deny overpopulation? For the same reason they deny climate change. They don't want to take responsibility for the consequences of their own actions. Overpopulation isn't denied on a any meritorious basis, but on entirely emotional ones. Breeders like you don't want to acknowledge the harm you case with your irresponsible breeding, especially as it's exactly this breeding that you expect to be worshiped for.



Here's the difference between overbreeding and underbreeding. Underbreeding doesn't kill anyone. Overbreeding does. Well, there's this, and overbreeding being a REAL ******* PROBLEM AND HAPPENING RIGHT NOW, while underbreeding is not and will never be. It turns out, you're not some kind of hero for spreading your legs and taking a shot of *****.



Stop pushing the responsibility on solving the worlds problems off on offspring (most of which will among to nothing of worldwide significance anyway.) No one will solve the worlds problems if they're too busy breeding anyway. Guess what, if everyone is breeding, no one is doing much of value themselves. Anyone who solves some major, worldwide problem is most likely someone smart enough to not have kids and kids would prevent them from making such advancements. By the way, there is already a solution to resource depletion anyway - CURBING IRRESPONSIBLE BREEDING!



Children are not resources. The're resource drains. A person, regardless of age, is only a resource when they are already doing something useful. Most people are NEVER resources.



"Mindless breeders who don't care about the earth," is not a mere implication. It's exactly what I'm saying. It doesn't matter if a breeder has one or two kids. The world, right now, doesn't need ANY. (Arguably, the planet never needs any people at all.) If the population of the human race is desired, people can ******* WAIT to breed until the population drops to near sustainable levels.



But, to do that would mean being responsible. Too bad there are so few responsible people in the world.

Just tell people "It's none of your business".



And the fact is that your wife wanted a child, and evidently that feeling has never disappeared. If it had, she would not get depressed now. So you're not in the same place as people who never wanted kids.



I don't resent the child-centric attitude of our country. I feel it's necessary. Children are our most precious resource and the true measure of any society is how it treats its most precious resource. If nobody had any children, our species would become extinct in one generation. Child-bearing is not to be discouraged. It is to be recognized and respected.



I'm sure it's true that some people have been blind and insensitive enough to use words such as "childish" and "immature" to refer to people who don't wish to have children, but that still doesn't justify using words such as "breeder" and "sow" to describe them. It only perpetuates the cycle, it will only engender further resentment among people who didn't have the resentment to begin with. It only makes childless-by-choice people look bad. We all should respect each other's choices, and if you're not part of the solution, then you're part of the problem.

I'm very touched by your story. And i totally concur. Due to problems with my reproductive bits, we can't have kids either, and everyone I know is just popping them out with an 'oh its soo wonderful, congratulate me now'. No all you did was have sex. It took no intelligence whatsoever. You are made to feel like an inferior person if you don't have your very own scrawny pink goblin... but sod them all.

This is why I've become reclusive... it sucks. I'm sorry you and your wife had to go through all that madness. :( I think that after deciding not to breed and contribute to the world's population, people should receive a tax break or something. But, I'll never mention it around people with kids.

Thank you so much for your share, well said in all ways. I could've of course also written a more "polite" version of my rant as you did, but like you, it was written at a time of "can't take it anymore!" (and in a seemingly safe forum to do so) Thank you so much for your message as well, and your understanding, and for this awesome piece. :) I appreciate your honesty and candor. I hope we can all continue to support one another and that this forum will soon return to its normal state! ;)

I totally agree. Personally I think kids are just totally gross and weird and that's why I never want one. If people ask me about it I say I have mental problems and would abuse a kid if I had one so it's better all around if I just stick to my cats.



If it's just some random person you'll never meet again tell them you are a convicted

s e x offender lol (just kidding) :P