I'm not TRUE Family. Or at least, this is what my cousin likes to remind me from time to time.
We were born around the same time, ever since then, though I saw him rarely, he thought we were in some sort of competition. Why he thought this, I do not know. I never really spoke to him, or played with him as I only saw him rarely, but those few times I did see him as a child he was always negative, telling me I'm "Not Normal", that I was a "Spy", that my mom was a "*****", that my parents were "mental", that no one likes me in the family, that my aunts and uncles all talk about how "weird" I am behind my back, yadda yadda.
When I saw him as a teenager he would remind me that I was Ugly, that I had "Zits", he would bloviate about how our grandfather would lavish him with presents, how smart he was, how I was not really "part of the family"
I would never respond to these comments, I would just go play with my brother quietly.
When I went to college, I had no idea he was attending the same college as we did not really communicate or have any interest in each other. I discovered he attended when he came running over to me in the library screaming that I was stalking him, that I was sent to "spy" on him, that I was NEVER ALLOWED to tell anyone on campus we were related because it would be HUMILIATION GALORE to be related to me, that I was ugly, my hair was curly, I was disgusting and so on. The library staff actually had to come over and escort him out as he was screaming in anger for such a prolonged period of time.
He would follow me around telling me to never follow him, he emails me warning me to never email him, he calls me telling me I better never try to "find out his phone number" and so forth.
I am now married and he sent me this long email berating me for not inviting him to my wedding, he called me a selfish *****.
He emails me pictures of my extended family, captioning the photo as the "TRUE family". (of course he includes a line or two about never daring to email him back or showing anyone this email)
I have no idea these past 26 years what he's been going on about! I really dislike his rudeness and am repulsed by his cruel life long actions.
To top of the cake, he recently said it was my fault I was disconnected from the family because "I never made an effort to get to know them". Really? I thought I wasn't allowed to ever speak to you!