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I Love My Boyfriend....but Not His Dog

When I first started dating my boyfriend I didn't really mind the fact that he had dogs.  Dogs that lived in the house with him that is.  Don't get me wrong, I grew up always having a dog as the family pet, but our dog always lived outside and was never let in the house unless it was -40 out and he was freezing his *** off, even then he mostly got put in the shop.  My boyfriend has always had his dog in the house, on his couches, in his bedroom and yikes! in his bed.  Yes, you heard me, the dogs slept in the bed under the covers.  He would take them into the bathroom while he had a shower or bath.  They went in his car leaving hair and dirty windows and a smell only a dog lover wouldn't gag over.  

Well, I love my boyfriend and no dog is going to stop that.  So, he moves 450 miles just to come live with me so that we could be together.  Now that I am with the dog all the time, it is not something that I can tolerate after all.  The dog is not allowed in the bed, on the bed or on the couches and he agreed to that.  But my goodness, it makes me so mad to be cleaning up after the dog all the damn time.  Hair everywhere so I vacuum everyday.  The dog smells but because of her 'sensitive' skin she only gets bathed a couple times a month maximum.  She has to sleep in the bedroom on the floor beside him.  She farts, grinds her teeth, chews her toenails, makes noises while she sleeps and generally just annoys the hell out of me.  Then she gets to have a bone as a treat.  Some treat.  A rawhide bone that she chews and gnaws on until it is gone leaving behind a big pile of drool on the carpet.  Now tell me that doesn't add to the stink of the house.  

She is in the kitchen at meal time looking for something to eat.  Nosing around the table and bugging me and the kids.  I have since said that she is not allowed in the kitchen at mealtime anymore.  And the **** all over the lawn.  Okay, it is winter now so even nicer, yellow piles of snow everywhere and piles of ****....so much for my kids being able to play in the backyard.  We have to make sure things like teddy bears, socks, hair scrunchies, gloves, etc. are picked up and not just picked up, they have to be out of her reach or she will take them.  She has the run of the house and it is making me angry.  I wish she would just die sometimes actually most of the time now.  

My boyfriend seems to think that dogs rank up there with humans and deserve the same status, often making comments that she is like his kid.  Not me.  A dog is a dog.   They belong outside in my opinion, on the farm preferably.  Having grown up on the farm I am accustomed to going through dogs like wild fire.  You name it and it has happened, we probably had at least 10 different dogs by the time us kids were out of the house so I am not the type to get overly attached to pets.  Sure I like them, I will play with them but they live outside and if they die, well, we can always just get another one, it's that simple.

My boyfriends dog is not a little dog either, it is a pitbull.  She is a nice dog but still drives me crazy all the same.  I am at the end of my rope and have seriously considered having him get his own place so that I don't have to deal with it anymore.  Once she dies then we can resume living together but until then continue dating, living in separate households.  I did mention that we could make her an area in the heated garage, have a doggie door installed that gave her access to a dog run and not have the entire yard as her own.  He said no.  It would be too traumatic for her since she has been an indoor dog her whole life.  Hello? Is the garage not an indoor location?  Heated with her own couch and a rug on the floor so she can feel 'at home'.  What the hell am I gonna do?      

Bigmama36 Bigmama36 36-40, F 139 Responses Mar 21, 2010

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WOW!!!

After reading some of your posts I am beside myself over so much hate for animals. It’s no wonder why so many dogs are killed (euthanized) everyday with the way some of you think, it makes me sad.
First, why would you even get into a relationship with someone who loves dogs when you do not? You clearly go into the relationship thinking that you are going to change the other person and if you do, good for you I guess. What it basically boils down to is that you just made someone that you claim to love get rid of, or in some cases kill(give away), a living being that they loved. BRAVO, and you feel proud of yourselves???

The sad part is that in most cases, the relationship will fail anyhow. For those of you actually wanting to do physical harm to the animal, all I have to say is thank God for animal cruelty laws. Dogs do think, they do love and they do get sad when given away. If you think that they don’t have feelings simply watch them when their owner comes home; the tail wagging, body wiggling and hoping around, it’s called excitement. They are excited to see their owner, its unbridled joy and it’s something that their owners LOVE as well. Dogs unlike people do not fake their emotions, if a dog does not like you, you will know it. If you don’t like their behavior, train them, (like children) do not inherently know how to behave, they must be taught in order for them to know what is expected of them.

That being said, I am able to see some of the points being made here. Peeing and pooping all over the house is a behavior issue, the animal needs to be trained. Rather than talk to your BF about getting rid of the dog why not talk to him about going to training together? ** Another person wrote about a dog biting their son, and the BF blaming it on the son. There are so many things wrong on so many levels with that situation, first and granted I am not a mother, but I would not continue to put any child in that type of a situation. Second as a dog owner and lover, if my animal was continuing to attack someone I would not allow the animal to be around them unleashed and furthermore you have no idea when or if the dog will progress to a full on attack. How would either of you feel if that dogs maims your son or worse kills him? ** Other people write about how the animals are given so much love and it makes them sick or about how they would like to kill the animal, news flash, there will be another animal eventually.

What you guys don’t understand it that a dog gives you something that you can’t get from people, its absolute acceptance, love and attention. They don’t judge you, they listen without censure, and they love. If I am watching a sad movie, and my dog sees me crying, she will come over and try to comfort me. If I have had a bad day I walk in the door and her excitement at seeing me suddenly makes it better. If I am pissed off, she knows to stay away for a bit and then come to get me out of my bad mood. The saying goes that a dog is the only thing on Earth that loves you more than it loves itself. And it’s absolutely true!

So for all the dog lovers that happen to visit this site, I will leave you with this.

JUST A DOG

From time to time, people tell me, "lighten up, it's just a dog,"
or "that's a lot of money for just a dog."
They don't understand the distance travelled, the time spent,
or the costs involved for "just a dog."

Some of my proudest moments have come about with "just a dog."
Many hours have passed and my only company was "just a dog,"
but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by
"just a dog," and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch
of "just a dog" gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it's "just a dog," then you probably understand
phrases like "just a friend," "just a sunrise," or "just a promise."

"Just a dog" brings into my life the very essence of friendship,
trust, and pure unbridled joy. "Just a dog" brings out the compassion
and patience that make me a better person.

Because of "just a dog" I will rise early, take long walks and look
longingly to the future.

So for me and folks like me, it's not "just a dog"
but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future,
the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.
"Just a dog" brings out what's good in me and diverts my thoughts
away from myself and the worries of the day.

I hope that someday they can understand that its' not "just a dog"
but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being
"just a man" or "just a woman."

So the next time you hear the phrase "just a dog,"
just smile, because they "just don't understand."

I like dogs but they do belong outside! They stink, they whine, they bark randomly for no reason, they poop and pee in your home and all over carpets, they shed pounds of hair, they rip up, shred and destroy things, and generally just make your home/apt smell and look like crap! Sure they are lovable and loyal but they also have too many negative traits. Dogs can do just fine outside, my dad has plenty of dogs he uses for hunting and they have a kennel in the back yard and are happy. They still get their walks and excercise. It's just less headaches overall. I'm sure not all these people really and truly hate dogs they, just like many others who have experienced undisciplined dogs who have been spoiled and not taught well get frustrated and fed up with it all! It's really stressful to deal with.

