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I Love My Boyfriend....but Not His Dog

When I first started dating my boyfriend I didn't really mind the fact that he had dogs.  Dogs that lived in the house with him that is.  Don't get me wrong, I grew up always having a dog as the family pet, but our dog always lived outside and was never let in the house unless it was -40 out and he was freezing his *** off, even then he mostly got put in the shop.  My boyfriend has always had his dog in the house, on his couches, in his bedroom and yikes! in his bed.  Yes, you heard me, the dogs slept in the bed under the covers.  He would take them into the bathroom while he had a shower or bath.  They went in his car leaving hair and dirty windows and a smell only a dog lover wouldn't gag over.  

Well, I love my boyfriend and no dog is going to stop that.  So, he moves 450 miles just to come live with me so that we could be together.  Now that I am with the dog all the time, it is not something that I can tolerate after all.  The dog is not allowed in the bed, on the bed or on the couches and he agreed to that.  But my goodness, it makes me so mad to be cleaning up after the dog all the damn time.  Hair everywhere so I vacuum everyday.  The dog smells but because of her 'sensitive' skin she only gets bathed a couple times a month maximum.  She has to sleep in the bedroom on the floor beside him.  She farts, grinds her teeth, chews her toenails, makes noises while she sleeps and generally just annoys the hell out of me.  Then she gets to have a bone as a treat.  Some treat.  A rawhide bone that she chews and gnaws on until it is gone leaving behind a big pile of drool on the carpet.  Now tell me that doesn't add to the stink of the house.  

She is in the kitchen at meal time looking for something to eat.  Nosing around the table and bugging me and the kids.  I have since said that she is not allowed in the kitchen at mealtime anymore.  And the **** all over the lawn.  Okay, it is winter now so even nicer, yellow piles of snow everywhere and piles of **** much for my kids being able to play in the backyard.  We have to make sure things like teddy bears, socks, hair scrunchies, gloves, etc. are picked up and not just picked up, they have to be out of her reach or she will take them.  She has the run of the house and it is making me angry.  I wish she would just die sometimes actually most of the time now.  

My boyfriend seems to think that dogs rank up there with humans and deserve the same status, often making comments that she is like his kid.  Not me.  A dog is a dog.   They belong outside in my opinion, on the farm preferably.  Having grown up on the farm I am accustomed to going through dogs like wild fire.  You name it and it has happened, we probably had at least 10 different dogs by the time us kids were out of the house so I am not the type to get overly attached to pets.  Sure I like them, I will play with them but they live outside and if they die, well, we can always just get another one, it's that simple.

My boyfriends dog is not a little dog either, it is a pitbull.  She is a nice dog but still drives me crazy all the same.  I am at the end of my rope and have seriously considered having him get his own place so that I don't have to deal with it anymore.  Once she dies then we can resume living together but until then continue dating, living in separate households.  I did mention that we could make her an area in the heated garage, have a doggie door installed that gave her access to a dog run and not have the entire yard as her own.  He said no.  It would be too traumatic for her since she has been an indoor dog her whole life.  Hello? Is the garage not an indoor location?  Heated with her own couch and a rug on the floor so she can feel 'at home'.  What the hell am I gonna do?      

Bigmama36 Bigmama36 36-40, F 148 Responses Mar 21, 2010

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Might I suggest a bubble? A big, plastic, human-size, hamster bubble in which you live far away from any and every animal... possibly people too. Then everything will always be fresh, clean, neat, tidy, and perfectly sterile forever and ever and ever.
Jesus. Melodramatic much?
It's a *DOG*, not a plague rat. I find it very hard to believe you grew up anywhere even remotely near the vicinity of a farm... Personally, methinks the lady doth protest too much...
If he doesn't make the walking petri dishes that are your kids live in a box in the garage (it's a fact: all children are just disgusting with germs and all manner of yech.)
then it isn't fair to demand his dog be excommunicated either. I also find it rather... disturbing... that you keep referencing the dog's mortality. It sounds like that dog should be sleeping with one eye open. O.O
You know, some people just aren't meant to be... issuing an ultimatum is going to all but guarantee that, for what it's worth. You just have to decide what you want, how miserable you *actually* are, as opposed to what is just drama, and how selfless vs. selfish you're willing to be to salvage your relationship... this whole 50/50 thing about relationships is pure horse puckey. There's going to be times when someone has to be willing to give 80% when the other person's giving only 20%, and vice-versa. Someone has to bend here, and this time I'm afraid it's going to have to be you. The next time, it might have to be him. That's love and that's life. Is it really that bad? o.O

In my experience rats are cleaner than dogs could ever hope to be.And the fact that would compare HUMAN children to a bottom feeding dumpster wolf shows how little you know about farm life and the mentality of a person who lives on one.
Most people who live/lived on farms treat animals like animals.I know the billion dollar pet industry wants people to think dogs are special angels put on earth by Jesus but truth is they are no different than any other animal.If you dont let a pig,cow or horse stink your house up why should a dog be allowed to?
That said some people cant handle human relationships and thus feel the need to anthropomorphize dogs.It would be best if she just dumped him and started dating men that prefer women over dogs.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My bf has a pit bull/mastiff mix. It wipes drool on the furniture, has peed on hus mattress a few times, when it chews bones it's mouth gets all foamy and drooly it's gross. And the shedding is crazy, more hair BC there's way more dog. I have 3 Chihuahuas and they all don't she'd nearly as much as that dog. The neighbors called the police bc of hus dog and now they call us when they want to go in their backyard BC his dog charges at the fence and nearly jumps it while barking his head off at them. His dog doesn't just lay down and relax, is always roaming and moving and sniffing things which usually leaves drool on everything. When my bf moved in he was supposed to have the dog neutered and trained which of course never happened. His dog has already pissed all over my couch, the floors and pissed down the side of my son's bed twice. But I allowed the dog in my home as long as a partition wall was built in the back addition of the house and all of the dogs ended up staying back there and have access to the backyard BC we installed a larger dog door to accommodate his dog. Even with that his dog keeps jumping the wall and scratching the wall and door we installed. So we had to stack a bunch of boxes up on the partition wall and block the door BC the dog pushes it backwards nearly breaking it off the hinges. He has no training and is too hyper and whiney. We have all stepped in his dog's sh*t, big huge nasty piles all over. My dogs leave small tootsie rolls and even if we stepped on one it wouldn't make such a smushy mess. With his dog being here I have been the one cleaning up the "dog area" in the back room and I even bathed his dog once. But my dogs are so much easier. They require little exercise and just lay in their little beds. His dog won't sit still unless he has a bone to chew and we'll I've already mentioned the nasty mess from that. My bf doesn't even exercise his dog and has only walked it once during the 5 months they've been here and only BC I kept pushing the idea of us walking our dogs. I finally had enough and have let my dogs in the house more. I bathed all 3 of them and they each just lay in their little beds all quiet and calm or follow me around and just sit by my feet. It seems he doesn't realize the extra effort and time it takes when owning a large breed and all he cares about is that his dog should be in the house like mine do. Yup, I'm very annoyed as you can tell.

I absolutely love dogs too! I'm not a large breed person tho, as far as owning. Also didn't mention that he would leave me because of his dog. I'm sure if he did he still wouldn't walk it...

