I Hate My Daughter
This post was from my previous account which I deleted because I was afraid of people in our community seeing it and telling my daughter that "I hate her" as is how the mob mentality in this city works -__- I changed my username because it was too much like the one used for a social networking site.
Feeling sorry for herself. Lying. Laziness. Disrespecting herself and her family. Not caring about her image. This is what I hate about my first born, my only daughter out of three children. She always seemed so much happier with her father, and I could always see it when she came home, that she just didn't want to be here. At his place, they had parties, with a lot of family, and she got to eat whatever she wanted. She got almost whatever she wanted, clothes, money, toys, and got to do things that I would have deemed inappropriate for her age(s). They acted like I didn't even exist over there and when my name was brought up, there was eye rolling, teeth sucking, and a general mood of "she makes us look bad and has done us so wrong." How do I know this? His ex (after me). She told me this after apologising for believing every word he or his family told her about me.
Now my daughter is depressed because I won't allow them near us. They walked out of her life for almost 5 years, then suddenly popped back in only because DOR caught up with him and if he didn't bring up visitation at the trial, he would have looked like a bigger deadbeat. She is 13 now, and has an idea of the things they've done, and has even seen his three sisters try to jump me. Yet, she still wants to be a part of these people, and I don't matter because I'm the downer and "what does that have to do with her?".
I don't think you need an answer, you already have one. She has picked her cake, let her eat it. No I'm not being mean, but once they pick a side, well you figure it out ! (This was a response from WearyTraveler)
Can you imagine how much of a failure that makes me feel like? She's always pushed me aside over him, regardless of how bad he treats me, and it seems in her mind I'm only an after thought. I want her to be a better person, she's 13 now, I feel there's hope for her to realize this is not how you treat people. If someone ever did to her what her father has done to me.. it would devastate me. I had not a single person willing to admit how bad it all really was, and in the past (and even still currently) had hoped that, at least, my child, the one closest to me, the one in the middle of it all, would see it for what it was and at least let me know that she wouldn't put up with it the way everyone else did. This situation has left me beyond devastated. It has broken me. If she leaves my home to re-start a relationship with him and his family, I don't think I would ever want her coming into my life again. It's bad enough that I feel like my home is tainted with the mere presence of his bad habits that have rubbed off on her from the first 7 years.
Feeling sorry for herself. Lying. Laziness. Disrespecting herself and her family. Not caring about her image. This is what I hate about my first born, my only daughter out of three children. She always seemed so much happier with her father, and I could always see it when she came home, that she just didn't want to be here. At his place, they had parties, with a lot of family, and she got to eat whatever she wanted. She got almost whatever she wanted, clothes, money, toys, and got to do things that I would have deemed inappropriate for her age(s). They acted like I didn't even exist over there and when my name was brought up, there was eye rolling, teeth sucking, and a general mood of "she makes us look bad and has done us so wrong." How do I know this? His ex (after me). She told me this after apologising for believing every word he or his family told her about me.
Now my daughter is depressed because I won't allow them near us. They walked out of her life for almost 5 years, then suddenly popped back in only because DOR caught up with him and if he didn't bring up visitation at the trial, he would have looked like a bigger deadbeat. She is 13 now, and has an idea of the things they've done, and has even seen his three sisters try to jump me. Yet, she still wants to be a part of these people, and I don't matter because I'm the downer and "what does that have to do with her?".
I don't think you need an answer, you already have one. She has picked her cake, let her eat it. No I'm not being mean, but once they pick a side, well you figure it out ! (This was a response from WearyTraveler)
Can you imagine how much of a failure that makes me feel like? She's always pushed me aside over him, regardless of how bad he treats me, and it seems in her mind I'm only an after thought. I want her to be a better person, she's 13 now, I feel there's hope for her to realize this is not how you treat people. If someone ever did to her what her father has done to me.. it would devastate me. I had not a single person willing to admit how bad it all really was, and in the past (and even still currently) had hoped that, at least, my child, the one closest to me, the one in the middle of it all, would see it for what it was and at least let me know that she wouldn't put up with it the way everyone else did. This situation has left me beyond devastated. It has broken me. If she leaves my home to re-start a relationship with him and his family, I don't think I would ever want her coming into my life again. It's bad enough that I feel like my home is tainted with the mere presence of his bad habits that have rubbed off on her from the first 7 years.
By:
PariahedWoman
Age:
26-30
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Female
