Friend Didn't Acknowledge My Bday


   I have had this friend for the past 2 years or so. She has taken up a habit of when she doesn't want to do something, she simply doesn't acknowledge it. I have caught her at this before, but the most recent time is, I told her in my email that I had been sick and unable to eat, and that I was trying to get better so that I could go out for dinner on my birthday this Thursday. I specifically drop hints to my friends about my birthday, because I know friends forget, and to spare them of having to remember themselves. I just feel it is the right thing to do. I don't expect my friends to remember my exact date of birth every year. I even drop reminders to my son as well.

     Now I don't expect stuff for my birthday. Friends that know me, know this. A simple Happy Birthday via email is sufficient. And believe me, that is all I get from some of my friends. But I was under the impression that it is standard societal convention, that if one knows when a friends birthday is, that they should acknowledge their birthday, either via a birthday card (the most common), or nowadays, simply by email! How much cheaper can it get????

     Well she responded to my email saying that she would call me sometime. She never calls me. She only emails me. This in itself hurts. She spends hours on the phone all the time. I can never get thru to her phone line when I try to call. So I am left wondering why she never calls me on the phone and yet calls other people? And when I do get her on the phone, she hardly talks to me. She tries to get off asap. Same with when we go for coffee. She's always busy and rushes off soon. And she is not working right now, and I am working. So she has way more time than me.

    Anyways, I am very hurt by her behavior and decided I can not take it anymore. I am no longer putting anymore time into that relationship. I resent the way she has been treating me, and have resented it for a long time. This is the final straw.

Genie75 Genie75
41-45, F
1 Response May 11, 2007

Sounds like you need a new friend. She is not there for you.