I can say that I'm in a similar situation... However I LOVE DOGS! Mainly big ones because small breeds tend to be nippy, yippy, pee everywhere, little-dog-syndrome, and I've just had too many bad experiences with little dogs. My boyfriend has an in-bred rat-terrier & jack-russell mix. I acknowledge that the dog could be trained out of these bad behaviors but he's still mean spirited with other animals and kids sometimes. I've liked one little dog a lot and he was a rat-terrier. Now in comparison to the other comments I've read my situation is relatively mild. The dog use to crap and pee quite often, he is always under foot, he tries to roll around in dead animals if given the opportunity, he is really mean to the cats (probably would kill them if he could because he kills other small animals), he barks at everything (so very annoying), he follows my boyfriend literally everywhere, if the boyfriend goes outside he whines like someone is stabbing him with a needle, he doesn't listen to any commands hardly... he understands his name, no, go lay down, and that's pretty much it. He had a HUGE flea problem which I finally solved. He tried to bite me because I was going to pick him up (this is when I liked him), he's tried to bite little kids before ( I don't care if they play rough if he was a big dog he would get put down for biting a kid. Just because he's small doesn't make it acceptable). Did I mention he ALWAYS needs to be around my boyfriend... and he stares...with eye contact for 5 minutes at a time. I've never been around a dog who tries to make eye contact like that. It's disturbing. He scratches and licks for attention. I get that some of my issues with the dog could be solved if my lazy boyfriend would train him.. and if his family (he lives at home) would stick to the rules when it comes to the dog. Like not giving him people food because it's REALLY bad for dogs and it encourages begging. NOT allowing him on the really nasty furniture..NOT allowing him to lick their dishes clean (disgusting), yelling at him when he barks at people while we wrestle or when he sees the cats or squirrels. Yes, I am a little prejudice when it comes to small dogs vs big dogs. I had a German Shepherd and I loved her dearly but she was treated like a DOG not a person. I slept on the floor by her for 5 years. Since she wasn't allowed upstairs I kind of moved into the basement so I could sleep next to her. When she couldn't go down the stairs anymore I'd sleep with her in the hallway every night I was up at my dad's (parents are divorced so they shared us kids 50-50). She wasn't allowed on furniture, she did not beg, she never bit anyone, she was nice to other animals (unless they were threatening), hell, she wouldn't harm a little mouse intentionally, just played with them gently. She was our guard dog and she would bark but she'd stop once we told her. Zena was always happy (I'd lay next to her outside whenever I could & cuddled her). I believe dogs should be well trained & well behaved. I loved her like my child but she was my DOG-child. I absolutely love my sister's dog (a doberman) she is well behaved also but super sweet and cuddly. My Aunt's dog (a Irish Setter/Golden mix) he is also well behaved. Pitbulls I've been around plenty and LOVE. I've had too many bad experiences with little dogs. I cannot stand this damn dog! He's the biggest wedge for my boyfriend and I right now. I know the things I could do to make it better & we've done some compromising. Like when we go downstairs, so he can't flipping stare, he has to go lay down somewhere where we aren't. It's more my doing that he's not allowed in my boyfriend's bed otherwise he changes the sheets if the dog so much as touches it. And I've been trying to make it so he isn't allowed on the furniture. His family doesn't cooperate. I understand that it's not my place to tell my boyfriend how to treat his dog....but it's so irritating. My boyfriend has to deal with my dislike for the thing and I have to deal with the bloody dog. I just wish that my boyfriend would give him to a better home because he's rarely home & he's too selfish to let go. Just wish the damn thing was out of my life! But I want my boyfriend in my life. Decisions decisions...yikes AH! Almost forgot! I tried being nice to the dog and that's when he tried to bite me. He tried it again and I slapped him (not hard enough to make him yelp) but with some force. Now I'm just mean to him so he avoids me. I don't pet him anymore unless he surprises me with good behavior (which is damn rare). If I catch him on the furniture he gets spanked. If he starts staring at me I go tap him on the nose and say no. Surprisingly he hasn't made a lot of eye contact anymore. yippeThe purpose of this was to vent.... It helped.

I am of the firm belief that some people just aren't built or equipped to handle canids nor should they ever own one... no matter how much they believe the contrary.
People who can't relate to dogs should just stick to cats... or fish.

You need to suck it up and put some effort.
He loves his dog.
His attachment to dogs is obviously far greater than any you have ever had that's why you dont understand.
My boyfriend got me a baby pitbull over a year ago. A few months later we moved in together because I couldn't keep him where I lived. We both love him to death.
We don't mind if he cuddles with us when we're cuddling because he is our baby. We feed him buy him toys and love him as much as we can because when I look in his eyes all we see is love for us. So it makes me sad to know your attitude towards the dog. And I'm sure it makes your boyfriend sad too.
Why does it bother you that he sleeps next to him on the floor?
Its never bothered me.
I think you're just jealous. You want all the attention to yourself

Not everyone likes every dog. I love dogs, but there is a few that I can say I strongly dislike. Just like you don't get along with every person. There is some dogs you wont get along with.

So do you and your boyfriend have insurance incase your "baby"decides to rip your face off?

Trust me, im in the same boat. My boyfriend had dogs from his previous relationship (ex wife) and when they split she refused to give him the dogs. 2.5 years later she calls him up and says she cant keep them anymore since she had a baby and had no time for them blah blah. This happened 3 months after we started dating and we hadnt moved in together yet so I had no choice in the matter. She shipped off the dogs and we drove 6 damn hours to get them. Worst f-ing day of my life. I has been two years of pretty much hell. I cant stand them. I hate how they need to be bu his side, glued to him 24/7 cuddled, snuggled in basically attache at all times. I tell him to keep them off the bed and he pushes me and pushes me and begs me to have " family time" with him and the dogs in the bed. I refuse. I get up and I go somewhere else. They must sleep on his side of the bed - on the floor but if I was a psychotic as he is with them he would sleep with them everynight. It seriously grosses me out. They must Get up when he gets up. Bark at absolutely nothing, lose their **** when people come to the door, lick obsessively, jump on furniture/me/him when uninvited. Must be on his lap if he is on the couch. His excuse "youre not 10 lbs you cant fit in my lap" he doesnt crate them when we go somewhere, they **** and **** on any carpet, we actually cannot even have rugs in ourhouse cause they Will ruin them. He spoils them by setting up puppy pads everywhere so they dont have to go outside or upstairs to **** ( they are 5,6 years old) but still do bussiness where they want. They NEVER pee outside anyways because he's too lazy to wak them they are also primadonnas and refuse to go outside in -5 degree weather.. Im pretty sure they have been walked 3 times this year because I also have no time or desire to take them. He doesn't give them regular baths I end up doing it because he doesnt think they ever stink. He doesn't brush their disgusting mouths and even lets them lick his mouth ALL THE TIME. He thinks im a horrible person and when he talks about his dogs like babies to others he has to point out I hate them. I do not hate them. I HATE their bad behavior and the fact that he allows them to do whatever they want. The Have pissed on my clothes but hes never sorry for that. He praises them for bad behaviors and thinks its cool to give them treats for growling. He constantly has to pick them up and coo at them and talk in a stupid baby voice. Calls them "baby" which personally I reserve for my lover not pets. Because they are always in same room he has to chirp and talk to them and make sure they're "ok" and comfortable at all times. They stare at me while I eat an sometimes have the balls to jump on tbe couch when im eating. Them for sitting and begging the whole f-ing time they get a treat when were done. He will never get rid of them I can only hope they die eventually and he can move on with me and our children - humans. I, was never a dog person in the first place but now I am even more turned off, to any pets for that matter.

I love my dog as if he was my son. Try to look at it from his perspective. How would you feel if he didn't like your children?
And I don't care if people say dogs are jot children, they're not, but a lot of us love them as if they were.

