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Daughter In Law From Hell

She is evil...I HATE her!!  I was so tickled to find this site that I was almost giddy.  Finally a place where I can vent my anger for this awful person and have others totally understand me.  There is no way I can write about all the evil things she has done in one sitting.  My son is living in Hell..he hates her too but cannot divorce because she is so evil...he loves his kids and knows what they will go through if he is not around to protect them, what kind of guys she will hook up with that will do God knows what do them.    They are only 4 and 6, and not old enough to speak up for themselves.  She is bipolar and will not get on medication and she is a drug addict.  She has had an affair with every man she comes in contact with...all of my son's "friends" and at least two of his relatives that we know about. My son works very hard to support his family and take care of the home, yard and vehicles. She will not even try to get even a part time job...she sleeps all day and prowls around at night while my son takes care of the children..fixes supper, cleans the house, does the laundry all after he has worked all day. She takes the kids to school and goes to bed or runs around all day with her drug addict friends.  My son tells me how miserable his life is but loves his children so much..he just has to bear it until they get older. She even told him that she would claim that he molested his daughter if he ever tried to divorce her...it would be a very messy divorce because she is a liar and evil *****..the kids are too young to be put through that right now.  She also screams and cusses at the kids when she is around.  She uses the kids so that she can have her evil life style.  I can go on and on but will add more later.

Lageorge Lageorge 51-55 26 Responses Jul 13, 2008

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I can so relate to this story, it's Surreal Hell from the day my son met his wife. Just when they were dating the red flags were Everywhere. He was never allowed to spend any time with his family anymore and she wouldn't have it any other way.We tried to warn him back then at age 19 yrs. old, that he hardly knew this girl, how could he even think of marrying this girl so quickly. Fast forward, nine years later to present, two beautiful grandkids, 6 yr. old grandson, 4 yr. old granddaughter, 2 deployments later. Yes, my son is in the military. She is a presc<x>ription drug addict, is a hypochondriac,constantly has Dr. appts. for every illness, she claims she has, so of course she can obtain more meds.Just this past spring she had all her teeth taken out, because she said she had too many tooth infections. What 26 yr old girl do you know does this? Of course, she got false teeth, my son ended up selling his used truck, that he had just bought for himself to help pay for the cost of her false teeth. She took over his suv. She is extremely manipulative is bipolar and is a raging pathological liar. During this past deployment, my son had asked me if would go and help take care of my grandkids and help take care of her. I love my son and grandkids so much, I went for them. For 2 weeks, I cooked,cleaned,took my grandson to school, picked him up from school, gave them baths, read their bedtime stories, played with them,on their trampoline, ba<x>seball, we did it all, and we had a blast together. I helped my grandson with his homework. My daughterinlaw the first day, my grandson came home with hw to do. She flipped out about that, what kind of teacher gives a kindergartner hw on the first day of school. And then told my grandson, that she didn't care. He didn't have to do it. I of course helped him with it.On several occasions, she had roadrage with other vehicles with the kids and me in the SUV, god forbid if you pulled out in front of her. I knew she had mood swings, but what an understatement, she could be happy, sad, mad, outraged, or sleeping, or a burst of energy to mow their huge yard. Or heavily medicated and sleep for 14 hrs,this was just the one day I was there. My son and his wife got back together in 2007, she had claimed physical abuse, All lies. No police reports to back any of what she claimed. I don't know how my son can live with this woman, he as well Does Everything for her,cooks, cleans, always taking of care of his kids, while she's napping, watching her soaps, she always takes off in their suv, dresses like a tramp. Gone for hours on end,comes back with bags of whatever stuff she feels like buying for herself at the moment. Two days before I was to fly back home. I had just picked up my grandson from his kindergarten class. Came back, my cell phone is now missing,when I questioned her about it. She started screaming at me, why was I accusing her. Anyways, next thing you know, she charges at me like a bull in a china cabinet and shoves me. Tells me to get the hell out of her house now, all in front of my grandkids.Itold her this was my son's house, I didn't have to leave. She calls the police ,files a false report on me, that I shoved her and tried to hit her with a stool. All lies. No-one was arrested. So I was escorted out in front of my grandkids, gave them a hug, told them that I loved them and walked out the door. She called a taxi, I went to the airport, explained to the ticket agent, of course after breaking down,that I had to fly home it was an emergency and thank god, got a flight out 30 min later. And of course told my son all lies, received a very heartbreaking email from him when he was still in afghanistan, to stay away from him and his family in caps. He has been back from deployment since Jan. I have tried to reach out to him, text messages, voicemail. This girl has isolated him from his family and he is in total denial of his life. I understand, he loves his kids and doesn't want to lose them again after she and her family stole them, and Everything in his house then, including pics of his children. These people are evil. Now I find out, he' s moving to Hawaii, more isolation, no reconciliation with my son or grandkids. The kids always suffer, it's very heartbreaking as a single mom and grandma. I just wish he would divorce this girl and take his kids away from her already. Sorry so long, had to vent.

