Ex Husband, The Bully, The Abuser
I almost don't know where to start other than the biggest mistake of my life was marrying a man who grew up bullied by other children, bullied and abused by both his mother and father and filled with so much pain and hatred. That pain and hatred was manifested to me and my now 7 year old daughter. Each day I can't believe a father would set out to destroy the family he made and do so with joy in his heart. I divorced him 4 years ago, a divorce he wanted. After the divorce he told me he would destroy me. He has spent 4 years since making me and my children's life a living hell. He started with prefacing lies about me in emails and then had his attorney do this to build a false case. When we divorced he had only 10% custody, but he promised I would lose full custody and support him. How sad the father of my daughter would even think this way. In 2007 he ran me over with his vehicle and broke my leg. In 2008 he lied to the courts, not serving me paperwork that he filed and when I showed up for child support the judge asked me questions about stalking and making false allegations to CPS. I wasn't defensive or emotional, just answered the questions and told her neither were true. A week later she pulled my baby from my primary custody and the child I raised alone for 5 1/2 years no longer lived with me. I cried for hours. I was devastated. I hired my 5th attorney. He went back to court to fix the problem and the judge said I needed a wake up call. She was going to punish me for my ex's lies, but more so punish my daughter. My daughter is now 7 years old and has never been the same since. There was hope then. My ex and I went through psych testing and the Dr. recommended my daughter back in my primary care. The judge would not have it. She referred us to a Special Master who also was going to have our daughter back in my primary care. My ex bullied her and she got scared and would not submit the recommendations. She was terminated in May 2010. A month later my ex husband threatened me if I followed the court orders for Father's Day he would assume I wanted to fight and start a new trial. He then lied about our daughter and her school, saying she had no friends in her school and blamed me, when in fact he was the problem. He then enrolled her against my joint custodial legal rights in another school and didn't even tell me. He did this to isolate our daughter from her best friends in an effort to further control and abuse. He has dragged me back to court over and over and now I am bankrupt. He has lied and won over and over and he still has 50% custody and my daughter has now been pulled from her friends and school due to his chaos. He tried to use the orders based on his lies when they were no longer valid to have me arrested on my custodial days. The worst part is he won't stop and nobody gets it. He has written letters stalking me legally. He is a bully and I am paying the price for his hatred of women due to his mother's vicious abuse when he was growing up. The craziest part is he can fool so many people through his lies, yet his psych tests show he has antisocial personality and I still have to wonder if the judge even knows the ramifications with that.