I actually think this post speaks volumes about YOUR character, much more so than the dog owner's. But that's none of my business... *whistles innocently, walks off.*

I thought I was going crazy but I guess I'm not! I'm pregnant his dog always annoyed me now it's even worse, she stinks she's always on the couch drooling so they are stained they stink my beautiful house never smells good she always wants to sleep on the bed under the covers And on top of all that every night she decides to pee and poop down stairs on either the door may or the hard wood floor! When she has her own doggy door to go outside! It's driving me crazy when I leave the house I have to shut all the bed room and bathroom doors because she'll use the bathroom in one of the rooms! I told my boyfriend let find her a new home he said "let's find your daughter a new home" wow

Understand that his dog is his daughter.

people who equate dogs to children i.e. "daughters" are SICK ... a dog does not have the cognitive capacity of a human being ... it loves unconditionally? A dog does not have the cognitive capacity of love ... it wants food, security, sleep and sex .... any action a dog takes are based on those 4 needs ... people who interpret dogs actions as other than those are severely misguided and when they place that "interpretation" of love from a dog over the love of a person they have crossed a sick, disgusting line ...

Get rid of the boyfriend. I can't stand people who put the life of a dog above that of a human.

I agree completely!!!!

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I thought I was going crazy but I guess I'm not! I'm pregnant his dog always annoyed me now it's even worse, she stinks she's always on the couch drooling so they are stained they stink my beautiful house never smells good she always wants to sleep on the bed under the covers And on top of all that every night she decides to pee and poop down stairs on either the door may or the hard wood floor! When she has her own doggy door to go outside! It's driving me crazy when I leave the house I have to shut all the bed room and bathroom doors because she'll use the bathroom in one of the rooms! I told my boyfriend let find her a new home he said "let's find your daughter a new home" wow

Well I'm not the onli one.
I got with my boyfriend a year ago and he has a 6 year old staffy! And my god it is beyond a joke! When it's left alone he will pee on the end rip the bedroom up to shreds, cry the house down if we leave him to go to the toilet. He runs away and then exactly 20mins later he is found in the same place everytime! This dog is well and truly taking my boyfriend for a ride and he cannot see it. We are getting to a point where we are talkin about gettin or own place and the first thing I told him was that dog is not coming with us! You need to put your foot dog coz at the end of the day it's a dog I have my own dog staffy x lab and all he does is lay and be lazy! So this attention seeking, jealous, spoilt, disobedient excuse for a dog has no excuse!!!!!!! Put ya foot down! Xx

Oh my God! Seriously...when I read your post, I was like...I could have written this!!!! I am dealing with the exact same issue, even the same kind of dog! Unfortunately, I have moved in with my boyfriend. If it were the other way around, that dog wouldn't just be banned from everywhere except a small section of the living room (as of now), but that big, disgusting, smelly, attention seeking, OCD scratching to get attention, pain in my *** dog would be out on the streets! I found this post because I was googling the possibility of having the heap of upholstered filfth, that my boyfriend likes to call the couch, professionally condemned so that he would have no choice but to get rid of it! The Damn dog is on it 24/7. I'm serious, the dog does nothing but lay on that couch all day and night long...biting/scratching/licking the point where I have to yell at him because it's interrupting conversation. This couch is absolutely disgusting, it smells terrible, and it's definitely an eye sore. I have a couch cover that I will put on it when we have company over, but it doesn't mask the stench radiating from the cushions, so I stopped bothering. The only bodies that even touch that Damn couch are the dog and my boyfriend, and it's making me sick. My boyfriend will lay on it with his dog and my first comments know you're not getting into bed with those clothes on right? I mean...gross! In my mind I'm screaming "Your *** needs to take a shower too!" I don't want to sleep in grimey, smelly dog hair that you tracked in the bed from layin with that mutt! Every time my boyfriend rides in my car, I investigate the passenger seat for hair. I've told him multiple times to use the rollie brush if he insists on petting that thing before we leave, yet I still sometimes find its hair woven into the passenger seat! Great, now I get to sit here and pick it out!!!! I'm so sick of righting the wrongs that this dog is creating in my life!!!! I am sooooo with you!


After reading some of your posts I am beside myself over so much hate for animals. It’s no wonder why so many dogs are killed (euthanized) everyday with the way some of you think, it makes me sad.
First, why would you even get into a relationship with someone who loves dogs when you do not? You clearly go into the relationship thinking that you are going to change the other person and if you do, good for you I guess. What it basically boils down to is that you just made someone that you claim to love get rid of, or in some cases kill(give away), a living being that they loved. BRAVO, and you feel proud of yourselves???

The sad part is that in most cases, the relationship will fail anyhow. For those of you actually wanting to do physical harm to the animal, all I have to say is thank God for animal cruelty laws. Dogs do think, they do love and they do get sad when given away. If you think that they don’t have feelings simply watch them when their owner comes home; the tail wagging, body wiggling and hoping around, it’s called excitement. They are excited to see their owner, its unbridled joy and it’s something that their owners LOVE as well. Dogs unlike people do not fake their emotions, if a dog does not like you, you will know it. If you don’t like their behavior, train them, (like children) do not inherently know how to behave, they must be taught in order for them to know what is expected of them.

That being said, I am able to see some of the points being made here. Peeing and pooping all over the house is a behavior issue, the animal needs to be trained. Rather than talk to your BF about getting rid of the dog why not talk to him about going to training together? ** Another person wrote about a dog biting their son, and the BF blaming it on the son. There are so many things wrong on so many levels with that situation, first and granted I am not a mother, but I would not continue to put any child in that type of a situation. Second as a dog owner and lover, if my animal was continuing to attack someone I would not allow the animal to be around them unleashed and furthermore you have no idea when or if the dog will progress to a full on attack. How would either of you feel if that dogs maims your son or worse kills him? ** Other people write about how the animals are given so much love and it makes them sick or about how they would like to kill the animal, news flash, there will be another animal eventually.

What you guys don’t understand it that a dog gives you something that you can’t get from people, its absolute acceptance, love and attention. They don’t judge you, they listen without censure, and they love. If I am watching a sad movie, and my dog sees me crying, she will come over and try to comfort me. If I have had a bad day I walk in the door and her excitement at seeing me suddenly makes it better. If I am pissed off, she knows to stay away for a bit and then come to get me out of my bad mood. The saying goes that a dog is the only thing on Earth that loves you more than it loves itself. And it’s absolutely true!

So for all the dog lovers that happen to visit this site, I will leave you with this.


From time to time, people tell me, "lighten up, it's just a dog,"
or "that's a lot of money for just a dog."
They don't understand the distance travelled, the time spent,
or the costs involved for "just a dog."

Some of my proudest moments have come about with "just a dog."
Many hours have passed and my only company was "just a dog,"
but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by
"just a dog," and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch
of "just a dog" gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it's "just a dog," then you probably understand
phrases like "just a friend," "just a sunrise," or "just a promise."

"Just a dog" brings into my life the very essence of friendship,
trust, and pure unbridled joy. "Just a dog" brings out the compassion
and patience that make me a better person.

Because of "just a dog" I will rise early, take long walks and look
longingly to the future.

So for me and folks like me, it's not "just a dog"
but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future,
the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.
"Just a dog" brings out what's good in me and diverts my thoughts
away from myself and the worries of the day.

I hope that someday they can understand that its' not "just a dog"
but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being
"just a man" or "just a woman."

So the next time you hear the phrase "just a dog,"
just smile, because they "just don't understand."

I agree wholeheartedly with you. There are some pathetic excuses for dog owners here, either they have no idea how to properly care for a dog, or just don't give a **** enough to learn... but I have had dogs my entire life and have NEVER had the problems described here. Keep your dog clean (it's an every day thing folks, just like a kid) keep its linens and toys clean and your house won't smell at all. I've also never had a dog that I couldn't train. Never. But then again, I invested time and care into their training and did it consistently. Some people don't seem to understand that dogs aren't *magic*... they don't learn everything all by themselves because.. JUJU! ...or something else all mystical and wizardly. If you don't teach them you can't expect them to just know what you want from them. If that's your mentality then you're probably better off with a house plant... preferably a plastic one.

