I'm Starting To Loose Feelings!!

My boyfriend is really getting on my last nerves!. I'm truly starting to hate him as a person!. He expects to much from me, and wanting for me to be someone im not. He's constanly comperaing me to his ex wife; statin that his ex wife use to do this and that and wanting me to change. He has no manor's at all. he's disgusting in everything he does! he farts on a daily openly and not caring who may be around. I come from a very clean house hold and it bothers me that he rather spend all day in his house which is not really appearing verse comming to mine! he's never fair! and want to take control of who I am! by telling me at what time I shall fall asleep to not spending time with my family! he constantly kicking me out of his house!. I understand that in every realtionship there are some hardship. But what do you suggest? there's also some good time's but lately there's been alot of hurt feeling's. Another thing that I can not stand is that he has a real problem and does not want to face it but when it me I have plently problem and I change. His problem is DRINKING I've always said that if drinking make's you violent then find another hobby. It doesnt bother me that he drinks, but every weekend he decides to drink heavly. He could be a very nice guy and has nice quality but there's just something he need's to change aswell as myself!

please help!

Jasmine427 Jasmine427
18-21, F
2 Responses Nov 9, 2009

Go to al anon.<br />
Also, I dumped my boyfriend because of alcoholism, and I'm so much happier.

I don't want to hurt your feelings but the best thing you can do is leave him, you can't change him and he can't change you. Clinging to a sinking ship will not keep you safe. My best wishes for you and know that you have the power to stand up for yourself and keep others (especially boyfriends) from walking all over you.