I'm so happy to see this thread and be able to share my situation. Ok..I am recently married. I moved here to a dif state, left my gov job, apartment, dog, friends and family to move here where my husband has a town home, which we plan to stay in for a few years, sell and move back to where I'm from - our agreement (and btw I do not and will not accept a dog that untrained in a home we buy together in the future). (My dog lives w/my parents now.) I was going to bring him, but decided to leave him there - I was concerned about the huge change of bringing him here especially w/my husband's territorial chihuahua (I have a beautiful and sweet papillon.). Ok, so I knew about the dog before I came and that he loved it very much (a rescue he's had for 7 years or so, and which is more or less like his companion animal. My husband used to bring him everywhere all the time w/him. We've since gotten a new clean car, but his last car was absolutely covered and full of dog hair - even the car salesman when we went for some maintenance remarked to me about how much hair was in the old car from the dog. Since I've gotten here and when before I visited, I told him the dog doesn't need to come everywhere with us. I mean like he would bring the dog around with him everywhere, winter, summer, and seriously when he would get out, leave the car ON with the heat/AC on, while he went in to the grocery store or what have you.). He told me that the dog has an issue w/using the bathroom in the house, and I figured it sounded like an occasional accident (it happens) - I guess I didn't realize the extent of the problem. I guess he hadn't been honest with me about it and is still in denial about it.So, we move me across country, from CO to CT! I make rules w/him before I came, the dog cannot sleep in the bed anymore (He let him sleep under the covers, gross, hair everywhere, and the dog sheds.) Also, this isn't a miniature chihuahua, he's like 12lbs. Also, I said no to him being on furniture or even in the bedroom are not allowed unless we specifically invite the dog up. Those rules were agreed upon by us both, and he's been enforcing them w/me, atleast when I'm around. I believe dogs need to have respect and boundaries, which this dog didn't have, and obviously rcvd a HUGE wake-up call. Now, when I got here, the entire upstairs wreaked of ****. My husband had his neighbor watch the dog while he was gone, dog sitting him, and he claims she would leave him in the house during the day (dishonestly), and so he had free rain of the house to **** and scratch up the entry and garage door - the garage door seriously has to be replaced and the wood trim around it), which explained all the **** and door damage when we got here. So, I demanded it be taken care of, and we had professional carpet cleaners come and clean the areas, TWICE! We've done a bunch of other cleaning to where the dog has pissed on furniture - cleaning it all w/bleach and water and enzymes and sprays to get the smell and stench of **** out of the house.) It makes me sick, honestly.Everyday there is sh** and **** in the house from the dog. I even help w/taking the dog out first thing in the morning and consecutively 3-4+ more x/day. I don't have a job yet, so I am here w/him everyday, and I have to watch him like a hawk, and it's like my whole day revolves around the dog. I'm trying to get settled myself and organized, so I can start looking for a job. The dog is still peeing and pooping. I got up yesterday morning and my husband was in our second room w/the dog, I had some of my pants draped over a box of books of mine. I pick them up and feel they are wet, and the dog had pissed all over my pants! Now, you can't tell me that wasn't on purpose. So I said, that's it, he's not allowed upstairs anymore especially since that's largely the area we paid to get cleaned.So, we kept him in the kitchen last night w/a gate - he barked loudly all night. My husband told me this morning the dog got out last night, apparently climbed the gate and that he had taken a sh** after he got out. So I get up this morning (my husband actually took the dog w/him to work today - dog will be in car all day!) I come downstairs to set-up my laptop at the table to continue my job search, and guess where I find **** where we paid hundreds to get the carpets clean!? It is clear this is just what the dog does, unless he's closely watched all the time, and I just don't feel that responsibility needs to be put on me. My husband created the dog's ways, out of laziness honestly. (He even told me he "gave-up" on house training the dog.) Basically, he accepted that this is how the dog is, until I came and started setting boundaries, which the dog clearly doesn't like. My husband has suggested he get rid of the dog, and I was a bit shocked. I could care less if I ever saw the dog again at this point, but I don't want my husband to resent me, yet, if we keep the dog and the ******* and messing continues , which it will, I feel it will ruin our marriage - it's already starting to. I never imagined this would happen to me, being an animal lover, but I guess with my dog, he is much more elegant and smart, and well, mine. Not really sure what to do, but is it fair to tell someone it's me or the dog?

Are you freaking MAD?!
Your husband, without prompting; offers to give up this monster of a dog and you're if-ing and butting?! Do you know how many relationships breakup because the dog obsessed partner refuses to give up their dog for their spouse?!!! WTH?!
Do I really have to tell you to get rid of the F***king mutt?! Its a piece of **** and its ruining your marriage!

I wasn't even married yet and I told my partner its me or your ******* of a dog and thank god he chose me! Its been just over a year and we're even happier than before. No dog; no shedding, no barking, no ****, no sh*t, no scratching, no licking, no stench, no whining. Dog-free life is fabulous! Does he miss his dog? Sometimes he does but he told me he doesn't miss being a dog owner.
Get rid of the f*8#king mutt!

Thanks for your reply! Well, things are looking-up. We actually still have the dog, and with a little patience and training, he's behaving! I'm an animal lover, so I understand the bond we can have with an animal. I told my husband we should keep the dog, especially since I had to leave my dog back home. No reason to be hostile with it because it was getting me nowhere. Best of luck.

You guys sound like awful human beings. I hope none of you ever own animals or have kids. Absolutely no compassion for living creatures. Step up and tell your guy that he needs to pick up after his pooch, everything else is you whining. Hopefully your BF, if he still is, finds someone else that can deal with animals better then you.

My adopted step-father LOVES his four dogs; I have grown to love them as well. Problem is, there is little to almost no personal boundaries between the four dogs and our family; so our entire lives revolve around dogs 24/7.

Some of us are introverted, and some of us are extroverted. It does not mean we detest human interaction or we detest solitude ; we just have unique ways of interpersonal interactions.

Same with dogs: Some love dogs outside, some love them inside, and some both!

Hope you have a blessed day friend!

Your Friend,

-leesalee1290

Go kill yourself. Seriously.

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I just came out of relationship which fell apart because of my ex's Dog... My relationship started out great for the first 6months in every possible way... We spent amazing times together, went away on road trips, dates and shared special moments with each other. We both owned our own houses and lived alone. We spent an equal amount of time respectively staying the night at each others houses during the weekend and on weekends which was great! One of the perks of owning your own place :) She originally had a dog she shared with her mum so she only looked after it some weekends, however sadly it past away about 6months into our relationship due to old age. Fast forward 2months and she decided she was going to buy a new dog, which at first I had no problems with and I was happy for her and supported 100% like any great partner would and even agreed on the one she choose in the end. Once she got the dog however she was unable to come over and stay over at my house anymore which I thought might only be for awhile so she could let her new dog settle down (which was a rescue home adult dog not a pup). After a few months I brought up on several occasions that I missed having her staying over at my house and to be quite honest was also getting tired of having to drive over all the time when we wanted to see each other and you can imagine the cost of fuel... (are houses are about 25mins away) I myself own an indoor Cat which Im fine leaving overnight everynow and then if I leave out food/water out my cat is fine on his own overnight, but for 3/4days a week for a 5 months just didnt seem right on my cat and it would of keep going on... I told my GF all of this and she told me that she would start coming to mine on weekends if I got her dog a kennel and some shade which I did... 3months past and yet nothing happened, she never followed through with her actions... She said dogs belong inside and not outside and that dogs are like humans and cats arent etc etc... However being myself and living in a small house with no where for my own cat to escape is why I didnt want her dog inside, you just cant get a cat/dog to get along for a few days a week they need to be around each other all the time... not to mention the damage her dog had done to her own house keeping it inside. I started becoming more and more unhappy with her when I saw her because she didnt grasp or appreciate the effort I was putting in to see her and she could see it in me... simply because she just wasn't compromising for me and I had felt like I wasn't a priority to her anymore, I felt like I had been replaced by a DOG! Last week after 5months of her owning her Dog i told her I was unhappy with our relationship and decided that it was time to end it after multiple talks with her on this issue she just didnt follow through...