Omg I have one bipolar evil witch and the other is slobbering drunk who beats up my son but makes my life hell. She does not stop she's a drunk and exposes the kids to that stupidity then starts beating on my son when when she is drunk he takes it he loves his kids a<br /><br />
nd will not leave.

It sounds like this daughter-in-law is a sociopath. She wants what she wants, has no empathy for others and is a compulsive liar. Your son was stupid to marry her, but you're way past that now. He should start NOW to extracate himself and his children from her twisted environment.

I know what you are going through, I have the same kind of daughter-in-law. I try to keep the peace for the sake of the grandchildren, who are also too young at this point to understand fully. I fear how her behavior will affect them now and long term. I've cried buckets of tears and prayed for the situation to get better. I can tell you it will not. It may seem so for a while, but an evil person's heart does not change. She has driven a wedge between my son and almost every member of his family. She too will not work, she has never earned the salt in her bread. She sleeps all day, gets drunk with her freinds and lives on medical drugs. My son is Mr. Mom and has been from day one. He'd rather take the abuse than stand a chance of losing his children. Hang in there, you are not alone.

If you can have here followed and arrested for drug use that will go a long way in court and your son will get custody. A similar situation happened to my girlfriends nephews. Her brother (the father of the children) killed the mother and went to jail. The dead woman's parents demanded custody of the two children. My girlfriend's sister wanted custody because she knew the parents were drug users. She took them to court. The parents would not submit to drug testing and the kids went to my girlfriends sister--full custody.

Your daughterinlaw and mine sound like twins. A couple of nights ago she ran over my son with the kids in the car,car door open and one not strapped in. She then left the scene of the crime and went to the police station trying to get my son arrested. He had already called 911 when i got a call he had been run over. She went to jail and was out the next morning on a 5000'00pr bond.,meaning she paid nothing! She wasn't out 30 min. and went right back to try and start more crap. She was given a warning to stay away from him until court in febuary. We have been dealing with this ***** for 6 years. Just insane stuff. She steals ,lies,and yes drugs. I have already told the police if something is not done she's going to end up killing someone,maybe even one of the kids. And she calls my son crying and saying she's sorry and wants to come back home. That's suppose to solve everything ,saying she's sorry. I can't help but wonder if I run over her son from a previous marriage ,would I get out next day with and if I say I'm sorry would that fix it.NO! Her family would want me executed. They are enablers. They are like a big stupid clan. Anyway,I fear my son will take her back. I gotta tell you though,after 6 years of this ******* rants lies stealing and no reguard for anybody but herself, I am done. THE ***** RAN OVER MY SON! And she thinks I'm going to welcome her *** back into our lives. She also said more than one time she wished my grandaughter would die(age13)from previous marriage. THe ***** can go rot in hell ! I WISH SHE WOULD DIE!

I was in the same situation with my husband. I joined<br />
a support group called Nar-anon. It is world wide.<br />
It is a program to help people living with drug addiction.<br />
Once you gaine the knowledge, trust me, you will get<br />
custody of your kid's. I did.

I was in the same situation with my husband. I joined<br />
a support group called Nar-anon. It is world wide.<br />
It is a program to help people living with drug addiction.<br />
Once you gaine the knowledge, trust me, you will get<br />
custody of your kid's. I did.

Have your son use a tape recorder. Maybe it can't be used in court, but it would validate to any attorney he might hire that he's telling the truth.<br />
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Have a couple of the men she's had an affair with prepare and sign affidavits to that effect. <br />
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Hire a PI to follow her when she's out on the town and document with photos & tape.<br />
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There is a lot your son could do if he was serious about getting a divorce and retaining custody of his children. If it were my son in this situation, I'd be moving into action pdq!

Sorry for your son. I don't have a daughter-in-law that is hooked on drugs but she is defenitely evil in my book.She has done everything to keep me and my daughter away from my new granddaughter. My son doesn't do anything about it because she makes his life miserable when he gets her angry. She made the comment shortly after the baby was born "I'm in the drivers seat now". I should have known what was coming but I didn't have a clue about how much she resented me and my daughter and our relationship with my son. I've always been nice to her and tried not to make any suggestions or comments that she could interpret as meddling but that's gotten me nowhere. She announced to my son that only her mother and girlfriend and grandmother are allowed to babysit for my granddaughter. I've been a nurse for thirty years, raised four children and a grandson but I guess that doesn't make me qualified. I wish I could just put this out of my head but I just can't get over how hurtful and cruel my own son is to let this happen. I hope your son can get out of this situation before this woman does anymore damage. You're not alone.

