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I Don't Even Know Why But ...

i hate my boyfriend.
when i think about how angry i am, it comes down to : i hate my boyfriend
i used to think i hate myself but when i imagine life without my boyfriend, i know it'd be okay
yeah i'd miss him and i do love him but i can't talk to him
everything i say is wrong, he is always right
my feelings don't matter, only his
and he turns everything i say into a fight
i'm so sick of this
help!

nickiee nickiee 16-17 18 Responses May 18, 2008

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i feel like this right now.i needed him to be there for me and he left me stranded not caring what would happen to me. and he comes home and acts like he did nothing wrong. i feel like swearing him and hitting him but i'm trying to show him he's not getting to me. i regret meeting him. i would have been better off learning to take care of myself. i hate him right now and when i get angry i feel like crying. i want to leave. his family encourages him to be an a-hole andjust care that he does things for them.

I almost started crying when i read this because I am in the same situation. I imagine everyday how my life would be if I never started dating my boyfriend. Dating him is the biggest mistake of my life. I will always hate myself for it. He grabbed me and threw me into his door frame and tore my sweatshirt the other day. I don't know what to do. I am so sick of crying every day. But there is nothing I can do. I am not strong enough to leave him

same is my story, m sick of crying every day. but i cant break up

I don't even know you, but believe me when I say : you are worth more than that and you deserve better

I feel ya.

My boyfriend treats me in the same exact manner... And I'm sick of it too. It's not worth dealing with a person who does nothing but belittling. That's not the ideal relationship you should have (or want) with a possible future spouse. The both of us need to leave their sorry *****!

Same thing I'm going threw. I think maybe we spend so much time together but we don't do too much. I think we need to find some other ways to find excitement that isn't fighting. How's your situation? Do you guys go out Often? Live together?

PEOPLE THERE ARE A LOTTA COMMENTS PLUS AM GOONA CLOSE MY CLINIC NOW. GOONA GO HOME AND KISS MY GSD.BUT BEFORE THAT I WANNA TELL ONE THING. GIRLS PLEASE AVOID USIN THE TERM DUMP BREAK SPLIT PIT.

COME ON PEOPLE.. I AM FROM A COUNTRY WHOSE LANGUAGE AINT ENGLISH SO BEAR MY LANG.

GUYS ARE NOT SO BAD TRULY TRUST ME. LOVE CAN CHANGE ANYTHIN TRUST ME.THERE ARE NO PEOPLE BAD BY BIRTH EXCEPT FOR A LIL GENETIC DEFECTS THEY MAY CARRY.

BUT ITS ALL CURABLE NOT BY A DOC BUT BY A GIRLS TRUE LOVE YOUR TRUE LOVE.

IT TAKES TIME A LONG TIME BUT. AFTER ALL TO EXTRACT A MOLAR COSTED 27 YEARS OF MY LIFES EXPERIENCE.

SO FINALLY I SAY THIS WITH A BROAD KNOWLEDGE ON HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. BE WITH HIM LOVE HIM TO THE CORE I SWEAR YOU WILLLLLLLLLLLLL BRING HIM UR WAY XCEPT IF HE IS A SADISTIC PSYCHOPATH.

EVEN THEN CAGE HIM AND LOVE HIM., GOOD LUCK.

but what if he takes u for granted every tym

LIFE IS FULL OF CHANGES.. BUT SOME THINGS SHOULDN CHANGE IN LIFE,, FOR INSTANCE LIFE PARTNERS.

IF THEY CHANGE, AS PER ME LIFE GETS MEANINGLESS.. FOR EXAMPLE WHEN I GOT MY CAR I NEVER BOTHERED ABOUT THE RESALE CAUSE I THOUGHT THAT THIS IS MY CAR FOR LIFE, HOWEVER IT MAY TURN OUT TO BE.

TUNE HIM TO YOUR FREQ, MAKE HIM CRAVE FOR U., GOOD LUCK.

This person is clearly insane.
Sometimes it's best to move on! Not everyone is compatible

are you insane? People only change if they themselves want to change. You cannot change someone else, no matter how much you love them, if they are not willing to make the changes themselves. You may have 'broad' knowledge on human psychology, but it seems you have very little actual experience being in healthy working relationships with people.

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I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. I do not know which way to turn.