Sometimes i wish i read this thread before agreeging for her to get a new dog... I remember reading this a few months prior to our break up and realised I was not alone... Just dont get how stupid some people are with pets and making them a priority over their partner and denying it. She even questioned whether id be a good father to children one day as I slapped her dog on the head, after it bit me in leg numerous times... Silly silly woman. Time to find a non pedastal pet partner :)

My sincerest sympathies your ex gf made you feel bad. It is truly a sad testimony imho for the Western world; we have replaced our interpersonal love for fellow humans towards our pets.

It's sad some people prefer pets over their brothers and sisters in humanity! So sorry about your relationship loss;best wishes in your quest for true love!

Move out. Same problem with my boyfriend. Same spoiling and not realizing a dog is a dog is an animal that's outside. I'm moving. I hate these dogs. I used to work for the ASPCA and I'm saying, I hate my boyfriends effing dogs. So get out. It'll only get worse till she dies or he gets his head out of his ***.

As my father once said, "Shoot the damn mutt!" Animals don't belong in the house. Now, I'm sure there will be many dog lovers who will want to shoot me. So be it. That is just the way I feel.

Story of my life, girlfriend. Don't make the mistake I did and end up letting yourself take care of the dog. Let your boyfriend keep all the responsibility for that.

Can I just say EVERY SINGLE WORD you wrote here is EXACTLY what I am going through!!! He moved in with me and my children. I didn't have pets because I don't like them and stink. The dog had to be let on all furniture. I said no bed and I have to hear crap about that ALL THE TIME!! She begs and sniffs and farts and scratches and poops and pees and chews up ONLY MINE AND MY KIDS STUFF not the boyfriends. And he also refers to her as his child and says he would never give her up. Ive done some serious thinking about getting rid of him so she will be gone. And that is horrible because I love him, but I cant take much more.

Hi. I have a 2 year old collie mix rescue and I love him. My parents and siblings don't understand why I am attached to my dog. The reason I'm so attached is because I have always felt alone and I never had friends so my dog was my friend. I know that sounds pathetic but thats how I feel. My dog does shed alot and i sweep and brush him everyday. I understand what some of you are saying i just dont respect how your saying it. I believe in setting boundaries. I love my dog but I don't treat it as a human. My dog is a indoor dog with BOUNDARIES he is not allowed on furniture, i.e the couch,chair etc. He is allowed in my bed though because I like the warmth he gives off. He is not allowed in anyones room or the kitchen/dining area and we have doggy gates to help prevent that. He does have a doggy crate because i don't want him destroying anything or pooping when I'm not at home, even though he is really good at holding it til I'm back. If someone comes over and they are afraid of dogs or they have a child that is I will put my dog either behind a doggy gate or in his crate because I am respectful of someones feelings. I could never be with a person who doesnt love dogs or share my same beliefs about dog boundaries. Im not mad at what people are saying because most have valid points I'm mad at how rude and disrespectful people are being to both animals and animal lovers. I'm not some crazy dog lady that has poop and pee everywhere. I mop everyday regardless of whether or not my dog has an accident. Hoping a dog dies because you don't like them is cruel. And to the people talking about how horrible pits are maybe its how they were brought up. I have had pits all my life and I always had them as a puppies. And they are loyal respectful animals. My pits NEVER attacked anyone, animals or humans. They were the best of companions.

Yes sir/ma'am, it is sad people wish ill on their animal and human brethren. People lack empathy these days...

I hate dogs. They are a waste of space. I love cats. My husband has a dog. She just turned 6 and I am counting down the days until she dies. I hope it's soon. I look at her and want to kill her. I basically just ignore her. I let her out and feed her, but that's it. I have tried to like her, but everything about her annoys me. At least she knows how I feel and leaves me alone. She stays on the first floor of our house and the cats avoid her too. Ugh. Makes me so mad she exists. I wish my husband and I would have met before he got her...there would be no dog if that were the case.

While you dog of dogs filth, read about your so clean of a pet cat. Cats are absolutely worthless. They do not care about you? They only care about themselves lol they are a completely independent animal. Punish a dog and he'll love you two seconds after. A cat would want nothing to do with you haha plus if there so clean.. I guess it would make it okay if your husband went outside and trampled in feces and urine sandy chunks and then jumped on your lap and pawing at your dog hating face. Your just another person who has no idea what they appreciate in life and to wish death upon a dog who has no choice but to live with you two.. I honestly would hope your husband seen this, left you and your cat loving self, and found a woman that would love him unconditionally without posting a status about how she hates his dog.. obviously your husband loves the dog.. a little more than you, especially if your the one posting statuses and the dog is living it up.. enjoy.

AS GOOD AS YOUR DOG

If you can start the day without caffeine,
If you can get going without pep pills,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,
If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time,
If you can overlook it when something goes wrong through no fault of yours and those you love take it out on you,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,
If you can ignore a friend’s limited education and never correct him,
If you can resist treating a rich friend better than a poor friend,
If you can face the world without lies and deceit,
If you can conquer tension without medical help,
If you can relax without liquor,
If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,
If you can say honestly that deep in your heart you have no prejudice against creed, colour, religion or politics,
Then, you are almost as good as your dog.

Story of my life! My husband got a pug as a result of a previous relationship and kept it after that ended. Can't stand the dog. I can't wait until he croaks. Most annoying thing EVER.

And at least with cats, they take care of themselves and show affection when they want to...not ALL the dang time begging for it like dogs do.

I've been dating my bf for 2 years and I'm at the end of my rope with his dog.
Now look...I love dogs. Love. I love animals in general. Like they turn me into a baby-talking weirdo that doesn't mind their smell and getting covered in fur.
This is the ONLY animal I have ever hated. And I do hate her.
She's a pomeranian that's around 11 years old and shes his baby.
He's a truck driver so after we'd been dating awhile I took over the care of the dog and house while he's on the road. Keep in mind now I do not live with him so I do this just to be a help.
On to the dog. I work so I get there to let her out whenever I can...always at least twice a day: morning and evening. But she STILL pees and poops all over the floor. It started out all over the carpet so I lock her in the kitchen. That kitchen gets literally covered in waste every day. To the point that I know its not just that she cant hold it. Its disgusting but I have to clean it up. She snarls at and tries to bite me, she doesnt listen, she runs from me....shes horrible. To top it off, he doesnt get it. Somehow I'M the bad guy. If she pees and poops all over the floor, it must be cause I didnt get there enough. If she bites me I mustve done something.
Yeah.
And when hes home...ugh. She quits the peeing and pooping but its almost worse because shes always up his butt. God forbid he touches me...the dog will sit on the floor staring at him and make this grating sniff noise every couple seconds until he stops touching me and picks her up to pet her. She tries to lay between us in bed....she wants to be taken outside every 5 minutes then barks to come in the second shes out there.
I had to yell at my bf for coming home and not saying a word to me but instead picking up the dog and loving on her for like 10 minutes.
All this...and he thinks Im unreasonable.
I want the dog to die.

channel that anger into something positive cause likely its not the dog its you, be the Alpha and then she will respect you

so after reading alot of these posts im utterly disgusted that this is how most of you think. As a single male who has a beautiful 12 month old german shepherd my responce to anyone who told me they hated my dog or issued an ultimatium of them or my dog would find themselves outside the house so fast.

Alot of reasonable steps seem to have been asked and taken - not allowed on the furniture not allowed on the bed.

It seems your boyfriend has compromised and yet you want more and more.

