I have two sons that are engaged to be married and I have the almost the same situation with both of their women. I feel so torn especially with my older sons fiance. She has him wrapped around her little finger. He is overseas right now and it is very hard to communicate with him. She answers all of his mail. She has to be a part of everything and my son allows this. I know it is hard for him right now because of where he is, but she keeps putting her two cents in and has driven a very big wedge between my son and myself. Nothing I have ever done in the ways of raising him has been up to her standards. When she called me the other day I blew up at her and told her to stay out of any letters that were from me to my son. I asked her if she knew what the word privacy meant. I told her I have had it with her. That I was done even trying with her. Dont get me wrong there have been plenty of other instances but this is just the most recent. My son called me up and was yelling over the phone and a potty mouth that had no end. Gee, I made her cry oh well tough. He said I have to say I am sorry to her before he will talk to me again. I will not say that to her ever........ I told my son that she has driven a wedge between him and both his brothers and myself but he doesnt see any of it. Is love that blind and stupid really? She has got everything mapped out for him. I keep my mouth shut but this has gone on for too long. The staw that broke the camels back was when I was told that my son will be coming home for leave sometime in May for 2 weeks and he wont have the time to stop in and even say hi to any of his family. I really worry about him because of him being overseas. Now there will be no communication between us so I wont even know if he is ok or not. Normally as a rule of thumb I never say hate, but I really hate my future daughter in law she is a monster!