Hurt And Alone...

I am a mother of a 9 year old little girl...who I cherish with all my heart. Her father and I have been apart for 5 years now and he lives in a different state. We were never married.  I am so tired of him not respecting me as her mother. I am tired of him paying when he wants to. I am tired of him showing up whevever he wants to. Im tired of him making plans without my consent. I am tired of him walking all over me. It hurts. After everything I do and after everything we have been through that this is the way he treats me.

 So what do I do when he shows up to take my daughter to the daddy daughter dance when he never even asked me if he could and she doesnt even want to go with him!? What do I do? Do I allow her to see him and then he is going to munipulate her little mind into going? What is best for my daughter? I told him she doesnt want to go with him but he does not listen or respect anything I say. Im trying to stand up for myself as well as my daughter.

Have never taken him to court. Out of fear. Fear of what? Not sure exactly. Planning on taking him. Trying to find the courage. I have never stuck up for myself ever in my life and Im trying now. No one ever taught me how to say no or fight for myself.  This is so hard and  I feel all alone in this.

momalea momalea
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 23, 2010

I know you can find the courage just reach down and say that you will do this for you and your daughter. I wish you the best of luck!

i know how you feel, you still love him dont you? i know you do, if you ever wanna talk, im here!!!