Dogs are smart intelligent animals it senses your hate and is most likely responding in kind. How about you grow up a tad recognize it for a living loving creature with needs and ajust your attitude.

i wonder what the dog thinks of your farts and smell and when your hair falls out..... as she thrown a fit about it?

A dog wouldn't throw a fit about that, now would they? But when a dog does have a problem with something, you bet your bottom dollar you'll know about it. Say you got a cat and the dog didn't like it, would you say the dog was heartless or insensitive to the cats needs? No because their animals. Not humans. My boyfriend has a German shepherd that I absolutely hate. Would you rather the dog be around someone who can sense my hatred or someone who loves him, a place where he can run, not an apt all day. And before you say my boyfriend should leave me and keep the dog. We have a baby together and I'm not gonna let an animal tear us apart.

First off, and trust me I say what I please.. anyone who lets a dog ruin there lives is pathetic. Anyone who complains about a dog is pathetic. Specially that the dog is stealing your bf? Uhm maybe your a little more unsatisfying then you should be then.. just saying. A dog does not choose who to live with? But will love who its with..if you show weakness in a relationship, have your best friend around, there going to point it out too! Dogs read emotions much better than we can. And I really cannot stand that I'm even writing this much either.. if your husband/bf wants a dog. Then why call him either one? Didnt complain about it in the first place? Then shut the h*ll up, seriously. Grow up or let your children turn out to be just as miserable and sad as you are.. quit complaining, love your man and quit COMPLAINING. Too easy.

I wonder why it is ok for people to not want children and not want them around but for some reason if we don't like having dogs (animals) put before us in our relationship we are horrible people?? Honestly I think that the only people who put dogs up there with humans are people that have problems relating and connecting with real human people.

I prefer to socialize exclusively with my own species.

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how can I start..I have been married to my second husband for eight years now.. be has several cats.. which when we first got together he got two more kittens.. these kittens took over him... the couch.. my time with him.. when we sit on couch both of them in his arms a couple of them beside him I had to tell him I felt kind of silly to be jealous over cats. but I was.. ugh.. he cared for them. petted them.. spoke so softly to them.. hell yes it bothered me.. he was not giving me that attention and he thought I was nuts... ok so I get a boxer.. we separate.. due to his abuse. emotionally and physically... we try dating again.. he falls in love with my boxer.. ok I'm cool with that.. she loves me to.. we lost her.. car accident. worst day off Jason's life..I lost my son in car accident year before.. so that was my worst day.. the day I saw Jason lose it after losing our boxer it concerned me a little. here I just lost my son and Jason didn't have this emotion.. bringing us to now.. Jason has rescued a pit boxer mix .. we are still separated.. we see each other.. very complicated... he brings her over.. our when I come visit there is no place for me she sits on his lap. all 90 lbs we can't sit next to each other.. I'm sorry but why why why does he give his animals all this attention and can't figure out how to give me any.. very worried.. that I can't deal with this anymore... any suggestions...I think he needs to give his animals boundaries.

There is something emotionally twisted/wrong/broken when a human prefers to love a species other than their own.

Omg I love this story I thought I was alone. My bf lives with 4 pets which includes a huge hairy dog. At least your bf washes his dogs, my bf dogs and cats smell and they shed everywhere. They sleep in the bed , under the sheets in the kitchen , pretty much any where they please. I hate how every inch of the house is covered in hair. Even after I wash all they sheets and covers they are still drenched in hair! I feel like I'm eating hair 24/7. I love him so much I just hate that these animals are pretty much his siblings. Thank you for this blog I'm glad I'm not alone and I'm not the only one who is grossed out by dogs.

Wow. Now that i have read these stories I can relate. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 20. I have known him for over a year and we have been together for 9 months. At the very beginning he decided to buy a frickin dober..a huuge dog (I like small dogs but horse sized not). At the beginning I basically did not give a ****..we were just dating ...but now??? He finds it difficult to spend money on him or us ( you can easily count on your fingers the times we ate dinner somewhere + for a 20 yr old he does have more than enough money) ..yet he spends likeee 70 dollars on dog food a month. So not only he has to waste his money on this dog but his parents cooonstantly bug him to walk and take care of the dog (theyre pet lovers). For me it's as if they are treating HIS dog like it's his kid or his wife. He tried to sell the dog bit they would not let him...ughhh It is really annoying
I mean.. i know he loves me but I really miss dining out and new things which obviously...cost money. I am still a student and I do pay sometimes for small things but it all depends on him at the end of the day

I am in a simular situation... Except I too have a dog, I have a small toy Pomeranian and believe it or not she hardly sheds and never barks. She is the perfect, never-do-wrong animal lol. However, my fiance also has a dog, and he is a pitbull mix... he is a big dog. We now live together with both of our dogs in our tiny apartment. My pom just sits in my lap and you honestly never notice shes there, but his dog constantly is whining, barking, getting on the furniture, getting on MY BED that I paid big bucks for in Hawaii and its frustrating me! He is destroying my stuff! He never listens and every time I walk in the door he jumps on me with excitement and one time knocked me over! When I play fetch with my little dog, sometimes he will get so excited he will start chasing her, and one time he jumped on her (thankfully just landed on her tail) but it makes me so nervous so now I can't play fetch with my little dog while he is in the room. Also even though I am trying to train him not to get on the furniture ( he shed so unbearably bad), he continues to get back on it. He is so spoiled! I don't know what to do. Every day I stack boxes now on the couches so now we can't even sit on them unless we move the boxes out of the way. I keep asking my fiance to please buy him a dog bed but its not one of his priorities right now... cuz he needs to buy a car. OMG!!! I am going insane. This dog is ruining our relationship because we constantly fight about it! It is the only thing we fight about. I love dogs, have always had a dog, but his Pitbull drives me nuts. I just keep holding on to the hope that when we get a house it will be different, he stares out the window all day so he misses being outside all the time.. i just don't know what to do either...

Umm since when do people not realize that pitbull translates to spoiled *** brat?

Anyone who understands the responsibility of owning ANY pet understands it is a commitment, for better or worse, til' death do you part. They do become your family. But, if an animal is a physical threat, contact resources for help. If a jealous significant other doesn't understand your bond, you obviously don't have the most important thing in common: depth of love, character or commitment. Problem solved. Find a more shallow person to pair with. Animal lovers have big hearts. People who abandon their animals are like people who abandon children. Heartless, inhumane, selfish, or mentally ill in some fashion. We, as intelligent human beings, are responsible for all dependent creatures that are smaller than ourselves. ie: Animals, children, the sick, weak and disabled, etc. I'm deeply disturbed with the immature, ignorant, inhumane, ill equipped things I've read on this post. It makes me embarrassed to be the same species as most on here. Grow up, move out, take proper care of your pets or don't get them at all. Save them the abuse and neglect from a lesser human specimen. Go to the vet, do research, sack up and teach your partner how to train and take responsibility. If you don't have the same hygiene or discipline, your pet is only the beginning of problems in your relationship. There is some severe abuse, neglect and respect issues going on here. From both parties in the relationship. Boundaries are vital. Proper training is vital in order to cohabitate. If you do not share the same views as to what is humane and what is appropriate as far as a household goes, or love and dedication, YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON. Grow up and stop hating animals for your shortcomings or your partners shortcomings. Their just like children, as successful/tolerable or as ignorant/pathetic/disgusting as their parents. It's all in the training. Some of the things on here confirm that some people should not have animals OR procreate. Shameful. Sad. Immature. Inferior human beings. Not all of you, some are correct as far as boundaries go, but others are just not evolved enough spiritually to have the capacity to love all things. If you can't figure out how to get along with and respect a little creature, how do you navigate through the rest of your life with complex people and situations? My guess is...NOT VERY WELL, if a little, dependent creature has BESTED you. Please, for the sake of all animals and people: Don't procreate! Just try to EVOLVE first, be kind, or the rest of us will consider how to get rid of YOU. Since you're an inconvenience to mature, intelligent, evolved, compassionate, humane, tolerable human beings. Yeah, that's right.....maybe the problem is you. Those who know they need some help won't be offended. If you're offended, YOU are what's lacking in his situation and society in general. Good luck (to the poor animals who are left near these people). God bless them, poor babies. God bless the people who need God on this site, to act more humane and grow a heart toward the small and weak. No wonder why I had so many foster animals and foster children. I'm busy cleaning up the mess left behind by sub-par people like some of you clearly are. Grow up to those who are self righteous and super self absorbed on here. I do feel for you as well though: because you're the dumb, stinky, difficult animal. God put YOU in this exact situation for a reason; to have the opportunity to evolve and become a better person. I'm a nurse and have worked in a nursing home before. FEAR MY WARNING: you will be an old, ugly, stinky, drooling, incontinent, unable person someday wheeling down the hall in a wheelchair with diarrhea dripping out your diaper, depending on the compassion of people. And you will reap what you sew. And rely on a nice person to take care of you. Especially, if you're an *******. Your family will drop your cold heart in a home and wait for you to die. God always plays a fair hand to everyone in the end. You always get what you give. I've seen it firsthand. The jerks die miserable and ALONE. The nice ones always have loved ones by their side. Are you kind? To all animals and people. Have you been fair in this situation? Be honest. That's the problem here.