Thats a long time to live like this: I would encourage him to get divoriced ~ because he would end up with kids anyway- Divorice is harder on children the older they are and understand it more- and if you remember always going by Dad 3 1/2 days week it better then trying to do when there teens and dont wanna go.. <br />
God bless him..

I feel for you. I also watched my son live in hell with a woman who had trapped him. He refused to leave her because he knew he would not be able to get custody of his three kids and he loves them very much.<br />
One night she snapped and assaulted one of the children. He called 911 and she was arrested. He filed for divorce the day she was released from jail.<br />
He is still battling her for custody - he does have temporary custody, but the courts are still very biased towards women. Can you imagine a man with an assault against his child even being considerered for custody?<br />
There is little you can do right now except be supportive of your son, involve yourself with your grandchildren as much as you can. Let them know that you love them and will be there for them. (And encourage your son to start documenting EVERYTHING. Documentation is the key to custody)

I totally understand your situation...but u cannot do anything until your son chooses to DO SOMETHING, u can only suffer in silence.

My mother in bi Polar and it is a serious mental illness. If she is not on meds that is what is causing her to act in that manner. I know it can be frustrating . Your son needs to get a lawyer and show her unfit. Get a tape recorder and tape her saying those awful things.

didnt you read it, man?<br />
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the only reason he married her in the first place was because she was pregnant.

I agree that if your son hates her, he needs to find a way to leave. If he believes his children are in danger then he must find a way to get custody. He would not be the first man to gain custody of his children and I am sure he won't be the last.<br />
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To claim that only women have VINDICTIVE TRAITS is just hillarious! Truly meant for the books!

Your daughter-in-law sounds psychotic...he needs to find a lawyer or someone to talk to about it.

AmbigramDimplet it doesn't seem like your daughter in law had a child to make him stay with her or drag him away from his family if she was going to do that she wouldn't of waited till a year after they got married. Of course it would make anyone angry if you accused the person they loved of lying when they are having the best news of your life. Well, as long as your son is happy with his life you should be happy instead of being bitter and hateful

Your daughter-in-law sounds psychotic...he needs to find a lawyer or someone to talk to about it.

I am going to start listing some of the things she has done, a few at a time. I'll start at the beinning. Well..when I first met her she seemed nice enough then little things started to surface. She told me that she had had sex with a least 100 guys before she was 15. And that she was in a place for deliquent girls when she was 16. That she had a drug problem and had tried to commit suicide. I felt compassion for her but now I am a little leary. She would go to my son's apartment all hours of the night and wake him, uncaring that he had to get up early to go to work. He told me about it and said he asked her not to do it anymore but she stll continued to. She cussed me like a dog when I suggested (in casual conversation) she not wake him unless it was for something important. I was floored but at this point I am still trying to be nice and decided to just mind my own business and let my son deal with it. I could tell there were other things that I was not aware of because my son tried to break it off with her several times. She played him like a fiddle. My son is soft hearted and couldn't stand for her to cry. He thought he would try to break it off slowly and as gently as he could. She was supposedly on "the shot" to keep from getting pregnant. Just when he thought he could finally get away from her for good, she comes up pregnant. My son, being the kind of man he is knew he had to marry her now. He was sickened but tried to make the best of it. She now had him totally snared.

I didn't really want to say it but I thought missing was missing the true meaning of your statement. Thank you for clarifying it.

missing...vandictive and powerful do not have the same meaning.<br />
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I agree many men in business are powerful and many women in businesss are powerful too. I think power comes with the position one holds within a company and not a personal trait. Example...President Reagan was a humble man yet he was powerful.

thats a double standard chaus and a sexist remark. Just think many Men in business are this way but we use the term "Powerful" like a good trait. LOL how could you not see that???

lageorge.....I disagree...I think many girls are vandictive...and this is a trait seldom found in men.

I wish it were that easy. You have to prove her unfit and she is such a liar and uses all her evilness to charm and win over people that don't know her. I have thought about that too and don't think the court would accept testimony from the family. We thought about trying to get her on tape but a lawyer told me it could not be used in court. I have also thought about calling DHS and having them drug test her but I do not trust that system. I do not want my grandchildren put in foster homes. Thank you for your suggestions but the court system is so messed up..they will believe the woman over the man almost everytime. They just can't seem to understand that the female gender can be so bad. Most women are good but then there is that other percent.

why cant he tell the courts about her addictions and lifestyle. it would seem that a court would favor him, he is the one employed. he is the one with the bill of health. couldnt some of the family and friends act as character witnesses for him in court. he shouldnt have to live like that.