I Really Can't Stand My DilMy wonderful son met my future DIL after having his heart broken. I didn't like her but kept quiet because he seemed happy. They have had a rocky relationship, broken up many times. Then she shows up pregnant. I offered to let them live with me since her father kicked her out. After I repainted in the color she requested and stored many of my things I was told she wasn't sure if it was my sons child. I felt like I was on the Jerry Springer show.
She aborted the baby but they stayed engaged. I was mortified.
Since there was no rush my son postponed the wedding until he is finished with school.
She wanted to be married sooner. Surprise surprise she shows up pregnant again Now the wedding is next month . My son is not ready to be married or support a wife. I have been helping with the wedding planning and 30 to 40% of the costs. Bridezilla doesn't even come close to describing her. Even though I am being very helpful and kind to her she is nasty. She constantly complains about me to my son. He is frustrated.
She won't visit or have dinner with us unless it involves her wedding. She calls/texts constantly when my son is here asking when he is coming home. She is always "too sick" from the pregnancy to attend our events but manages to go to her family or friends events. It is actually nicer to have just my son visit but I feel sorry for him. He is embarrassed when she doesn't come.
She only emails and the emails are curt and short. She won't call. I have asked her to call , my son has asked her to call but whe refuses. She gives my son a very hard time and I am getting tired of her tantrums. He never seems happy when they are together but returns to his happy personality whenever he is away form her. Her feels stuck because of the baby.
If I call she won't get on the phone even when it is to discuss something like the wedding flowers. I am paying for the flowers but she has been unbearable to work with. Every suggestion I have she hates and she is rude about it. She really doesn't have sense of style so it makes it even more difficult. She doesn't knwo what she wants just that she doesn't want anything I suggest. I have never met anyone so rude and ungrateful.
I don't think she understands when someone gives you a gift you have to be gracious or pay for it yourself.
She rarely says thank you and never sends thank you notes. I gave her some family heirloom diamond jewelry and she never even said thank you. I was dumb founded. I have given her nice birthday gifts and things for the wedding she literally doesn't say thank you.
After one family party 3 people came to me to ask why she was so rude to them. It's embarassing. My son has impeccable manners and treats others with respect this girl has neither.
I promised my son I would be nice to her but it is very trying to constantly be nice to such a contrary girl. I am also embarrassed by the way she dress's
sloppy and unkempt. Her clothes are often wrinkled and fuzzy. She wears pajama pants as clothing. Her hair pulled into a pony tail, no make up even to nice dinners and events. The worst part is she considers her family "better" than ours. My son even commented that she is condescending to him.
She amde a comment about her family having "better blood" and how the baby is lucky to have her blood- ridiculous. My husband and I are well educated and cultured. I don't know why she thinks she is better than us. We both come from large close nit decent families.
We finally met her father and his wife after numerous unanswered messages. They were rude and made critical comments about the wedding which they are not paying for especially about the arrangements we are paying for, they think it's too nice.
I offered to care for the baby when it's born but my future DIL would rather the child go to a daycare because she is concerned the "baby will like me better." I have an extensive background in education. I can't understand why she would not want the best possible environment for the child instead of looking at her own selfish desires. She would rather have her child cared for by a stanger than have it cared for by me. My feelings are deeply hurt. I worry about my poor grandchild and my poor son. I would love to tell her exactly what I think of her but it would cause pain for my darling child. So I bite my lip and try to ignore her antics. I really wish my son had done a better job at picking a wife. I was hoping for a nice girl that wanted to be part of our family, instead she intends to keep my son from spending time with us. She is not close to her family and rarely sees any of them but on Christmas guess where she insists they go. My son hates it there because they don't talk to him but she still insits. I'll be lucky if I ever get to see my grandchild.
frustratedkim 46-50, F 6 Responses 0 May 27, 2010