Its a deformed wolf created by humans sweetie.Dogs dont understand love or anything close to it...they understand food and humping.Its sad that the human race has failed you in a way that leaves you clinging to a mindless animal that only cares for its own survival.As for dogs being euthanized...who cares?I dont condone animal abuse but the ecosystem wont collapse if every dog dropped dead tonight.In fact it would probably help our waterways which have been polluted to all hell and back by the 10 million tons of feces produced by the 78 million dogs in the US.
Dogs are tools created by and for humans but they are needed less and less thanks to technology.
And before you say I dont understand dogs I'll have you know I owned 2 in my lifetime.They lived into old age(17 for the shih zu and 14 for the lab mix)and were treated well but I still had sense enough to know they were dogs and nothing more.

I like dogs but they do belong outside! They stink, they whine, they bark randomly for no reason, they poop and pee in your home and all over carpets, they shed pounds of hair, they rip up, shred and destroy things, and generally just make your home/apt smell and look like crap! Sure they are lovable and loyal but they also have too many negative traits. Dogs can do just fine outside, my dad has plenty of dogs he uses for hunting and they have a kennel in the back yard and are happy. They still get their walks and excercise. It's just less headaches overall. I'm sure not all these people really and truly hate dogs they, just like many others who have experienced undisciplined dogs who have been spoiled and not taught well get frustrated and fed up with it all! It's really stressful to deal with.

There's your problem: "undisciplined dogs who have been spoiled and not taught well."
Fix the owner, fix the dog.
But I get that some just can't handle dogs. I feel the same way about other people's children.

I'm so happy to see this thread and be able to share my situation. Ok..I am recently married. I moved here to a dif state, left my gov job, apartment, dog, friends and family to move here where my husband has a town home, which we plan to stay in for a few years, sell and move back to where I'm from - our agreement (and btw I do not and will not accept a dog that untrained in a home we buy together in the future). (My dog lives w/my parents now.) I was going to bring him, but decided to leave him there - I was concerned about the huge change of bringing him here especially w/my husband's territorial chihuahua (I have a beautiful and sweet papillon.). Ok, so I knew about the dog before I came and that he loved it very much (a rescue he's had for 7 years or so, and which is more or less like his companion animal. My husband used to bring him everywhere all the time w/him. We've since gotten a new clean car, but his last car was absolutely covered and full of dog hair - even the car salesman when we went for some maintenance remarked to me about how much hair was in the old car from the dog. Since I've gotten here and when before I visited, I told him the dog doesn't need to come everywhere with us. I mean like he would bring the dog around with him everywhere, winter, summer, and seriously when he would get out, leave the car ON with the heat/AC on, while he went in to the grocery store or what have you.). He told me that the dog has an issue w/using the bathroom in the house, and I figured it sounded like an occasional accident (it happens) - I guess I didn't realize the extent of the problem. I guess he hadn't been honest with me about it and is still in denial about it.So, we move me across country, from CO to CT! I make rules w/him before I came, the dog cannot sleep in the bed anymore (He let him sleep under the covers, gross, hair everywhere, and the dog sheds.) Also, this isn't a miniature chihuahua, he's like 12lbs. Also, I said no to him being on furniture or even in the bedroom are not allowed unless we specifically invite the dog up. Those rules were agreed upon by us both, and he's been enforcing them w/me, atleast when I'm around. I believe dogs need to have respect and boundaries, which this dog didn't have, and obviously rcvd a HUGE wake-up call. Now, when I got here, the entire upstairs wreaked of ****. My husband had his neighbor watch the dog while he was gone, dog sitting him, and he claims she would leave him in the house during the day (dishonestly), and so he had free rain of the house to **** and scratch up the entry and garage door - the garage door seriously has to be replaced and the wood trim around it), which explained all the **** and door damage when we got here. So, I demanded it be taken care of, and we had professional carpet cleaners come and clean the areas, TWICE! We've done a bunch of other cleaning to where the dog has pissed on furniture - cleaning it all w/bleach and water and enzymes and sprays to get the smell and stench of **** out of the house.) It makes me sick, honestly.Everyday there is sh** and **** in the house from the dog. I even help w/taking the dog out first thing in the morning and consecutively 3-4+ more x/day. I don't have a job yet, so I am here w/him everyday, and I have to watch him like a hawk, and it's like my whole day revolves around the dog. I'm trying to get settled myself and organized, so I can start looking for a job. The dog is still peeing and pooping. I got up yesterday morning and my husband was in our second room w/the dog, I had some of my pants draped over a box of books of mine. I pick them up and feel they are wet, and the dog had pissed all over my pants! Now, you can't tell me that wasn't on purpose. So I said, that's it, he's not allowed upstairs anymore especially since that's largely the area we paid to get cleaned.So, we kept him in the kitchen last night w/a gate - he barked loudly all night. My husband told me this morning the dog got out last night, apparently climbed the gate and that he had taken a sh** after he got out. So I get up this morning (my husband actually took the dog w/him to work today - dog will be in car all day!) I come downstairs to set-up my laptop at the table to continue my job search, and guess where I find **** where we paid hundreds to get the carpets clean!? It is clear this is just what the dog does, unless he's closely watched all the time, and I just don't feel that responsibility needs to be put on me. My husband created the dog's ways, out of laziness honestly. (He even told me he "gave-up" on house training the dog.) Basically, he accepted that this is how the dog is, until I came and started setting boundaries, which the dog clearly doesn't like. My husband has suggested he get rid of the dog, and I was a bit shocked. I could care less if I ever saw the dog again at this point, but I don't want my husband to resent me, yet, if we keep the dog and the ******* and messing continues , which it will, I feel it will ruin our marriage - it's already starting to. I never imagined this would happen to me, being an animal lover, but I guess with my dog, he is much more elegant and smart, and well, mine. Not really sure what to do, but is it fair to tell someone it's me or the dog?

Are you freaking MAD?!
Your husband, without prompting; offers to give up this monster of a dog and you're if-ing and butting?! Do you know how many relationships breakup because the dog obsessed partner refuses to give up their dog for their spouse?!!! WTH?!
Do I really have to tell you to get rid of the F***king mutt?! Its a piece of **** and its ruining your marriage!

I wasn't even married yet and I told my partner its me or your ******* of a dog and thank god he chose me! Its been just over a year and we're even happier than before. No dog; no shedding, no barking, no ****, no sh*t, no scratching, no licking, no stench, no whining. Dog-free life is fabulous! Does he miss his dog? Sometimes he does but he told me he doesn't miss being a dog owner.
Get rid of the f*8#king mutt!

Thanks for your reply! Well, things are looking-up. We actually still have the dog, and with a little patience and training, he's behaving! I'm an animal lover, so I understand the bond we can have with an animal. I told my husband we should keep the dog, especially since I had to leave my dog back home. No reason to be hostile with it because it was getting me nowhere. Best of luck.

You do realize that his behavior is a reflection of your hubands training? Nome of it is his fault. And the fact that he isn't yours isn't an excuse not to like him.

You guys sound like awful human beings. I hope none of you ever own animals or have kids. Absolutely no compassion for living creatures. Step up and tell your guy that he needs to pick up after his pooch, everything else is you whining. Hopefully your BF, if he still is, finds someone else that can deal with animals better then you.

My adopted step-father LOVES his four dogs; I have grown to love them as well. Problem is, there is little to almost no personal boundaries between the four dogs and our family; so our entire lives revolve around dogs 24/7.

Some of us are introverted, and some of us are extroverted. It does not mean we detest human interaction or we detest solitude ; we just have unique ways of interpersonal interactions.

Same with dogs: Some love dogs outside, some love them inside, and some both!

Hope you have a blessed day friend!

Your Friend,


Go kill yourself. Seriously.