This is a horribly judgmental comment. Especially coming from a loving compassionate nurse. Those things you said were horribly mean!

Those things needed to be said. Especially for the type of people on this post. (*Nurse & Teacher*btw) If the content of my post offends, it's probably because you're the offender.

Being a nurse and teacher doesn't give you the right to hold yourself higher than others and judge them.

Ma'am, you did say the ff: "Just try to EVOLVE first, be kind, or the rest of us will consider how to get rid of YOU."

Just what exactly is "..get rid of YOU." mean?! Incarceration? Forced relocation? Murder?

@mistylovesanimals - I am still shaking my head in disbelief with your comments. You are on a completely different unbalanced level than anyone on this board. I stumbled on the site because of my frustration with my husbands Boston Terrier (with whom I treat very kindly- as I do "anyone" or "anything" with a beating heart). She is an "animal", not a "human". As with ALL "animals", she requires food, shelter, care, and a reasonable amount of affection and warmth. We as humans do NOT have to "love" them, but we do need to be kind and humane to them. I could write as much as you did- but, I know it would be futile. To me, you sound to be someone who is on the far/extreme side of "Love for Animals"- to the point of making them equal to humans in "every" way. Your distain for your fellow "humans" while you throw "God" into your self righteous attitude is what is most disturbing. If you truly want to help, maybe you should be much kinder to those who have posted about this subject. You are so kind to animals, yet so mean and insulting and clearly evil tongued to humans. God word, "the Bible" say's that "We must love our neighbor as we do ourselves", "do unto others as we would have done unto us". That is the WARNING God gives to YOU! FEAR HIS WARNING! Be nice mistlovesanimals! You are very mean and inhumane. You can catch many more fly's with honey than you can with vinegar. Be honest with yourself. Take the rafter out of your own eye before you try taking the splinter out of another ones.

I agree, Misty has serious mental issues. She obviously lives in a home filled with hair, ****, ****, drool, with the house probably a mess, laundry never done, stains everyone. I can just picture it.Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

loves it!

Misty,

You are honestly a joke. I am the most caring person you will find, plenty of compassion and will/have done anything for my friends and family. I like animals, don't love them. They are lower on the food chain and in life. But for those PETA lovers like you, you tend to think they are like people and need to be treated like people. There are two different sides to every story, but NO, not everyone should have to live with animals the way you prefer. My entire family is the same way, HAIR, ****, ****, THINGS CHEWED UP, THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS WASTED OVER AN IRRESPONSIBLE, WHITE TRASH LIVING HOME OWNER IS JUST GROSS. And oh, before you go on saying I am going to hell and I am not a good person, I do anything for everyone. If I see a poor animal on the side of the road I help it. ITS THE WAY YOU LIVE AND SOME PEOPLE ARE GROSSED OUT LIVING IN A NASTY *** SMELLING PLACE!!!!!!!!!! AND THEY ARE NOT WRONG BECAUSE OF IT. Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

This comment is coming from someone who cringes when they accidentally squishes an insect btw. I hated my partners dogs even though I'd had one myself before & that one was fine even though he'd been a lab dog for the 1st 7 years of his life. They were horribly spoiled & efforts I made at training them were undermined. Even then someone commented how much better they were behaving. Oh, yeah. My elderly relative got to live till 99yrs old in their own place before I became ill myself & had to stop. You can't judge people by what they say here. Nor should you judge those in YOUR care. Leave that to the God you're apparently so smug about. His job to judge not yours.

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Wow I am living in a similar situation with my bf and his boxer. I always loved dogs and had many of my own. But jesus when an animal is over stepping your personal bounderies on a daily basis is disgusting. We've have many fights over the dog and finally the dog sleeps on the floor on several blankets. Wakes me up every night whining to go outside but mever goes. Just a total pick *** I am so ******* fed up. But glad to know theres not just me! And as for you retarded, delusional people who think DOGS deserve to be treated like or better than a significant other you have serious mental ******* problems. Who the **** wants a big dirty, ignorant, germ/hair bag in their bed?? You're sick. Just turns me completely. Also have the eating problem. Doesnt matter if the pig of a dog ate all ******* day , whatever u got, he wants it. I'd even put whatever im havinh in his bowl and no ******* way will he go near it until he gets what he can get from your plate first. Now if thats not enough to get on a persons nerves theres somethinh wrong. One fight we had. My bf actually said, you dont like my dog
I just thought that was a low blow. Like **** how can ppl not see our side of it? You actually begin to feel below a ******* dog. And in NO way is any of this right. If it was then why are we all experiencing the same discomfort? Pretty bad ... so any of u dumb ******* think for one second anyone who is mentally stable to agree with any animal being treated like a human and sleeping in beds, good luck. Guess there is a lot of ppl out there who feel the way I do. I never would dislike any animal but after dealing with this bullshit from a big dumb dog really makes me hate the ******* germ bag!!!!!! Good luck everyone. I know I sure feel like I need some help. Honestly cruelty to animals?? No no no. Animals belong outside. More lile cruelty to humans and big time neglect to your GF / Bf

I'm seriously at my whitts end. Can't handle the stress of this dirty, arrogant dog. My bf treats him like a baby. The dog is very smart. When hes with me, I usually dont have any issies. He listens to me and knows not to beg for food or just be plain sooky. But as soon as my bf is home, the dog acts like a pure ******* sook. Even growled at me last night as I walked downstairs. Simply because he knows as long as im around he'll be getting the discipline he needs. Just drives me nuts. No one should ever have to deal with this kind of ****. I have to say though, since we talked about it, my bf has been better, set a few boundaries but I still dont agree with the way he treats him. The only reason why the dog is the way he is and feels the need to be jealous of me. A ******* human being. Time to set the dog straight and teach him to be the animal he is. You see, my bfs ex gf was the one who got him to get 3 dogs. She took two of them. But she raised them for the first year. To be a complete savage. She had the dirty muts in bed with her all the time. Then my bf was o his own for a while and got use to having his dog around him just like she did. Then I come along
.. idc what anyone thinks but when I found out just how much that dog got away with just made me sick to my stomach. Treat an animal like that and one day he will take over and prob turn on somebody because he thinks it's ok. Im just ao tired of the stress. It sure feela good to vent tho! If anyone has any tips for me on how I chnage this situation or even get rid of the dog it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening guys.

