Controlling Daughter In LawMy DIL is selfish and entitled and has changed my sons relationship with me. I have limited contact with my grandson because they live a distance away. In the 10 yrs that I know her, she does not look directly at me when I talk to her and has never called me by my name or any name. She treats strangers on a more personal level . My son say she really does likes me and that she acts like this because thats her personality. Her body language says it all.
I saw the writing on the wall years ago before they had children. I observed the interraction she had with her own paternal grandmother. Her mother and her treated this elderly woman horribly by limited conversation and interraction during family get to gethers. My DIL said that her grandmother was never there for them and was self absorbed but I dont think that was the case . I think there was jealousy between my DILs mother and her paternal grandmother because of the relationship she had with my DILs father. I feel that both my DILs mother and my DIL have set up this senerio with me to continue the drama. Im not even invited to her mothers family get to gethers any more and I dont know why. Her mother watches my grandson daily and It appears to me she wants him out of my life. My son and DIL depend on her for baby sitting. I only got to babysit once. My grandson is 18 months and when I try to hold him my DIL clutches him to her chest. No wonder he is fearful to come to me. He senses her dislike for me.
I have always went out of my way to be nice to her. It seems I cant reason with my son any longer and that the once close relationship I had with him is gone.
Im not an overbearing MIL I call infrequently and do not place any demands on my son. I live a full active life but miss having a closer relationship with my son and his family. I just dont know how to make it better can someone give me advice