Oh dear, tayylor, you sound like one of the guys everyone is beating on. If it's pathetic to be posting about a relationship on here, why are you here? By the way, therapy is all about telling your problems to a stranger. Because they don't know you, they don't judge you, and that is what many people need. I'll grant you, it is one-sided, unless the significant other posts too, but there is often good advice, and even more often, confirmation that what the OP feels is justified. Interestingly enough, there's a little disclaimer just above that mentions respect. Where is yours?

seriously? if all of you are this petty and pathetic then don't get into the relationship. if you're just going to ***** about him to random strangers online instead of telling him how you feel then you deserve to be alone. grow up. because i guarantee part of the reason he acts like that is because you're all self centered *******.

Burnt

Man each of those situations sounds a little different but it still boils down to one thing. Some people just shouldnt be together, or men are pond scum. I feel the same way. That no matter what the situation or argument that men always take wrong approach. Whether it be sex and intimacy or the children or even cleaning. Then when you try to have a damn conversation then it becomes an argument and the communication stops. So what does that tell us? That we need to come up with better ways to courtship with out spreading disease. That we need to work on our relationships (all of them) because there is no story book ending. Not really sure except that my heart tells me that we will never be truly happy together. But we have alot invested together and the children too.

Well, I've been dating my ******* of a bf for almost 2 years now and I've realized the only question you really need to ask is: " Do I still love him?" My problem is that my bf has admitted to having an anger problem, is trying to fix it, but literally will not ever stop picking fights with me/breaking things (bigger problem: i live with him). I know our situations aren't the same, but the point is i've been told "dump him" hundreds of times and quite frankly, I don't want to. If you're in my position, I really feel like being open with him and giving an ultimatum may help. Just say something along the lines of "we need to have a serious conversation because you may not realize it but you've been hurting me lately and I need to talk about it" If you say something like that in a very serious, non-aggressive manner and at an appropriate time, and if he has a problem with having that conversation, he just doesn't love you and there's no point in trying to make it work. (my bf just has issues to where he listens, says he loves me, and acts out anyway)

I really hope that this was helpful!!!!

P.S. Dudes like to hide their emotions/get hardcore if you do anything but be calm around them, so this is key! Speak slowly and calmly while communicating what you need to.

Did you take over my ex? Thats the exact same reason that I broke up with him. Get rid of him fast - the sooner you do he better things will be for you.

I feel Exactly the same with mine! Making you feel guilty for everything you do that doesnt involve him... and then to get back at you tries to do and say the most hurtful things ... and like you say everything turns in to an argument...And you get that horrible voice in your head telling you you don't really love him....and you feel suffocated and confused every time you argue... because you will start with a strong point and try to stick up for yourself but you come out the other end feeling used and useless....AND HE STILL HASNT CHANGED HIS OPINION! the thing is you fight with yourself to keep him happy beacuse you don't want to lose him but it eats away everythime you have an argument it resurfaces... And all I can think is YOU MADE ME THIS WAY... YOU MADE ME HATE YOU!....



But Its part of the journey... after you argue it will always be you trying to make it up to him even though they were in the wrong... and your tummy feels strange and your head feels light when you realise how much it would mean to lose him... Lets face it... its the journey of a woman... A woman will change everything about herself for the person she loves but they will never.. never... understand and change for you... you wont know who you are but you wont care because he is happy...

Omg youve just taken my thoughts an made me feel like somone anyone knows what im going through... Thanks!

Really you dont want people to tell you to leave him. Because I wouldnt want to hear it even if it was true. Even though we tend to give better advice when we should take our own, sometimes we are dumb when it comes to 'us'. But if he is making you hate yourself then you should tell him and if you cant tell him or you do and he passes it off, LEAVE him. And you will be hurt for days maybe weeks. And your gonna cry but when a month or two passes and you start having fun again and you realize that you do deserve to be happy like you made him, you will see u did the right thing. :) good luck

I feel the same way!! He needs to get off his high horse and realize he's not the moral, never makes mistakes, mr. right he thinks he is. I thought boyfriends were supposed to be good supports, instead of making you feel scumy, naieve, crazy, or total mess up.

Really... I think it might be better to be single and just take care of/ spoil yourself for awhile! Be in a relationship with yourself and only worry about the things you want or the things that would make you the happiest, as Daniel Johnston says " Do yourself a favor: Become your own savior"

My boyfriend is the same way and it's very hard being happy with someone like that. most days i think i would be better off without him.

Hmmm Seems like we must be dating the same person. You described my dumbass boyfriend to perfection. I'm wishing there was a country specifically designated to jerks, and we could send 'em on over - one way trip, never to return

Break up with him. You both deserve better. I wouldn't want to be with someone who hated me. Does he know how you feel?