Why Do Dead Beat Dads Think They're Not Dead Beats?

My parents divorced and my dad left my mother with no money. He gave less in child support than what the welfare system offers. Now that I am an adult my father financially manipulates me. He had me enroll in college which he promised to pay for and then never did. He promises to help me move into an apartment and never does. He collects rent money from me so he can go and blow the money on my dead beat brother. He buys enough food for a family and eats it all himself. He also calls himself a Catholic.
mjslor mjslor
26-30, F
2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

I'm sorry you've had to go through all that, it must have been horrible. I can relate to a lot of what you talked about, and I was wondering if we could connect over email and perhaps share some thoughts and experiences. I would really appreciate it, and I think venting about it could be good for both of us.

I don't know for sure and have asked that too, I do not have children myself but I can relate, I had a dead beat Dad too. I know about manipulate. I started at age 15, working just to have my parents search me for money every day I came in and was paid. A friend once told me that you can lie to yourself and justify anything, including any wrong you do to others, including yourself. <br />
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Its a sad thought if you take a minute to think. You may not even know it but things are bad enough for him, his struggles inside he may even do many bad things because he can't live with himself. I hope you will be better than that, don't live in bitterness and resentment, it will only do bad things to you and the whole life you have ahead of you if you let it. Do like I did, with my own experience of this, give yourself the ambition to be better than that and get out! You are so worth it, if only to God and yourself! I am christian not catholic, stop looking to place blame, just look within yourself and do what ever you have to and get yourself away. From what I have seen it doesn't end well for someone who doesn't make the change!</p><p></p>