At Wits End With My Dil
I don't hate my daughter in law but I'm coming close. Mothers of sons are penalized by DIL's - they are not allowed to watch their grandchildren be born and are never as good as HER parents or never do anything as well as HER parents. HER parents come first. DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE THESE ISSUES?
I don't live near them, however, I do a fabulous job in visiting and attending events that the grandchildren have such as dance recitals, sports, holidays, etc. I go with the flow and frequently spend my visits running around from activity to activity.
I have been deeply hurt by actions and comments of my DIL. I have kept quiet so as not to cause additional arguments with my son. She is rigid, always right and doesn't support our son emotionally. He is not perfect but he tries really hard and nothing is ever enough as it isn't with me either. No matter how much is done it is not appreciated.
I can't understand her actions - I have done nothing to deserve her attitude - it's always all about her and how much she does. The children are over stimulated in that they have TOO many activities causing running around and stress. She is resentful if our son is traveling for his job and cannot shuffle the children to and fro. It's ridiculous.
I have gotten into numerous arguments with my husband over this - I hate for him to be correct in that it's all a big, nasty game to her. I keep trying and keep getting hurt - he offers no support because he thinks I should speak my mind. I only keep at it for the grandchildren and my son but it's getting way too difficult.
Any advice??? Thanks