I have this same issue, the dog , when BF is away is a sweetheart, listens to every command, respects me and my needs, doesn't pull on the leash, but as soon as the BF comes home from extended work outings, the little POS, looks me right in the eye and does exactly what I have been spending months trying to get her to stop doing, and when I reprimand the dog in the BFs pressence, I get yelled at, and the dog just keeps on keepin on. It's causing so much stress!! gah

I have almost exactly the same history with dogs and the present same problem. My girlfriend has two dogs, she lets them sleep on the bed when I'm not there. One dog regularly poops on the floor and she doesn't seem to mind.

Sleeping in the bed....eh....I don't like it but I can let it go. The pooping on the floor though...that is not OK. This is thy remaining problem in our relationship.

I am not a dog person. They smell, thei are noisy, they are I disciplined, given cookies EVERY time they come in from outside, they bark at anything that moves, they beg at the table, they bark at you for attention and follow you everywhere you go being underfoot constantly.... I am talking about my husbands dogs. 12 yr old crabby shitzu who has bitten me 3 times and a 3 yr old spoiled rotten bichon who pees anywhere he wants whenever he wants!!!!
My passive aggressive husband undermines me and refuses to train these dogs to listen !!!!

He makes excuses for their bad behavior and continues to let them do whatever they want. He thinks it's mean to crate them. He will not tether them so he can watch them. I am ready to throw all 3 of them out!!!

I would not tolerate a misbehaved 2 yr old and I am at my wits end having to tolerate these dogs!!!!!!

He does not feed my cat, clean her litter box or pay attention to her at all

Why are these dogs my responsibility 12 hrs a day when he's gone to work?
He does not play with them, never walks them, rarely gets to the vet until 4-6 mos after the notice comes and expects the groomer to call HIM to tell him it's time for a bath???????
They smell !!!!!! His nose should tell him!!!!!!
He wanted to hug me the other night? Both dogs were under his feet ?
He said to me" oh well maybe later "

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so glad I found this thread. I have always considered myself a dog person. I love dogs, but have not had my own dog since I was a child. I recently moved across the country to live with my boyfriend, leaving behind family and friends, to see if we could take our relationship to the next level, since neither of us is getting any younger. I knew he had both a dog and a cat, and that his dog ( a rescue Greyhound) had some behavioral problems. Well, I guess it is one thing to "know" these problems, theoretically, and quite another thing to experience them in person. I feel so guilty, but I *HATE* this dog. This dog that has absolutely no discipline, does not respond to being called, to eating and destroying anything I take my eyes off for a second, who sits on the couch, sleeps on the bed, and gets filth everywhere. This dog that sleeps in the room, and gets up in the middle of the night to whine for no apparent reason. This dog, that I have to take out every 35-40 minutes so that I can *TRY* to sleep at night, but wakes up anyway. Whose farts are as lethal as mustard gas. I am absolutely miserable. I have brought up sending the dog to obedience school, but my boyfriend always shoots down the idea as a waste of money, because the dog is 7 years old. He insists he will deal with training the dog himself, but it never happens. I am about to go on an extended holiday back home to visit with family and friends for Christmas, and I am seriously contemplating leaving for good. I feel like I am the interloper and second class citizen in this house, and I don't like how that feels. I am not sure what to do.

My boyfriend has 2 dogs. One being an English bulldog and the other a French Bulldog Terrier. The English bulldog takes expensive steroids every day for her allergies and rubs her face all over the carpet and couches, but she is tolerable. HOWEVER, the French Bulldog terrier is his "baby," and drives me out of my d*** mind! Because of her smushed face, she can't breathe and snorts the day away with every single breath. She will NOT leave our side and is always one step behind one of us at all times (because he is obsessed with her, and because she has caught on that I like to snack a lot). She sleeps in the bed with us and snores like a crazy person and has unimaginable gas and keeps me up all night doing both of these things in harmony. The second I turn around, he is hugging her with his face all over her and calling her "Beaut," when she is obviously the ugliest breed of dog known to man. She is potty trained, thank God, but it's pointless because when you let her out and she just ***** & ****** all over the sidewalk and he never cleans it up. This dog is also VERY dumb. The English bulldog is unbelievably smart and can even open doors by herself, but the French is just a waste of space. On the tenth command to "sit," just MAYBE she will sit (probably out of restlessness) and he will reward her and say "good girl, beauty." Like seriously? Good girl? No. Beauty? Double no. He is starting to see my frustration with her and gets extremely defensive when I call her stupid and politely remove her from the room when I can't handle the snorting anymore. I have a Siberian husky and yes she sheds a lot but she sleeps in the ******* corner on the floor and isn't all up in my business every step of the way. I can't stand the dog's neediness and constant need to be on the couch when we are, the need to be RIGHT under me when I'm eating at the table just snorting away trying to find a SINGLE crumb I could POSSIBLY drop, and the need for my boyfriend to think that all of this behavior is "cute." I am considering breaking up with him over this dog. It's all I think about. I hear snorting in my dreams even when I'm not sleeping there! I have never met a dog I didn't like. But boy, has that saying changed for me. Truly, I just wish she would keel over already.

<p>Wow. After reading these posts, I should probably feel better about my situation. I have a Labrador retriever. She is a good calm dog, clean, but she does shed a lot. So, I vacuum. BF has a Chihuahua, not a bad dog, but can be very aggressive to other humans and to my dog. BF calls himself "dad" to the Chihuahua. His life revolves around the dog. He feeds it numerous times a day....always throwing the food down, mixing up a big huge bowl for a 5 lb dog. He can't leave the food out because my dog will eat it. He takes the food in and out of the refrigerator and feeds the dog every 2 hours or so. We spent 4 hours with his family at Thanksgiving, only 10 minutes away from home, and he had to bring the food with him and feed him AGAIN while we were there.</p><p>Then, he waters the dog constantly. We were going somewhere 90 minutes away and we stopped at 20 minutes into the drive to get gas. He had to give the dog water. He brings 2 bottles of water wherever we go, so the dog can have water. He has to take his dog on bike rides and put him in the basket. We have to stop every 20 minutes so he can give him water.</p><p>When we walk the dogs, he has the dog on a really long leash and so it weaves in between us creating a problem. He gets angry at me because if I walk him, and he walks mine, I make the leash shorter. Then, he says "Pancho is pissed." </p><p>Last week the dog went into an aggressive outburst and went running from his lap all over me being aggressive. I grabbed him, and said "NO." There was no abuse, the dog did not squeal or was hurt. BF got mad about this.</p><p>My dog has to sleep on the floor, because his dog gets aggressive and chases him away and off the bed. Last night, I set my foot down, if my dog had to sleep on the floor, then his dog could too. He couldn't take that separation, andthe dog whined, so he left and went home in the middle of the night. </p><p>The dog is a shrieking barking thing. Barks when a leaf falls in a forest 100 miles away. So, I got one of those electronic barking devices, that when they bark you press the button and it emits a noise. (It is stand alone---not connected to any collar). The dog started the growling which leads to the shrieking, and I used it. He didn't like that too much. He is oblivious to the shrieking dog.</p><p>He won't discipline the dog, and it has even bitten him!!! Whenever the dog is going ballistic on someone coming to the home visiting, and I look at him he just says "what do you want me to do---get rid of him?" It is so pathetic. How about training him---he is not a stupid dog and would respond to training.</p><p>He won't go on any trips because he won't leave the dog with anyone. (I have a great dog sitter I have used for years) So, all of the trips have to be planned around his dog---we have to drive somewhere and find dog friendly places. </p><p>He said that his dog is spoiled. I call BS---it is my BF being OCD about the dog in my opinion.</p>

Oh my god! I don't know how long ago you wrote this but I am soooo relieved to have read this.
I am about to beak off an engagement bc of my fiancé 's dog.
I am to the point of having deep resentment for her, for most of the reasons you have mentioned, and I can't take it anymore.
The worst thing is --until now--Inhave felt completely alone. I am a nice person, I have always loved and respected animals, I have 4 children I adore and take good care of.... And now, bc I live w a huge dog that sheds everywhere --to the point that her hair cannot be avoided and has consumed everything in my house--I freaking HATE this dog. I can't stand my life
I just can't deal w dog hair on everything.
What do I do?
What did you do????
It's to the point where our relationship is over bc I can't live with this hair on everything.
I'm pissed and disgusted!!!!