Thank you. It always baffles me that so many (what's a nicer way to say idiot?) blame the dog when they're clearly the problem. And yes, if you people think that a dog's behavior has nothing to do with the way it's trained (or not trained as is the case with 100% of these stories) and a dog is just born "bad" or a "monster," then you are extremely dense and not winning any MENSA awards any time soon. Sorry.

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I just came out of relationship which fell apart because of my ex's Dog... My relationship started out great for the first 6months in every possible way... We spent amazing times together, went away on road trips, dates and shared special moments with each other. We both owned our own houses and lived alone. We spent an equal amount of time respectively staying the night at each others houses during the weekend and on weekends which was great! One of the perks of owning your own place :) She originally had a dog she shared with her mum so she only looked after it some weekends, however sadly it past away about 6months into our relationship due to old age. Fast forward 2months and she decided she was going to buy a new dog, which at first I had no problems with and I was happy for her and supported 100% like any great partner would and even agreed on the one she choose in the end. Once she got the dog however she was unable to come over and stay over at my house anymore which I thought might only be for awhile so she could let her new dog settle down (which was a rescue home adult dog not a pup). After a few months I brought up on several occasions that I missed having her staying over at my house and to be quite honest was also getting tired of having to drive over all the time when we wanted to see each other and you can imagine the cost of fuel... (are houses are about 25mins away) I myself own an indoor Cat which Im fine leaving overnight everynow and then if I leave out food/water out my cat is fine on his own overnight, but for 3/4days a week for a 5 months just didnt seem right on my cat and it would of keep going on... I told my GF all of this and she told me that she would start coming to mine on weekends if I got her dog a kennel and some shade which I did... 3months past and yet nothing happened, she never followed through with her actions... She said dogs belong inside and not outside and that dogs are like humans and cats arent etc etc... However being myself and living in a small house with no where for my own cat to escape is why I didnt want her dog inside, you just cant get a cat/dog to get along for a few days a week they need to be around each other all the time... not to mention the damage her dog had done to her own house keeping it inside. I started becoming more and more unhappy with her when I saw her because she didnt grasp or appreciate the effort I was putting in to see her and she could see it in me... simply because she just wasn't compromising for me and I had felt like I wasn't a priority to her anymore, I felt like I had been replaced by a DOG! Last week after 5months of her owning her Dog i told her I was unhappy with our relationship and decided that it was time to end it after multiple talks with her on this issue she just didnt follow through...

Sometimes i wish i read this thread before agreeging for her to get a new dog... I remember reading this a few months prior to our break up and realised I was not alone... Just dont get how stupid some people are with pets and making them a priority over their partner and denying it. She even questioned whether id be a good father to children one day as I slapped her dog on the head, after it bit me in leg numerous times... Silly silly woman. Time to find a non pedastal pet partner :)

My sincerest sympathies your ex gf made you feel bad. It is truly a sad testimony imho for the Western world; we have replaced our interpersonal love for fellow humans towards our pets.

It's sad some people prefer pets over their brothers and sisters in humanity! So sorry about your relationship loss;best wishes in your quest for true love!

You must be young. Go out into the world for 20+ years and tell me how wonderful all of humanity is. All I know for sure is that I have never met the dog that has murdered, abused, cheated, lied, stole from the poor to pad the pockets of the filthy rich, started wars, committed genocides, or hurt someone simply because they LIKED it and could. Humans are the worst species to have ever existed. Some do good, sure, but the ones with a great capacity for evil outnumber them 100 to 1. I will never refer to a human as an animal as I feel it's an insult to the animals. This world is as wicked as it's ever been and is only going to get worse. Mark my words, you stand a better chance with the animals. God, now I have to get out of here before you people make my head implode.

Move out. Same problem with my boyfriend. Same spoiling and not realizing a dog is a dog is an animal that's outside. I'm moving. I hate these dogs. I used to work for the ASPCA and I'm saying, I hate my boyfriends effing dogs. So get out. It'll only get worse till she dies or he gets his head out of his ***.

As my father once said, "Shoot the damn mutt!" Animals don't belong in the house. Now, I'm sure there will be many dog lovers who will want to shoot me. So be it. That is just the way I feel.

Story of my life, girlfriend. Don't make the mistake I did and end up letting yourself take care of the dog. Let your boyfriend keep all the responsibility for that.

Can I just say EVERY SINGLE WORD you wrote here is EXACTLY what I am going through!!! He moved in with me and my children. I didn't have pets because I don't like them and stink. The dog had to be let on all furniture. I said no bed and I have to hear crap about that ALL THE TIME!! She begs and sniffs and farts and scratches and poops and pees and chews up ONLY MINE AND MY KIDS STUFF not the boyfriends. And he also refers to her as his child and says he would never give her up. Ive done some serious thinking about getting rid of him so she will be gone. And that is horrible because I love him, but I cant take much more.

I love my boyfriend. But his dog is causing me to resent him, and hate where I live. This is MY HOME TOO. I'm 8 months pregnant. Expecting a baby boy in September. And this dog runs my ******* life. First off its spoiled as ****. Before we got together the dog slept on the bed with him, and was on the furniture, and had his own "spot" that you couldn't sit on because it's his. The whole house was ENVELOPED in his smell and no matter how much you bathe him, he still smells. He is a miniature dachshund. 7 years old. And everytime dinner was made he had to have his own little plate!!!! I couldn't believe this. I have a kitten and I love her so much, but she NEVER gets human food and is still a cat, not treated like a human.. shedding doesn't bother me at all, it's annoying but I love animals so it's something you get over. The dog is also mean, aggressive. Never once towards me, but he has bitten his owner 5 times total, and 4 within the last year!!! Again I'm eight months pregnant and expected to bring a child in the house with an unstable dog?! I can't even have people over because he NEVER STOPS BARKING!! I'm like one incident away from having a meltdown. So I always get **** for not letting him on our furniture but when he gets overworked or too excited he dribbles! Gross I don't want to sit on that! So we moved into a extremely nice town home and he isn't allowed on any furniture. Nor do I feed him human food. He wouldn't even eat his normal dog food at first! So I had to do things like put a little browned hamburger grease in there which is healthy to do every now and again anyways for skin and coat. But it was ridiculous. And GOD FORBID we dont have dog treats in the house so he can have one EVERY TIME he goes outside. How unhealthy first, and spoil him more yeah that'll fix his attitude... -.- and if we don't have dog treats well I guess that means he MUST have human food or he'll be depressed :( *gag* and I can't throw away his toys that he just destroys because he gets worked up, no, I have to live with pieces of plastic/rubber chewed up EVERY WHERE. and EVERY TIME we're at the store he has to have a new toy.... to destroy in five minutes. I can't even bring in groceries by the dog cuz hell dig through every single one to find a toy. I love my boyfriend but I can't do this much longer. And the dog is still acting out, but it's never his fault, it's always something my boyfriend "shouldn't have done" or "should have done" god please help me. I'm bringing A CHILD into this house... and 'keeping them separate' will just never work. But does this make me unfair for not giving the dog a chance or for not being understanding? Am I crazy? Horrible person? I'm going insane....

First of all, why did you get pregnant with the child of someone that has a dog you don't like?
What did you expect him to give up his dog for you?
I can tell you for sure the dog doesn't whine like you do. And one thing you can never give that the dog can is unconditional love.
You just sound like Cinderellas bitter step mom.

I'm pretty sure your kids aren't 100% well-behaved.
What if your boyfriend was writing on blogs about how he can't stand your kids? How would you feel?
You just don't understand a bond one can have with a dog.

