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Now I'm The One Who's Laughing!

Hey I think I'll start off by saying hate is a strong word,  my ex did give me a wonderful son afterall but I do dislike him strongly for the things he did to me and mostly for the way he made me feel

 

He made me feel worthless

He made fun of me when I cried even though he's the one who made me cry

He spit in my face

He pushed me down countless times

He gave me soooo many bruses

He tried to make me look crazy in front if our friends

And he would never let me go when I tried to leave him.............

 

But oh well,  all that's over now and I get to laugh because after all those things he did to me he still expected me to want to have sex with him all the time,  he had me convinced there was something wrong with me and that I didn't like sex or something,  turns out I just didn't like sex with him........why would I want to be intimate with someone who made me feel so low............I have a new boyfriend now who treats me like gold,  we have been together for 8 months,  and believe me I was not the problem when it came to sex with my ex cuz now I have lot's and lot's of wonderful meaningful sex all the time!  I guess I just needed the right partner

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and of course more importantly than that my new boyfriend is there for me and never makes fun of me,  he suports everything I do and makes me feel great about myself,  I culdn't ask for better!

 

Sorry for my rant,  it was just soemthing that bothered me about myself for a long time when I was stuck in that relationship and I'm so happy to see that it wasn't me at all,  it was him,  so if anyone else is in a bad relationship and their sex drive is low don't get down on yourself,  you just might not feel close to that person.................Hope all is well everyone :)

Wonderfulinsanity Wonderfulinsanity 26-30, F 15 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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I'm happy you found your man. Hope I have the same thing happen to me, minus the involvement of another loser. Thank you

Wow

other then the violence and out right laughing and the tears I can relate. I also have a son with my ex. and he always made me feel low for wanting sex with him, and with held when we were together, now when were not he wants it all the time, I dont understand it. Its hard. Im glad you found someone, it give sme hope I will too & maybe I will get the last laugh after all..... heres hoping, and good luck, thank you for sharing.

Congrats on leaving him. That guy was a disgusting controller man. Your story is an inspiration to others who are down or in bad relationships. <br />
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I hate all my ex boyfriends becuz they were all abuses in their own way. I do try to forgive and it's not so easy at all. Rite from my first ex when i was 16 to the fourth when i was 38 they put me thru craps and part of me will never forgive them. I am still a bit messed at age 41. I find it difficult to trust. Like u I got out I was relieved. GOod luck girl.

congrats on ridding yourself of that fiction

OMG I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE FEELING THAT WAY I WAS WITH MY SONS DAD FOR THREE LONG ON AND OFF YEARS AND HE WAS VERY CONTROLING ,CHEATER,ETC I WOULD TAKE HIM BACK SO MANY TIMES THINKING HE WOULD CHANGE BUT AFTER A WHILE I STARTED TO GET THIS DISGUSTED FEELINMG BEFORE AND AFTER SEX I WOULD MAKE UP EVERY EXCUSE IN THE BOOK NOT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM AND I COULDNT FIGURE OUT WHY. He would try to convince me that maybe i was a lesbian BUT I KNEW BETTER ......IVE BEEN BROKEN UP WITH HIM FOR FIVE MONTHS MAYBE SIX AND IVE BEEN WITHOUT SEX AND IM XTRA HORNY LOL BUT IM WAITING FOR MR. RIGHT......

I definitely sounds like your ex was emotionally abusive so it is good that you are out of that mess. I do have to wonder if the emotional abuse was only one way or if you did your own bit in this verbal war; I ask because I suspect you were in a co-dependent relationship since you admit to putting up with the emotional abuse for so long when most people would have walked the first time the relationship turned abusive. You claim he wouldn't let you leave but you could document bruises and other physical abuse; what you could reach a telephone of cry for help even when he was asleep or when you were at work the next day? That sounds like a weak copout, you could have left if you wanted to, you said you had evidence of physical abuse so one call to the cops would have taken car of him supposedly preventing you from ever leaving, so I'm forced to believe you never really wanted to leave but sure did like to threaten to leave when the two of you were going at it. <br />
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That's a classic sign on co-dependence (not taking that decisive action to leave an abusive relationship even though you easily could by simply calling the cops because even though it is an abusive and unhealthy relationship you've both become dependent on each other). If you do have a tendency to be co-dependent then you should seek some counseling before you get to serious with the new guy as you'll be inclined to slip back into a similar pattern as your last abusive relationship. Figuring out why you pick dirt bag guys and why you put up with them for so long is an issue you're likely to have to deal with sooner or later so better now instead of after suffering years more in a new abusive relationship. Plus you don't want your son to think abusive relationships are normal or else he'll pattern his adult relationships on yours so the cycle of abuse reaches a new generation.

That's a very common ploy used for dominating control...Good Story...I hope many read it. So glad You are Properly Appreciated now...Keep the Fires Burning!

Far out!! Spat in your face?? gave u bruses?? Thats insane! I would have gone crazy on his arse! Lucky you got out!! My ex and bestfriend of 19months broke up with me by changing his relationship status on facebook. There are so many ****** out there! srsly!

Far out!! Spat in your face?? gave u bruses?? Thats insane! I would have gone crazy on his arse! Lucky you got out!! My ex and bestfriend of 19months broke up with me by changing his relationship status on facebook. There are so many ****** out there! srsly!

I commend you on having the courage to leave him. It's hard to do when someone has humiliated and abused you and made you feel worthless. Of course, that is why they do it, to scare you into staying. I am glad it did not work with you. And that you have found real love.

Congratulations on moving on from that Loser.

How did you break up with him? <br />
My boyfriend is so much the same...<br />
he also hits me, makes fun of me, says that i'm stupid and all of his friends think that I am some crazy psycho..<br />
It's been a week since we """broke up""" after 2 years relationship...I don't know how to forget him...and he also does not let me go calmly..<br />
and he has also made me believe that I am too ugly and I have to thank him for being with me<br />
I don't know how am i supposed to move on..

It's because you're worth keeping that he tells you you're ugly and stuff to make you feel less and not leave him, the real piece of trash. If you feel helpless you could get some sort of counseling help to make you stronger. Don't let him get into believing he's the best you can do!

I am happy for you that you have a good person in your life.<br />
You and your son deserve to be surouded by good people.<br />
Your ex is a huge looser, I hope he hepls you financialy at least.<br />
I suffered like you and more for 12 years, I wasted alot of time with him!!! He loved his mom too much and I never could do anything. He use to even tell me how to sit, how to dress how to act etc...<br />
About sex: my ex used to cover his face with his hands when it came to talk about sex issues, LOOSER!!!<br />
I am with someone great right now, but my ex's emotional torture is still in my head and it has been 6 years since I broke it off. I hope he gets out of my head soon, because I can live like this anymore!!! I am extremely depressed 90 % of the time, but no one know this, because I hide it well.<br />
Take care! I wish you a good life and a good realationship!!!

Nice story, i appreciate your courage. you know some guys really need to be treated the way they deserves at times.