Seriously !!! How do they live with hair in their food, shower, bed, kitchen, Etc! Drives me nuts and makes me want to barf. My bf is the same way and he gets pissed if I complain. Some times I wish he didn't find me and ended up with a dog lover because I don't want to live like this when we're married. I just don't get how they aren't grossed out.

I completely understand where you are coming from. There seem to be a lot of people on this thread that have yet to learn the differences between a human and an animal. I can't believe some of the stuff I was reading. My wife has had small dogs all her life. We have been together for 16 years and I have tolerated her obsession with treating dogs like humans for a long time. I recently purchased an expensive mattress. My wife has always ignored my requests to not put the dog in the bed. It's a chihuahua. It's not the size of the dog, but simply a dog in my bed. The dog already poops wherever she likes and my wife tolerates it. She says the dog is too small to go out in winter. I say too bad. Last week I decided to remove the bed sheets and sanitary cover. To my shock the mattress was yellow over 90% of the area. I snapped. I though my wife had no idea. But I was wrong. She just never told me. I was so angry because this is specifically the reason I did not want the dog on the bed. My wife snapped at me in return. She really believes the dog is like our third child. I can't make sense out of it. I offered to make the dog it's own bed on the floor with a heated blanket. So my wife's solution, she will sleep on the floor with the dog. I am at my wits end. I spent 200$ to get the mattress cleaned and since forbade the dog to get on the bed. My wife doesn't see the reasoning and feels worse for the dog that the fact that the dog peed all over a 2000$ mattress. Her parents have the same problem distinguishing between pets and humans. Her mom's house smells like a urinal. The small dogs pee and poop wherever and they just tap it down with scot towels. What the heck am I missing??? I can't reason with her. So I figure let her sleep on the floor with the dog. Eventually she'll realize how stupid all this is.... Am I missing something ??? Did dogs become human sometime this last decade and I missed it ? I am at a complete loss. But happy to see that I am not the only one dealing with such nonsense. A pet is a companion bit still a pet or it would be called otherwise. What is happening to this world when people start believing otherwise. Like the idiot Suzie456.... What a total moron comparing a pet to children. I couldn't believe what I was reading. Serious problems with reality. Anyway, how did it work oput for you muhm1 ?

Carl, it seems we're the crazy ones. I also missed the memo that dogs were now humans. Its sick, pathetic and disgusting! That moron Suzie456 is like the rest of them; dog obsessed to the point where they ACTUALLY believe their dogs are their children.

I feel really bad for you my friend. Sleeping in all that filth? Yikes! And she's actually sleeping on the floor with the dog?! Double Yikes!!!

I was also at my witts end to the point where I fantasized about harming the dog and trust me Carl; I'm not a violent person. I was driven to that point by the behaviour of my boyfriend. The dog had no boundaries and could do whatever the heck it wanted down to being in the bathroom with us when we did our business because it had separation anxiety! Gross.

Long story short, we finally got rid of the mutt after months of heated arguments, tears (From both of us) and me actually packing my stuff and looking for my own apartment.

My advice to you is tell your wife exactly how you feel. Try to make her see that her love has become an unhealthy obsession. Tell her that your bedroom is your sanctuary and all you ask is that the dog not be allowed in it. The dog has the run of the entire house and all you want is that bedroom.

Good Luck!

I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT ....
My boyfriend's dog (a rottweiler) bit my grandson 7 years old, I moved in with him 3 months ago and he knows that I do not like animals inside the house. My boyfriend is divorced and has custody of his child 17 years old, and he said that the dog is the only thing he can provide for him. YES YOU ARE READING RIGHT...Now I'm asking him to get rid of the dog because I don't want my grandchildren around that dog anymore. I would like to add a photo of the teeth's marks on his stomach and you can see y? I don't want them around the dog. Now I'll tell you how it happened: My grandson was playing with his other son, the 12 years old, and my grandson (7 years old) grabbed his neck to tell him a secret (children games) the dog attacked him believing that my grandson was hurting his son ...
Now and asking him what he is going to do and he said he don't know, I turned in my apartment to move in with him, THINKING HIS IS GOING TO BE THE MAN I'M GOING TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE, and now I'm here thinking what I'm going to do. But I'm sure about something, I am not going to live with his dog. Now he have to make a decision. Dogs are animals, they don't think and they stink..
BTW this is the 4th incident with his dog ( he also bit his ex-wife, his foster daughter and his ex-wife's stepson)

Wow, that must be hard to have to deal with. I hope your grandson is okay. You definately have to talk to your boyfriend. I think its too late to try to rehabilitate the dog since he keeps biting people. Time to rehome the dog..

Wow! I don't even know how I found this page because I was looking up information on break-ups but I am so glad I did. I love my boyfriend very much and we have been together for over a year and a half.
He has a dog Brooke that is a 6 year old rescue dog from the streets of Philadelphia. They believed she was being used as a drug bust warning dog because they found her with weights tied around her neck.
I had a dog, Sara, who just died two weeks ago. I have always had a dog in our household but I have always made sure it was a kid friendly animal. Sara was awesome and even at age 13, she still was able to tolerate even my youngest granddaughter who is 15 months old.
I have 4 young grandchildren, the oldest being 5 and the youngest is the 15 month old. They are at my house almost every weekend. My bf and his dog are also at my house almost every weekend. His dog has growled at the kids, barked at them, and even nipped at them. We have had so many discussions (arguments) about this dog I cannot take it anymore. He totally disregards everyone else's feelings when it comes to Brooke.
And yes, he does treat her like she is human which to me is ridiculous and I am an animal lover and I also studied animal behaviors.
One of the worse things you can do with an animal is have them think they are an equal. They are not an equal! If you allow this, then children especially are in danger.
He doesn't want to hear it at all and defends her and says she is only protecting herself.
This past weekend she nipped Cara, the 15 month old, while snatching a cookie out of Cara's hand. We weren't at the house at the time. My 26 year old daughter was alone with her and her daughter Cara. My daughter, Colleen, attempted to get Brooke to leave the main living portion of the house and into the bedroom. The dog instead of coming with Colleen jumped up on the couch and refused to get down.
We were at a Super Bowl party when it happened and when I mentioned it to him he made a snide remark about "what did Brooke do now"
I am just so done. I cannot believe that the man I thought I was going to spend my life with is putting his dog before my young grandchildren and everyone's fears that she might bite. Do I think she would grab one by the throat and rip their throat out. I doubt it. She is not vicious. But why on earth would anyone allow a dog to traumatize a young child.
To add to this, he then got into an argument with my 26 year old daughter calling her lazy and telling her she just does not like the dog. My daughter told him that she does like Brooke but that Cara trumps the dog.
What is wrong with people?
And the post I read above by the person who put down everyone who has concerns, does not know anything about animals.
Our Sara was so loved and every day when I come home from work, I forget for a second that she is not going to come running. She was a member of our family but she never came before a human being. And honestly that is why her nature was so sweet and loving. She knew her place and we petted her, fed her, loved her, but we surely did not let her disobey, nip at children, bark or growl at loved ones, sleep in our beds (she had her own comfy bed).
And to think I fell in love with this extremely smart man and dumb he is to let this dog come first.

