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She's Still "part Of The Family".

So I'm in high school, and i've been dating this guy for about 7 months now. He's my first everything basically and I'm, well, not his first anything. This isn't what bothers me, it's the fact that his ex-girlfriend is still part of the family that bothers me. She gets cigarettes from his mom (and she just turned 16 btw) is the only one who I've seen make his dad smile, and his sister asked me to draw a picture for his ex so she could give it to her. Really? Ok, I can deal with that. nope, just kidding now about 3 months ago i find out that she's over at his house, all the time. Then his sister warns me that every time my boyfriend gets a new gf this b**** breaks them up. They dated for a year and a half on and off because she consistently cheated on him. And the worst part; he never dumped her, she always dumped him and he went crawling back. AND SHE WAS THE ONE CHEATING!!! So fine, whatever, he says he doesn't even like her. So if he doesn't like her then why does she always come up? Every time we do something its "oh yeah me and blah blah blah did that...." or the worst is when he slips a tid bit of info on their "intimacy". I DONT WANT TO HEAR THAT!!! A while ago we were in a taxi going downtown and when we went to get out, he called me by her name (I'll just say it's Kyra but its not). And it happened again in a restaurant with his family, he said "watch out Kyra" as a waitress was walking by. I didn't make a scene b/c his family was there but i felt like i had been punched in the stomach. I was so upset. This has been building up for months, and today i don't know why but it finally exploded. I love his hair longer, he knows this, so of course he cuts it. it's now about 1 1/2 inches long and i hate it. I told him i like it so he's not self-conscious, but i don't. Then out of nowhere (I didn't ask) he says "ugh oh yeah and Kyra cut it for me. it's kind of uneven." and that's it, I'm done. I don't tell him, but I'm so emotionally messed up at that moment I just wanted to cry, so I did hahaha and not the stoic tears down your cheek cry, the ugly hiccups and snot cry. It was bad. I love him so much but I can't stand this anymore! Someone please give me advice!
sojergirl12321 sojergirl12321 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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im going to tell you as the one thats 'still in the family' only because my ex and i have a kid together and he never takes him to his family so im there with him and the new girlfriend...things that **** me use to **** me off when i still had feeling for him...pictures with his family, comments she posted so that i could see talking about how romantic a date was or how he told her that she was better then any other gf! let this girl know how good it feels to be his 'girl' let her think that he likes her only as a friend and how he knows that theres nothing there and act like it dont bother you..kill her with kindness so to speak...if you love this guy and this girl isnt going away you gunna have to find a way where she isnt going to bother you...good luck!!!!!!!

all i can say is stay with him..Dont let her break yinz up....play bit*h right back at her

Thanks Shellzz, good luck for you too!

This story makes me feel for you...I totally understand what you are going through and it f*cking sucks! My bf was with his ex for 8 years she cheated again and again yet the stayed together. F*cked up I know. Now, I have been with him for over a year and I have to deal with his family on the holidays and his ex always being included. When I said something to my bf about it he says "its just easier that way" UGH! Good luck and sorry you have to deal with that. =(