I Can't Be His Mother Anymore
I do not know where to start, my son's story and mine are so complicated. I have 4 beautiful children that are stunning, smart, funny and pretty gifted each in their own way. One of the 4 drives me to the edge of sanity. The other 3 are pleasant and polite. Overall they listen pretty well and not caused any problems at school or otherwise. But my second son is certifiable. He is off the hook crazy. We are a strong stable home. My husband and I have been together for 20 years. I own my own business and sent my husband back to school to finish his degree since he dropped out of college to put me through school. It his turn. I let him take it slow because he is a stay at home dad as well. My kids have everything. Both parents, a big loving family, piano and dance lessons, soccer, hockey, math tutors, whatever educational enrichment they want. Or if the just want to stay at home and play a board game. 3 out 4 kids are totally lovely and I adore them. One child not so much. He hates everyone and makes sure everyone around him is miserable and will never sleep or have a normal life. If his little sister is happy and eating an ice cream he will walk up and just slap it out of her hand. It is older brother worked on a project all week for school, he'll just destroy it before his brother can turn it in. He continuously hits and punches his little sisters. He cusses everyone out, steals, lies, smokes pot, takes off without permission, breaks, destroys, sets fire to things. Life is a living hell for all of us. His older brother is very upset we do not beat him, his sisters beg me to put him in foster care and point out he is a danger to their safety. He threatens to kill them, cut them up into small pieces. He scares the crap out of them. They are always crying when around them so I try to stay in my room with the girls as much as possible. He has ADHD, ODD, slight autism and a bunch if other crap but I see nothing but a mean spirited nasty little demon who gets worse and worse everyday. He demands all kinds if outrageously expensive stuff then throws a fit and has a complete meltdown, even in public, when the answer is "no ". He has this incredibly twisted sense if entitlement and thinks whatever belongs to others should be his for the taking. No one can have anything nice. We can no longer keep treats such as cookies or ice cream because he will eat it all. Last week he took the entire Costco box of fruit roll up snacks meant for his sister's soccer team. It was not the first time we showed up empty handed on our designated day to bring snacks. He knows when it is our turn and turns the house upside down looking or steals the car keys to search the car. We must leave every room constantly locked in our own home and carry keys around like a prison guard to move from room to room. He is lazy and dirty and makes an incredible mess that all the rest of us must clean up. I am so proud the other 3 are responsible and step up to help me. They feel sorry for me and love me enough to help. He sets fire to things in the house, plays with the arisol cans, dumps out all the cleaning liquids, steals everything from everyone. And the little devil is only 12. I Hate My Son, and have just come to terms with that fact. He is not some sorry little disabled kid He is a violent, manipulative, schemer who kicks the dog. His teachers hate him at school and constantly let me know how bad, disruptive and difficult he Is. After school programs, orchestra, soccer coaches have all asked I take him out of their programs and not return. He is very close to being expelled. Look, some people in this world really suck and we all cheer when the bad guy reaches his demise or goes to jail. Those worthless adults start somewhere and I am afraid to admit my beautiful son is one of those people that cannot live amongst us in society because he deteriorates the quality of life for every living thing around him. He crushed the flowers in my garden this week. On the up side we save $100 because the exterminators did not have to come out to kill the wasps nests. He did it for free. He also killed all the weeds because he wanted too kill them. I cannot be the mother I need to for my other kids and this just kills me. So I am seriously looking into putting him into foster care so the rest of my children can be happy and well adjusted. No counseling, therapy, behavior modification, etc nothing works. I suggest watching "the good son". This is how I feel about my situation.