Please Help?

I honestly hate my dad so much. He shows no respect for my feelings or my opinions. I recently told my father I want to quit softball. He went on a rage of how I quit everything and I never work hard and how I won't go anywhere in life with my '****** attitude and work ethic.' He wouldn't even listen to me when I tried to tell him my grades are suffering because of softball practices taking up 5 out of 7 days. He just said, "make time for homework." Well with a 4:30-9 practice.. It's kind of hard to do that. He also favors my brother over me. My brother recently quit piano and my dad was perfectly okay with it. But when I want to quit a sport I've been playing for 11 years and feel like I've accomplished a lot in, he says I'm a 'disappointment.' My brother also told me that one time him and my dad were driving and my dad said to him "you're my favorite. I enjoy spending time with you, buddy." I was devastated when my brother told me this. My dad is just so cold-hearted towards me. He never hugs me. I literally don't think he's hugged me since I was 5. My father never texts me goodnight like he does to my brother. My parents are divorced and nights that I'm with my mom he texts my brother goodnight and that he loves him. I have NEVER received a text like that for him. It's making me really depressed. I just don't know if I'll ever have a good relationship with my dad.
Banana990 Banana990
4 Responses Nov 28, 2012

I'm sorry you've had to go through all that, it must have been horrible. I can relate to a lot of what you talked about, and I was wondering if we could connect over email and perhaps share some thoughts and experiences. I would really appreciate it, and I think venting about it could be good for both of us.

I understand how you feel abit. I come from a indian based family where boys are favoured. Honestly the thing you can do is show him your stronger he may push you down but hes not worth any tears, You are intellegent dont let anyone tell you different. I believe you should quit the softball and try and find something else as well as your studies. You are going to become a very strong woman and you need to see that no matter what he says its not going to change who you are unless you believe it. Im just a random stranger but honestly if you ever need someone to talk to message me i can try and offer you support and different tactics to coping. Stay strong

That's horrible. To treat one son like he doesn't exist, and favor the other. It makes me very sick. I know how it feels, because both of my parents favor my brother, who is stubborn, has a bad attitude, disrespects them both, fails the majority of classes, as well as many other things. They give him what he wants, without fail. I get nothing, not even a hug, like you mentioned. That hurts, does it not? I feel for you, and I'm sorry for how your father treats you. It's completely unfair and damaging to you.

when my frnd started crying becuz of her grades, i was conforting her like she got left by a bf. After that, behind her back, I said "Lucky those who cry coz of grades". My point is, u dont live for ur parents, but for ur frnds, ur loved one AND children, which ur dad, obivously, isnt doing.