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Nasty Cycle

I have recently kicked my drunken husband of 10 years out AGAIN!! This time he was "talking" to his ex-girlfriend via hidden text messages and phone calls. (I busted him really drunk texting her that he loves and misses her.)It has been seven days and this is just about the time I start getting late night drunken phone calls,text messages, or he just shows up.I fall weak to to my own sadness,and the diffuculty in keeping him away.At first he just wants to come over for a few hours and works me over and i end up feeling guilty for his alcohol abuse and I let him back in.Our relationship has been violent.His addiction has not only affected myself but my entire family. We have two beautiful children that are constantly affected . They have already been through so much and their faith in myself and in their father completely gone.I want this time to different to break this nasty cycle that has made me the shell of the person I once was. I really love my sober husband but I don't think he exists anymore.I feel very alone and lost.
lostinluv10 lostinluv10 26-30 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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So sorry for your sucks. Alcoholism destroys everyone and thing it touches. You can't fix him, only he can decided if he gets well or not. I had to tell my son the other day that he needs to think of his father as "brain damaged" right now because alcohol influences his behavior so much. Its true, all the stupid nonsensical things he does are like a brain damaged person -- no sense whatsoever. I haven't the courage just yet to do what needs to be done, especially not right at Christmas, tho. I swear if he walks thru the door one more time drunk I will be taking the boys and leaving him to deal with what he has done all alone.
Enjoy your kids during this season and don't let what he does destroy your happiness or that of your kids. HUGS to you!

Move in for your kids. Stop taking care of him and take care of you and your kids. We've taken care of these drunken bums for too long. It's time for US!

You have to end this. If not for yourself, for your children.