Really? You Should Be Ashamed!

As a 19 almost 20 year old mother to a beautiful little girl. I could never imagine myself saying I dislike or hate my daughter. You people should be ashamed. when I was growing up I used to lash out, back talk, cut, be disrespectful to my mother but not once did she take her frustration out on me or tell me that she hated me or dislike me. So if you say that I dont have the experience to say what I am saying. Yes I do. I was one of those kids. Amd for all those mothers saying its the kids fault. They get half their genes from you so what does that say about you. Try talking to your children getting them help or something. As a mother it is your job to teach your kids right from wrong, get them help when they need it whether they want it or not. You should not EVER give up on your children. I was a pill popper at the age of 14. My mom stopped at nothing to get me help when I didnt want it. I needed it but didnt want it. If you say cruel things to your kids then no they wont like you and will not respect you. And alot of you ladies do not deserve to be respected. I see in alot of stories you think everything is about you and once you have kids, yourself should not matter . Its selfish. If you hate your kids that much why didnt you give them up for adoption so a family without kids could love and cherish them the way they deserve. I hope God punishes each and every one of you for disrespecting your children and blaming them to be the problem when its probably the mother and the father who is to blame. I would never say the things you say about your children daughter. She precious gift and I work my *** off everyday to provide for her and ik she will not take that for granted because I will raise her better than that. So before you blame your child for something else you should think What can I do to help them and try to make them better. They only get one mother. Make it count.
Addisonsmommy Addisonsmommy
18-21, F
10 Responses Jul 1, 2012

Please please do an update when your daughter is a teenager! She WILL break your heart. And you might come here to vent and look for support and come across your old message...

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I guess ur child didn't wreck cars, have sex in the bathroom of her work in high school, have to pay her rent then her mortgage. Buy her children food and clothes. All the while she says she's a good mother. Oh she also is a pothead

Well, this is disappointing. If you're going to brag about your level of patience, then please share some point in which you showed never-ending patience. Telling us you hit your parents doesn't show patience on your part. These people aren't complaining that they used to hit and tell off their parents. They are on the receiving, not giving, end of this, which is why your claim that you have experience is laughable. It doesn't sound like you do. "I was the impossible one"? Okay, so how do you deal with an impossible person? Go try it first and then get back to us.<br />
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You predict that your daughter will never be ungrateful but, unfortunately, it sounds very much like you deserve to have an ungrateful daughter who takes you for granted, because that is how you treated your mother. I hope your daughter gives you the mothering experience that you deserve. Telling us how your mother bent over backwards for you while you were impossible and ungrateful doesn't show patience on your part, nor does it lend any credence to your predictions that your own daughter will never be impossible or ungrateful. Even telling us you now have a wonderful, lovable daughter who you will never claim you hate doesn't show patience on your part. Perhaps we all would adore her too. That doesn't mean we adore every child we've ever met. Think back over your life to when a child was hitting and kicking you and share how you responded. If you have yelled at your mother, I have a sneaking suspicion you have also yelled at kids smaller than you. When your daughter does tell you she hates you and hits you, how do you intend to respond? Or have you already beaten her to the point that she would never dare to do that?

If you've talked back to your mom, you should know more than anything, that people often say things that they don't mean. This is a place for frustrated parents to vent. I'd really rather they vent here than harm their kids. Most people on here don't actually hate their kids. They hate their kids behavior, the stresses of raising kids, the situations that they're in, etc. You really shouldn't judge people. If you have helpful advice, by all means, give it. Otherwise go somewhere else.

Look troll, you have no right to judge anyone. If this group doesn't apply to you then get the hell out of here. Your kid is still a baby. You have absolutely no idea what it is like to raise a hateful, selfish child (and hopefully you never will). If memory serves, it's the child who should respect the parents, reread your bible. Sounds like you will be the one punished by your god for all the crap you put your parents through. For all you know, your mother probably did hate you but kept it to herself. We don't care for your approval. We have a right to feel what we feel and need others in a similar situation to commiserate with so that we don't go crazy. Go mind your own god damn business and go change a diaper or something. Just wait until your kid turns into a teen and acts like you did. Let's see how smug you are then.

You rock, I had to raise my sister when I was 12 because my mom was a drunk and was ery abusive and would leave for days on end. I would feel that my baby siter was sad. Anyway i love my siste like a child and I can stnd when people say they hate hier kids

Tell me when your book is published including your expert opinion on how to be a perfect, unconditionally loving parent at all times, please and thank you kindly.

Girl your out of your damn mind thinking that no one should hate there kids at sometime cause obviously your child hasn't smacked you, gave u a bloody nose, or even said i hate you i don't love you so get out ( MY 6 year old boy has done that and much more ) so when u experience that and then u can contact us so called bad moms for hateing our kids

Actually I did that to my mom and she never said she hated me. And I kno how to raise my kids with respect for their parents. Which other people seem uncapable of.

Your a new mom....I have 3 beautiful girls my oldest is gifted and she my youngest is just to delicate and innocent....but my middle child has terrorized us since she was about 2 years old....she has been to therapists and has had many psychological evaluations....she is mean and abusive to me and her sisters....I have never told her to her face how I feel....but believe me I when I say there are days where I want to just give her to the nearest group home....if anything to protect the other a group like this where I can cast my frustration and vent the way I see fit is a God send for me....With out this outlet I would have no where to express these dangerous suppressed are so very young and naive....I almost feel sorry for you

I've never told him i hate him

You dont seem like you would be very nice. You teach your kids disrespect or they see you do they think its ok. Or maybe he needs mental help. Either way a parent should always try to fix the pr

There is only so much u can take

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I ask my parents the same question. Why have me if u dont love me? I am an outcast of my fam. Always had been since i was a teen. I been through a lot of drama and tried to kill myself so many times when i was like 16 and my parents didnt find out about that until they read my story on a freedom writers journal for school. And they was like 'your story was sad' but didnt even shed a tear or gaven me a hug. I still live with these damn people sadly. This might be off topic but if i ever have a child(i want a boy) i will never treat my child like hes a foster child like people did me

I guess this original poster did not torment their parent enough to create intolerable pain like many here have experienced. I have been tormented enough and I don't owe a sociopathic ingrate the rest of my life.