Still Hate Him For What He's Done.
Hello, I'm new. My story - "out of the blue" my husband (aged 44) tells me that our 16 year marriage is over because there isn't enough "spark". WTF? We have 2 daughters, aged 12 and 13. I just turned 40. Our world all fell apart and for the first 3 days I couldn't eat, but I went thru the motions of living. The very next day he had me up at the Relationship office, not to work thru our marriage, but basically to bash it into little bits and then bury it. He did not want to talk about it, talk about reconciliation, counselling, nothing. Just NOT INTERESTED!
Anyway, blah blah blah, about 2 months have now gone by. He is bullying me and trying to get me to agree to his bullshit consent orders about the house. My lawyer has said don't sign anything just yet!
Long story cut short, I get so cross that he can upset me like he still does, that I let him get to me! I know it's early days, and I know that there's going to be a lot worse in the future (when we finally do settle), but I just don't get it, I don't know why he hates me so much and why he is so cruel and nasty. I don't believe I deserve it, but it all keeps playing at the back of my mind. And he's got the girls this weekend, so I feel terribly lonely without them and I worry that he'll take it out on them. They're only there for one night, but I wish I could hug them right now.
He is just such a self-centered bastard and I hate him for what he's done to us.