He Has Ruined My Life.Since I was the working parent when we got separated, my ex got to stay in our house and become primary caregiver to our two daughters, the younger of whom is autistic. By the time we finally got divorced 9 years later, my older daughter had been living with me for 3 years. The judge decided that since we each had a kid, and I was providing all of the health insurance for not only the kids, but him as well, that my child support obligation would be $50 a week. A year ago he bribed my daughter to move back in with him by having a bedroom built for her and buying her a kitten. I knew what was coming next, pressure for more money. Sure enough, the phone call came and on my own, I agreed to pay him an additional $25 a week. At the time, he was working for a friend during school hours and on Saturdays, and collecting disability. Keep in mind I am broke. I am paying rent, I am paying him child support and after that there is a pittance left for food, utilities and car expenses. After 10 years of this and with attorney fees I am about $35K in debt. The only way I am able to survive is with a home equity line of credit I was allowed to take out when the mortgage on our house was refinanced. My attorney pointed out to me that my expenses actually exceed my income.
About 6 months ago, my ex had a disagreement with his boss/friend and was idiotic enough to quit his job in a huff. How nice to be able to do that. I've been working jobs I've hated for 30 years. I don't have the luxury to just quit because I don't like my boss. Last week he began to call me and threaten to take me back to court for more child support. He called again today to harass me again and told me he would forbid me to take our older daughter on our planned trip to Florida to see my Dad, a trip my Dad had to pay for since I certainly couldn't afford it. How utterly and disgustingly selfish to be willing to take the one thing my kid has to look forward to every year away from her for his own gain. As it turns out, he can't do it, but how hateful is that???