Most Selfish and Disrespectful Person I Know
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my husband and 2 of my 4 kids. At least it was just us until recently. About 6 months ago my oldest son moved home bringing with him his wife Angel and their baby--my beautiful granddaughter who is 2 years old.
Before my son and his family moved in we put up a door to block off part of the apartment so they would have 3 rooms and a private entrance. This way they would have some privacy as well. We also discussed that they needed to pay $500 per month to help with expenses. They were also asked to help with groceries as much as they are able to. I work full time but do not make much money and my husband only recently found a job as a maintenance person which does not pay much either. Since we are still supporting 2 minor kids (ages 14 and 16) we figured its only fair that they help out by supporting themselves. They have internet, phone and satellite all provided for them and for the most part we have been buying all the food. I also do all the dishes, cooking and housework. I feel they are getting a good deal for $500 per month. I wish I had it so easy at their ages.
Anyhow things semed to be running fairly smooth all things considered. Angel got a full time job at a coffee shop and my son for now is home looking after the baby. Recently Angel took the baby to go visit her family. Last night she called my son and said she had not decided if she wants to come home or not. Her reason is because she thinks we are being unfair and expecting to much from her. She told him she was talking to her grandma and they feel it is unfair of us to expect them to pay rent. She said that we are money hungry and greedy. I have never felt so disrespected and taken advantage of in my life, I was struggling financially before they even moved in just trying to support our own family and they had been told this. I dont understand how she figures I was going to support them. They had moved in at a time when my husband had been out of work for almost 2 years.
So I was wondering, does it sound like I am being unfair. What do you think. I have given up so much for them including my privacy as my husband and I are sleeping on couches in the living room. Are we being that terrible to them,What else should we be doing for them. I have bought diapers and things for the baby when she needs it and have even babysat a few times after working all day just so they could go out for a while with their friends. I babysat for nothing, not even a thank you.Pretty nice for someone as greedy and money hungry as we are dont you think.
So thank you EP for giving me a place to rant and express myself..Any ideas and opinions from you readers will be appreciated. Please tell me if you think I am being unfair or if I need to be changing something..I would really appreciate any comments..Thanks again everyone.....