Hi. I have a 2 year old collie mix rescue and I love him. My parents and siblings don't understand why I am attached to my dog. The reason I'm so attached is because I have always felt alone and I never had friends so my dog was my friend. I know that sounds pathetic but thats how I feel. My dog does shed alot and i sweep and brush him everyday. I understand what some of you are saying i just dont respect how your saying it. I believe in setting boundaries. I love my dog but I don't treat it as a human. My dog is a indoor dog with BOUNDARIES he is not allowed on furniture, i.e the couch,chair etc. He is allowed in my bed though because I like the warmth he gives off. He is not allowed in anyones room or the kitchen/dining area and we have doggy gates to help prevent that. He does have a doggy crate because i don't want him destroying anything or pooping when I'm not at home, even though he is really good at holding it til I'm back. If someone comes over and they are afraid of dogs or they have a child that is I will put my dog either behind a doggy gate or in his crate because I am respectful of someones feelings. I could never be with a person who doesnt love dogs or share my same beliefs about dog boundaries. Im not mad at what people are saying because most have valid points I'm mad at how rude and disrespectful people are being to both animals and animal lovers. I'm not some crazy dog lady that has poop and pee everywhere. I mop everyday regardless of whether or not my dog has an accident. Hoping a dog dies because you don't like them is cruel. And to the people talking about how horrible pits are maybe its how they were brought up. I have had pits all my life and I always had them as a puppies. And they are loyal respectful animals. My pits NEVER attacked anyone, animals or humans. They were the best of companions.

Yes sir/ma'am, it is sad people wish ill on their animal and human brethren. People lack empathy these days...

I hate dogs. They are a waste of space. I love cats. My husband has a dog. She just turned 6 and I am counting down the days until she dies. I hope it's soon. I look at her and want to kill her. I basically just ignore her. I let her out and feed her, but that's it. I have tried to like her, but everything about her annoys me. At least she knows how I feel and leaves me alone. She stays on the first floor of our house and the cats avoid her too. Ugh. Makes me so mad she exists. I wish my husband and I would have met before he got her...there would be no dog if that were the case.

While you dog of dogs filth, read about your so clean of a pet cat. Cats are absolutely worthless. They do not care about you? They only care about themselves lol they are a completely independent animal. Punish a dog and he'll love you two seconds after. A cat would want nothing to do with you haha plus if there so clean.. I guess it would make it okay if your husband went outside and trampled in feces and urine sandy chunks and then jumped on your lap and pawing at your dog hating face. Your just another person who has no idea what they appreciate in life and to wish death upon a dog who has no choice but to live with you two.. I honestly would hope your husband seen this, left you and your cat loving self, and found a woman that would love him unconditionally without posting a status about how she hates his dog.. obviously your husband loves the dog.. a little more than you, especially if your the one posting statuses and the dog is living it up.. enjoy.


If you can start the day without caffeine,
If you can get going without pep pills,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,
If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time,
If you can overlook it when something goes wrong through no fault of yours and those you love take it out on you,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,
If you can ignore a friend’s limited education and never correct him,
If you can resist treating a rich friend better than a poor friend,
If you can face the world without lies and deceit,
If you can conquer tension without medical help,
If you can relax without liquor,
If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,
If you can say honestly that deep in your heart you have no prejudice against creed, colour, religion or politics,
Then, you are almost as good as your dog.

Story of my life! My husband got a pug as a result of a previous relationship and kept it after that ended. Can't stand the dog. I can't wait until he croaks. Most annoying thing EVER.

And at least with cats, they take care of themselves and show affection when they want to...not ALL the dang time begging for it like dogs do.

You're just jealous because it reminds you of his previous relationship.
That poor pup, its stuck with you.
I will tell you this though..
Pets are forever companions, partners come and go.
You can get replaced easily honey.

You are a selfish person.
I hope your husband finds this post by some miracle so he can see the selfish cruel person he is married to.
And sorry to burst your bubble, but cats don't love their owners.

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I've been dating my bf for 2 years and I'm at the end of my rope with his dog.
Now look...I love dogs. Love. I love animals in general. Like they turn me into a baby-talking weirdo that doesn't mind their smell and getting covered in fur.
This is the ONLY animal I have ever hated. And I do hate her.
She's a pomeranian that's around 11 years old and shes his baby.
He's a truck driver so after we'd been dating awhile I took over the care of the dog and house while he's on the road. Keep in mind now I do not live with him so I do this just to be a help.
On to the dog. I work so I get there to let her out whenever I can...always at least twice a day: morning and evening. But she STILL pees and poops all over the floor. It started out all over the carpet so I lock her in the kitchen. That kitchen gets literally covered in waste every day. To the point that I know its not just that she cant hold it. Its disgusting but I have to clean it up. She snarls at and tries to bite me, she doesnt listen, she runs from me....shes horrible. To top it off, he doesnt get it. Somehow I'M the bad guy. If she pees and poops all over the floor, it must be cause I didnt get there enough. If she bites me I mustve done something.
And when hes home...ugh. She quits the peeing and pooping but its almost worse because shes always up his butt. God forbid he touches me...the dog will sit on the floor staring at him and make this grating sniff noise every couple seconds until he stops touching me and picks her up to pet her. She tries to lay between us in bed....she wants to be taken outside every 5 minutes then barks to come in the second shes out there.
I had to yell at my bf for coming home and not saying a word to me but instead picking up the dog and loving on her for like 10 minutes.
All this...and he thinks Im unreasonable.
I want the dog to die.

channel that anger into something positive cause likely its not the dog its you, be the Alpha and then she will respect you

You're just a jealous selfish woman.
When my boyfriend loves our dog it makes me happy because I know how much our dog loves us.
And as for the behavior, its all a result of being alone all the time. If neither of you has time for the pup, give it to someone who does.

Actually it sounds like she may be a bit scares of you. Dogs will urinate and defecate when frightened, the growling is their way of saying, stay back you big scary thing, which if that doesn't work they will resort to biting or if she can, will run from you.

so after reading alot of these posts im utterly disgusted that this is how most of you think. As a single male who has a beautiful 12 month old german shepherd my responce to anyone who told me they hated my dog or issued an ultimatium of them or my dog would find themselves outside the house so fast.

Alot of reasonable steps seem to have been asked and taken - not allowed on the furniture not allowed on the bed.

It seems your boyfriend has compromised and yet you want more and more.

Dogs are smart intelligent animals it senses your hate and is most likely responding in kind. How about you grow up a tad recognize it for a living loving creature with needs and ajust your attitude.

i wonder what the dog thinks of your farts and smell and when your hair falls out..... as she thrown a fit about it?

A dog wouldn't throw a fit about that, now would they? But when a dog does have a problem with something, you bet your bottom dollar you'll know about it. Say you got a cat and the dog didn't like it, would you say the dog was heartless or insensitive to the cats needs? No because their animals. Not humans. My boyfriend has a German shepherd that I absolutely hate. Would you rather the dog be around someone who can sense my hatred or someone who loves him, a place where he can run, not an apt all day. And before you say my boyfriend should leave me and keep the dog. We have a baby together and I'm not gonna let an animal tear us apart.

First off, and trust me I say what I please.. anyone who lets a dog ruin there lives is pathetic. Anyone who complains about a dog is pathetic. Specially that the dog is stealing your bf? Uhm maybe your a little more unsatisfying then you should be then.. just saying. A dog does not choose who to live with? But will love who its with..if you show weakness in a relationship, have your best friend around, there going to point it out too! Dogs read emotions much better than we can. And I really cannot stand that I'm even writing this much either.. if your husband/bf wants a dog. Then why call him either one? Didnt complain about it in the first place? Then shut the h*ll up, seriously. Grow up or let your children turn out to be just as miserable and sad as you are.. quit complaining, love your man and quit COMPLAINING. Too easy.

This Is all so frustrating to me.
Me and my boyfriend fight(not literally) for our dogs affection. I don't understand why everyone can't be like that. If your partner loves the dog, and you live your partner it shouldn't be that hard for them to live the dog too.