Wow, one of the reasons I wanted my partners dogs gone was because they nipped. I felt I couldn't have kids in the house. However much he loves he dog once it's nipped a baby & got away with it it's bad. I could turn really nasty. It happens even with 'good' dogs. It's given you a warning of what it's like. You have two choices. Specialist training for the dog (& owner) which may/may not work or get rid of the dog (& owner if he insists.) You may have a charity near you which doesn't put behaviourally challenged dogs. Good luck!

Sorry, but what if he is not so fond of your children? Ever stopped to think of that? What if he told you he doesn't like your kids to play outside and walk on the carpet with muddy shoes? Or that your kids are too loud or whine too much? What would you say/do if he suggested the kids need to stay in their rooms when he is home so it's quieter and they don't annoy him as much?

Fact is, this dog is his "child". Take it or leave it.

People like you make my blood boil. I'd rather live with 20 dogs than with someone like you. Your parents obviously didnt respect life, so you don't either. Which means your kids will grow up being coldhearted with a lack of respect towards animals. Well done. I hope my kids never meet yours. Cause I'd have to make some phone calls to get rid of the trash!!

Dogs are not children you moron!
How dare you compare people's children to DOGS?! How dare you?! People like YOU make my ******* blood boil!
You should be banished you a deserted island with dogs and other idiots like yourself.

Ha! Susie 456 had the nerve to say " respect your pets" ...... Puhlease! Animals ie dogs are light years lower on the totem pole than a human being. I came on here bc I was curious but I see ppl have boundary issues. The dumb dog acts intitled because he's not being treated as a pet but like a person. I have a PET and I treat him as such. He's outside 70 percent of the time and indoors 30 percent (its choice btw). My dog plays with my kids and can be with us.BUT he knows his place( no beds, no furniture and my bedroom is OFF LIMITS) Why? Because he's a d*** dog with germs, fleas, germy saliva and fonk! There's no way in h*** I'm gonna lay up with an animal. I feed, bathe and provide adequate shelter for my pet. I didn't give birth to it so it'll NEVER be family or a child.
That's what's wrong with these so called dog worshippers. They don't respect HUMAN life. God created mankind and animals but we are to have dominion...not equality fools!!! An animal CANNOT and will never have the capacity to think, reason, hold down a job or get married! Therefore it will never be my equal.
And to think... I've watched my own pet eat poop and then try to lick someone in the mouth? But I trained mine so he knows not to put his nasty tongue on me, my husband or kids. Why because I TAUGHT it how to behave. I set boundaries!!!
I'm really wondering if these dog lovers have crossed soundaries and are actually having sexual relations with their pets. That's the only logical explanation for their obsession...sorry for going so long but I'm tires of these perverted sickos that are prolly participating in acts of beastality with their pets and abusing them by pushing their sick fantasies on these animals that were only meant to be a pet.

Pardon the typos :)

I also agree with everything you said. While I was writing my earlier comment, I was trying to figure out how to articulate my suspicion of such extreme, unusual, creepy, weird, over the top "animal love". Really, if they see animals to be equal to humans- why wouldn't they also see them to be equal to humans in that way as well. Why else would they be so sensitive and weirdly defensive? Have you ever heard interviews with confessed child molesters? They are all weird and always argue to defend their "passion". There is much similarity between the "extreme" animal lovers who have posted on this thread and those involved in other forms of deranged and sick sexual preferences.

I agree with EVERYTHING you just said. Everything! I couldn't have expressed myself any better. If only those dog owners could see how weird they truly are. Its become an obsession and its so strange! Like you, I wonder if the love for their pets have become sexualized.

Its just not "normal". Laying up with a dog and letting it lick u all in your mouth is the equivalent of getting a bum off the street--UNBATHED or SHOWERED, unkempt, LICE IN THEIR HAIR...teeth not brushed for months--- and a person give them the run of their home, lay up in the bed with them and french kiss them in the mouth and call them family?
Surely these "dog worshipers" wouldnt do that with a person that is filthy and has no sense of personal boundaries. So why do it with an untrained animal? Because theyre a "lil throwed off in the head". Smh... I just feel sorry for any child that has to be raised with ppl like that. Forced to live around filth and germs, pee and poop. So sad. Oh well, glad its not me :) I was taught and raised better, lol.

Bahahahahahaha ...I hope you're joking?! Cos if you are...that's funny! I totally agree dogs need boundaries ...all the so called dog experts would agree ...no boundaries equals a wild, aggressive , spoilt animal...that is why dog bites occur...jealous, possessive pets!

So true!

You are an idiot....dogs are animals!!! End of story! Seriously you need to be put out with the trash!

Wtf is wrong with you
Would your dog ever act as angry and mean as you?
That's the thing
Animals are way way nicer than animal lovers

People are just trying to express their frustrations here...and where all animals would act with empathy , people go all postal and insane. Just bc you love animals doesn't mean that you are obviously on higher moral ground.
I think a lot of people, like myself--love animals so much and always have , and now find themselves in a situation where a pet is maker their life considerably harder, and feel awful about it, and don't know what to do about it.


That's where I am....
I stopped eating animals when I was 15 bc of the cruelty, did you?
But now I can't live w a dog bc everything she does makes me angry and disgusts me:/(
It sucks!!

Why don't you just marry a dog then and have children with the dog? And children are humans not animals. You're an animal and you probably do love with 20 dogs.

You and "mistylovesanimals" are truly in a abnormal league of your own. Both of you have the same disgusting and distorted view that dogs can be compared to our human children! As one poster pointed out, "Dogs do not think", they re-act. They don't have feelings, emotions, guilt or a conscience. Everything they do is for their OWN SELFISH MEANS OF SURVIVAL, even at the expense of "OUR CHILDREN"! They are A N I M A L S, and as with all animals they are completely preoccupied with 1) eating, 2) sleeping, 3) mating, and 4) defending. A HUMAN BEING has a "5th faculty" that a dog (or animal) does not have. We "Humans" have the intelligence and ability to inquire into the truth of our existence, such as “Who am I?” and “What is the purpose of life?”. I think I have made my point. To argue with the facts will just show further evidence of your ignorance. I am sorry to be so blunt and sharp. I am just speaking and sharing the truth that perhaps you have not learned yet. I hope both of you can put your pride aside and think about your bazaar thinking. It is not normal. It is scary. I want to make 1 more comment; You said you would have to "make a phone call to get rid of the trash" if your kids met our kids. That to me sounds very barbaric and animalistic to refer to our children as trash that can be thrown away. That is not even human thinking!

Indeed! I love my adopted stepfathers dogs;still, dogs are hierarchical beings. Dogs ARE NOT EGALITARIANS FOR GOODNESS SAKES! :/

SUSIE- I AM SO SICK OF LISTINENING TO YOU PETA **CKING ******. YOU ARE SO GOD DA** DUMB IT JUST MAKES ME SICK. THERE IS NO TALKING SENSE INTO YOU. I LOVE HOW YOU ALL USE THE COLDHEARTED FACT WHEN MOST OF US WOULD GIVE THE SHIRTS OFF OF OUR BACKS TO ANYONE. YOUR A F-----G JOKE. Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

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