Maybe hate isn't the right word. I don't hate him. I hate his actions. He and my mom have been having marriage issues lately and he makes sure to always tell me it's my fault and when I disagree, he just says in the most cheery voice "sure it is!" I'm only 15 and I hardly ever get in trouble. So by him saying that I cause all the arguments is unbelievable because I know I don't. It's almost like he doesn't want to admit that he's in the wrong, so he blames me. I think it's especially wrong because I'm a child. I'm his child and I don't think parents should put their kids in that position.
He's also extremely immature considering he's 40. The other day my mom was very late at making dinner. I can understand him being a little irritated, but instead he got up in her face and called her a *****. She told him he shouldn't call her that, and he got up and walked away (he never wants to say sorry or admit he's wrong). She called him an ******* for not listening to her, so he put her in a headlock and threw her on the ground. This was all in front of us three kids. That's when I knew things were going to go downhill.
My mom didn't get out of bed until 11 on Saturday. It's not a big deal because she's a teacher so she was just sleeping in. He stormed into the bedroom and told her "I'm cussing you under my breath." To me that's plain rude and also sounds like something a fourth grader would say. Then he was so mad he drank 6 beers and then told her how she had MADE him drink. It's all ridiculous. Last night after another small argument that resulted in him sulking and sleeping on the couch, my mom told me she didn't want to be with him anymore. He's told her he hates her and doesn't even like her, then he apologizes. He's done the whole I'm-sorry-please-forgive-me act several times. When she says she's going to leave, he threatens to kill himself and throws pity parties for himself. Honestly it's getting exhausting. Any advice or comments would be great. Thank y'all for listening.
savannaha savannaha
18-21, F
1 Response Sep 1, 2014

These are always delicate situations, and it's always difficult to give advice.
I don't personally believe in the fact that the family is sacred and their members should always do all they can to keep it together. Families are made of people, and relationships between people change with time.
If your mother has told you that she does want to end the relationship with your father, do all you can to support her and her decision. If things keep going on like this, at some point she will have enough of it herself. Good luck!

Thank you so much!