Correction, you're the one tearing your relationship apart.
How could you hate a dog? I'm sure it has never done anything to you. And news flash, the dog is stuck with you.
You sound like you have daddy issues and want your boyfriends attention all to yourself.

I wonder why it is ok for people to not want children and not want them around but for some reason if we don't like having dogs (animals) put before us in our relationship we are horrible people?? Honestly I think that the only people who put dogs up there with humans are people that have problems relating and connecting with real human people.

I prefer to socialize exclusively with my own species.

I think you all are mistaking the whole thing.
Its not putting the dog before you. Its not putting the dog behind you. That dog has loved its owner unconditionally and here you come whining about it and even trying tibget rid of the dog?
No. Compromise. Put effort. Or leave.

Because people who don't like kids are smart enough not to date someone who has them. plain and simple.

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how can I start..I have been married to my second husband for eight years now.. be has several cats.. which when we first got together he got two more kittens.. these kittens took over him... the couch.. my time with him.. when we sit on couch both of them in his arms a couple of them beside him I had to tell him I felt kind of silly to be jealous over cats. but I was.. ugh.. he cared for them. petted them.. spoke so softly to them.. hell yes it bothered me.. he was not giving me that attention and he thought I was nuts... ok so I get a boxer.. we separate.. due to his abuse. emotionally and physically... we try dating again.. he falls in love with my boxer.. ok I'm cool with that.. she loves me to.. we lost her.. car accident. worst day off Jason's life..I lost my son in car accident year before.. so that was my worst day.. the day I saw Jason lose it after losing our boxer it concerned me a little. here I just lost my son and Jason didn't have this emotion.. bringing us to now.. Jason has rescued a pit boxer mix .. we are still separated.. we see each other.. very complicated... he brings her over.. our when I come visit there is no place for me she sits on his lap. all 90 lbs we can't sit next to each other.. I'm sorry but why why why does he give his animals all this attention and can't figure out how to give me any.. very worried.. that I can't deal with this anymore... any suggestions...I think he needs to give his animals boundaries.

There is something emotionally twisted/wrong/broken when a human prefers to love a species other than their own.

No there isn't.
A dog will never cheat on you or do you wrong in any way. Some humans wouldn't even think twice about it.

you are right, there is something emotionally twisted/wrong/broken with a human that doesn't have the ability to allow another person to care for an animal.

Omg I love this story I thought I was alone. My bf lives with 4 pets which includes a huge hairy dog. At least your bf washes his dogs, my bf dogs and cats smell and they shed everywhere. They sleep in the bed , under the sheets in the kitchen , pretty much any where they please. I hate how every inch of the house is covered in hair. Even after I wash all they sheets and covers they are still drenched in hair! I feel like I'm eating hair 24/7. I love him so much I just hate that these animals are pretty much his siblings. Thank you for this blog I'm glad I'm not alone and I'm not the only one who is grossed out by dogs.

Wow. Now that i have read these stories I can relate. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 20. I have known him for over a year and we have been together for 9 months. At the very beginning he decided to buy a frickin dober..a huuge dog (I like small dogs but horse sized not). At the beginning I basically did not give a ****..we were just dating ...but now??? He finds it difficult to spend money on him or us ( you can easily count on your fingers the times we ate dinner somewhere + for a 20 yr old he does have more than enough money) ..yet he spends likeee 70 dollars on dog food a month. So not only he has to waste his money on this dog but his parents cooonstantly bug him to walk and take care of the dog (theyre pet lovers). For me it's as if they are treating HIS dog like it's his kid or his wife. He tried to sell the dog bit they would not let him...ughhh It is really annoying
I mean.. i know he loves me but I really miss dining out and new things which obviously...cost money. I am still a student and I do pay sometimes for small things but it all depends on him at the end of the day

If you want to go and eat out that bad get a damn job and pay for it yourself don't blame the dog.
70 dollars a month isn't expensive either.

I am in a simular situation... Except I too have a dog, I have a small toy Pomeranian and believe it or not she hardly sheds and never barks. She is the perfect, never-do-wrong animal lol. However, my fiance also has a dog, and he is a pitbull mix... he is a big dog. We now live together with both of our dogs in our tiny apartment. My pom just sits in my lap and you honestly never notice shes there, but his dog constantly is whining, barking, getting on the furniture, getting on MY BED that I paid big bucks for in Hawaii and its frustrating me! He is destroying my stuff! He never listens and every time I walk in the door he jumps on me with excitement and one time knocked me over! When I play fetch with my little dog, sometimes he will get so excited he will start chasing her, and one time he jumped on her (thankfully just landed on her tail) but it makes me so nervous so now I can't play fetch with my little dog while he is in the room. Also even though I am trying to train him not to get on the furniture ( he shed so unbearably bad), he continues to get back on it. He is so spoiled! I don't know what to do. Every day I stack boxes now on the couches so now we can't even sit on them unless we move the boxes out of the way. I keep asking my fiance to please buy him a dog bed but its not one of his priorities right now... cuz he needs to buy a car. OMG!!! I am going insane. This dog is ruining our relationship because we constantly fight about it! It is the only thing we fight about. I love dogs, have always had a dog, but his Pitbull drives me nuts. I just keep holding on to the hope that when we get a house it will be different, he stares out the window all day so he misses being outside all the time.. i just don't know what to do either...

Wow. The dog is being affectionate with you and you hate him?
Sounds like you have relationship issues that you need to fix instead of blaming the pup.

Umm since when do people not realize that pitbull translates to spoiled *** brat?

Anyone who understands the responsibility of owning ANY pet understands it is a commitment, for better or worse, til' death do you part. They do become your family. But, if an animal is a physical threat, contact resources for help. If a jealous significant other doesn't understand your bond, you obviously don't have the most important thing in common: depth of love, character or commitment. Problem solved. Find a more shallow person to pair with. Animal lovers have big hearts. People who abandon their animals are like people who abandon children. Heartless, inhumane, selfish, or mentally ill in some fashion. We, as intelligent human beings, are responsible for all dependent creatures that are smaller than ourselves. ie: Animals, children, the sick, weak and disabled, etc. I'm deeply disturbed with the immature, ignorant, inhumane, ill equipped things I've read on this post. It makes me embarrassed to be the same species as most on here. Grow up, move out, take proper care of your pets or don't get them at all. Save them the abuse and neglect from a lesser human specimen. Go to the vet, do research, sack up and teach your partner how to train and take responsibility. If you don't have the same hygiene or discipline, your pet is only the beginning of problems in your relationship. There is some severe abuse, neglect and respect issues going on here. From both parties in the relationship. Boundaries are vital. Proper training is vital in order to cohabitate. If you do not share the same views as to what is humane and what is appropriate as far as a household goes, or love and dedication, YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON. Grow up and stop hating animals for your shortcomings or your partners shortcomings. Their just like children, as successful/tolerable or as ignorant/pathetic/disgusting as their parents. It's all in the training. Some of the things on here confirm that some people should not have animals OR procreate. Shameful. Sad. Immature. Inferior human beings. Not all of you, some are correct as far as boundaries go, but others are just not evolved enough spiritually to have the capacity to love all things. If you can't figure out how to get along with and respect a little creature, how do you navigate through the rest of your life with complex people and situations? My guess is...NOT VERY WELL, if a little, dependent creature has BESTED you. Please, for the sake of all animals and people: Don't procreate! Just try to EVOLVE first, be kind, or the rest of us will consider how to get rid of YOU. Since you're an inconvenience to mature, intelligent, evolved, compassionate, humane, tolerable human beings. Yeah, that's right.....maybe the problem is you. Those who know they need some help won't be offended. If you're offended, YOU are what's lacking in his situation and society in general. Good luck (to the poor animals who are left near these people). God bless them, poor babies. God bless the people who need God on this site, to act more humane and grow a heart toward the small and weak. No wonder why I had so many foster animals and foster children. I'm busy cleaning up the mess left behind by sub-par people like some of you clearly are. Grow up to those who are self righteous and super self absorbed on here. I do feel for you as well though: because you're the dumb, stinky, difficult animal. God put YOU in this exact situation for a reason; to have the opportunity to evolve and become a better person. I'm a nurse and have worked in a nursing home before. FEAR MY WARNING: you will be an old, ugly, stinky, drooling, incontinent, unable person someday wheeling down the hall in a wheelchair with diarrhea dripping out your diaper, depending on the compassion of people. And you will reap what you sew. And rely on a nice person to take care of you. Especially, if you're an *******. Your family will drop your cold heart in a home and wait for you to die. God always plays a fair hand to everyone in the end. You always get what you give. I've seen it firsthand. The jerks die miserable and ALONE. The nice ones always have loved ones by their side. Are you kind? To all animals and people. Have you been fair in this situation? Be honest. That's the problem here.

