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My Nasty Assed Daughter.

Where to start lol. Today I have realised what it is to truly dislike my child. I am a mum of three and right now I am going through hell with my oldest.

This time Last year I discovered my teenage daughter was pregnant, I promised to be there for her through thick and thin. We are really close and had always enjoyed a close relationship until April the 14 at 3.30 when she decided (after a discussion about her layabout boyfriend devouring my weekly groceries within a matter of hours whilst failing to make any contribution to the household) to sneek out of the house with no intention of returning or informing me of her plans.

Since that day she has lied to everyone, telling them i threw her out and I have been pushed out of her life in favour of his family which she has known for 5 minutes.

I welcomed her back into my life a few months later decided to put my grievances to bed for the sake of our relationship, a but slowly and surely she has kept up her relentless assault to make me look like an evil person and has hurt me in ways I would have never imagined.

She tried really hard to keep me away following the birth of my grand daughter but I persevered and tried to offer her every help I could, this is despite discovering my granddaughters name on Facebook.

Many things have happened over the past few months, I have been trying to support my other 2 children through a messy divorce, and today she put the icing and the ******* cherry on the cake by posting on Facebook that my little granddaughter had spent the last 2 nights in hospital with breathing difficulties. She hasn't even phoned me.

I love my kids, but her behaviour towards me, her siblings and extended family is disgusting and I hate her for the way she makes us feel.

An Ep User An EP User 6 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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I hope you have found peace with your daughter. To say you hate her is far going though. Tis difficult to understand children, I know, but you must try. Love them while you can, teach them what they need to know, and support them I. They're time of need.

One poster here says "if its hard for you to change her, its harder for her to change herself". So wise.

The only way to have an influence is to manage how you respond and act. Communicate honestly and consistently. Its really hard to do the easy thing ---walk away---when a member of the family is what is making you feel bad. Your daughter is foolish. Should she come back, do not feel obliged to support her useless boyfriend, he is likely as foolish as your daughter is. Odds are, he won't be around for long as two foolish children don't tend to have much in the way of staying power. The first distraction or problem to be overcome will seperate them.

The fact is, foolish children grow up and come to realize their errors in the fullness of time. I have seen this with my niece. Hateful child has turned into lovely young woman filled with love because I think she can RELY on her mom's love, though her mom kicked her out during her years of being a hideous teenager.

All you can do -the only tool at your disposal- is to control how you behave in this. Be supportive, be kind, have love, do not be used and in the fullness of time your relationship will be repaired and all will be well. I hope this for you.

hello... i am an ingrate child too... but i am learning what it means to respect my parents. i try my best to obey them even though my body does not want to, because this is the way to honor them. if it's not easy for you to change your daughter, it's even harder for your daughter to change herself.

foolishness is a childish trait, and it seems your daughter still hasn't grown up, like me

stop treating her like a child, start treating her like an adult (like you would your gardener, for example) and she might just learn to respect you

i truly am sorry for your troubles and hope you can find a way through them

alot if wisdom in what you say here "if it's not easy for you to change your daughter, it's even harder for your daughter to change herself."

Get some pics of you and the family who appreciate you, put them up on facebook on holiday looking like you are having a wonderful time. Totally ignore her for a while for her to dwell on what she is missing. Ensure she knows that your are concentrating on the kids you have who treat you well.

Also. the best response you can give her when she attempts to re-invent the past, perhaps saying what she did not have - would be as follows -- as I have used this on my two girls when they both attempt at saying - they do not get this or that - and it immediatley shuts them up

here goes -- SO YOU NEVER WENT ICE-SKATING, SWIMMING, ROLLERBLADING AND CAMPING. YOU NEVER WENT TO LANZAROTTI, CYPRIS, TENERIFE, PORTUGAL OR BENIDORME ( i live in england) YOU NEVER HAD BIRTHDAY PARTIES, XMASS PRESENTS OR DAYS AT THE BEACH. YOU'VE NEVER BEEN ON A PLANE OR A TRAIN. YOU HAVENT GOT A BEDROOM WITH A TELLY AND GAMES. YOU'VE NEVER BEEN TO DANCING LESSONS AND ICESKATING LESSONS. YOU'VE NEVER HAD YOUR MATES AROUND, NEVER GONE TO MCDONALDS OR THE CINEMA. NEVER HAD ANY PETS (they have had 2 rabbits and a dog)YOUR'E BOTH NOT SAT IN THE BACK SEAT OF MY CAR , PLAYING WITH YOUR NINTENDOS AND EATING ICECREAM.

Following that it goes quiet and they seldom make a simular statement again. GOOD LUCK

Good one!

To say you hate your Child is to say you hate the Baby you birthed, The young child you Raised, And you will Hate the person who verywell may Die with your name on their lips. To hate your child, well. If you hate her, Then you mightas well Say you Hate yourself. My Sister has gotton pregneat, smoked all sorts of things, crashed the family car, and was bailed out of jail plenty of times, But my mother loved her to death. Even now, Dead and burrided, My mother would Love mindy.

My son seems on his way to becoming your daughter's boyfriend. He's lazy, selfish, and eats like a cow.

If my daughter got knocked up by some loser I'd drag her sorry butt to the abortion clinic.