This is a horribly judgmental comment. Especially coming from a loving compassionate nurse. Those things you said were horribly mean!

Those things needed to be said. Especially for the type of people on this post. (*Nurse & Teacher*btw) If the content of my post offends, it's probably because you're the offender.

Being a nurse and teacher doesn't give you the right to hold yourself higher than others and judge them.

Ma'am, you did say the ff: "Just try to EVOLVE first, be kind, or the rest of us will consider how to get rid of YOU."

Just what exactly is "..get rid of YOU." mean?! Incarceration? Forced relocation? Murder?

@mistylovesanimals - I am still shaking my head in disbelief with your comments. You are on a completely different unbalanced level than anyone on this board. I stumbled on the site because of my frustration with my husbands Boston Terrier (with whom I treat very kindly- as I do "anyone" or "anything" with a beating heart). She is an "animal", not a "human". As with ALL "animals", she requires food, shelter, care, and a reasonable amount of affection and warmth. We as humans do NOT have to "love" them, but we do need to be kind and humane to them. I could write as much as you did- but, I know it would be futile. To me, you sound to be someone who is on the far/extreme side of "Love for Animals"- to the point of making them equal to humans in "every" way. Your distain for your fellow "humans" while you throw "God" into your self righteous attitude is what is most disturbing. If you truly want to help, maybe you should be much kinder to those who have posted about this subject. You are so kind to animals, yet so mean and insulting and clearly evil tongued to humans. God word, "the Bible" say's that "We must love our neighbor as we do ourselves", "do unto others as we would have done unto us". That is the WARNING God gives to YOU! FEAR HIS WARNING! Be nice mistlovesanimals! You are very mean and inhumane. You can catch many more fly's with honey than you can with vinegar. Be honest with yourself. Take the rafter out of your own eye before you try taking the splinter out of another ones.

I agree, Misty has serious mental issues. She obviously lives in a home filled with hair, ****, ****, drool, with the house probably a mess, laundry never done, stains everyone. I can just picture it.Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

loves it!

You do realize this people were talking about killing the animals or then dying just to get rid of them?


You are honestly a joke. I am the most caring person you will find, plenty of compassion and will/have done anything for my friends and family. I like animals, don't love them. They are lower on the food chain and in life. But for those PETA lovers like you, you tend to think they are like people and need to be treated like people. There are two different sides to every story, but NO, not everyone should have to live with animals the way you prefer. My entire family is the same way, HAIR, ****, ****, THINGS CHEWED UP, THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS WASTED OVER AN IRRESPONSIBLE, WHITE TRASH LIVING HOME OWNER IS JUST GROSS. And oh, before you go on saying I am going to hell and I am not a good person, I do anything for everyone. If I see a poor animal on the side of the road I help it. ITS THE WAY YOU LIVE AND SOME PEOPLE ARE GROSSED OUT LIVING IN A NASTY *** SMELLING PLACE!!!!!!!!!! AND THEY ARE NOT WRONG BECAUSE OF IT. Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

Then why get into a relationship with someone who has a dog? Most of the posters here did.

This comment is coming from someone who cringes when they accidentally squishes an insect btw. I hated my partners dogs even though I'd had one myself before & that one was fine even though he'd been a lab dog for the 1st 7 years of his life. They were horribly spoiled & efforts I made at training them were undermined. Even then someone commented how much better they were behaving. Oh, yeah. My elderly relative got to live till 99yrs old in their own place before I became ill myself & had to stop. You can't judge people by what they say here. Nor should you judge those in YOUR care. Leave that to the God you're apparently so smug about. His job to judge not yours.

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Wow I am living in a similar situation with my bf and his boxer. I always loved dogs and had many of my own. But jesus when an animal is over stepping your personal bounderies on a daily basis is disgusting. We've have many fights over the dog and finally the dog sleeps on the floor on several blankets. Wakes me up every night whining to go outside but mever goes. Just a total pick *** I am so ******* fed up. But glad to know theres not just me! And as for you retarded, delusional people who think DOGS deserve to be treated like or better than a significant other you have serious mental ******* problems. Who the **** wants a big dirty, ignorant, germ/hair bag in their bed?? You're sick. Just turns me completely. Also have the eating problem. Doesnt matter if the pig of a dog ate all ******* day , whatever u got, he wants it. I'd even put whatever im havinh in his bowl and no ******* way will he go near it until he gets what he can get from your plate first. Now if thats not enough to get on a persons nerves theres somethinh wrong. One fight we had. My bf actually said, you dont like my dog
I just thought that was a low blow. Like **** how can ppl not see our side of it? You actually begin to feel below a ******* dog. And in NO way is any of this right. If it was then why are we all experiencing the same discomfort? Pretty bad ... so any of u dumb ******* think for one second anyone who is mentally stable to agree with any animal being treated like a human and sleeping in beds, good luck. Guess there is a lot of ppl out there who feel the way I do. I never would dislike any animal but after dealing with this bullshit from a big dumb dog really makes me hate the ******* germ bag!!!!!! Good luck everyone. I know I sure feel like I need some help. Honestly cruelty to animals?? No no no. Animals belong outside. More lile cruelty to humans and big time neglect to your GF / Bf

I'm seriously at my whitts end. Can't handle the stress of this dirty, arrogant dog. My bf treats him like a baby. The dog is very smart. When hes with me, I usually dont have any issies. He listens to me and knows not to beg for food or just be plain sooky. But as soon as my bf is home, the dog acts like a pure ******* sook. Even growled at me last night as I walked downstairs. Simply because he knows as long as im around he'll be getting the discipline he needs. Just drives me nuts. No one should ever have to deal with this kind of ****. I have to say though, since we talked about it, my bf has been better, set a few boundaries but I still dont agree with the way he treats him. The only reason why the dog is the way he is and feels the need to be jealous of me. A ******* human being. Time to set the dog straight and teach him to be the animal he is. You see, my bfs ex gf was the one who got him to get 3 dogs. She took two of them. But she raised them for the first year. To be a complete savage. She had the dirty muts in bed with her all the time. Then my bf was o his own for a while and got use to having his dog around him just like she did. Then I come along
.. idc what anyone thinks but when I found out just how much that dog got away with just made me sick to my stomach. Treat an animal like that and one day he will take over and prob turn on somebody because he thinks it's ok. Im just ao tired of the stress. It sure feela good to vent tho! If anyone has any tips for me on how I chnage this situation or even get rid of the dog it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening guys.

I have this same issue, the dog , when BF is away is a sweetheart, listens to every command, respects me and my needs, doesn't pull on the leash, but as soon as the BF comes home from extended work outings, the little POS, looks me right in the eye and does exactly what I have been spending months trying to get her to stop doing, and when I reprimand the dog in the BFs pressence, I get yelled at, and the dog just keeps on keepin on. It's causing so much stress!! gah