I Hate My Cheating Husband

I met my stupid husband at college. Everything was fine until we got married. He is very caring and a big liar, you can't tell when is lying. He cheated me once with his friend's girlfriend and he pretended that nothing happened. Recently he made my best friend pregnant, he been supporting her for two years without my knowlegde. He never hide his phone or all his debit cards. When I confroted him he cries asking for merci that is not gonna do it again. We have two sons together one is severe disabled. I am confused I don't know what to do. He is only family I had as I have no siblings. I am lonely and confused 

mukaclau mukaclau
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7 Responses Jul 23, 2010

Mine cheats with hookers so I feel your pain

My dear friend, "Stop trusting in man who has but a breath in his nostrils. Of what account is he?" (Isaiah 2:22). Instead, seek the Lord with all your heart and all your might, for he hears your pain and sees your struggle. He collects all your tears, so that one day, He may wipe them all away. <br />
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You know your situation better than anyone else, and I have a hunch, that you know what's best for you, but maybe it's a few things holding you back... <br />
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Sweetheart, YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. This is coming from someone who can identify with you. If you are willing to put all your trust in Jesus Christ, and no one/nothing else, and if you truly believe, without doubting, YOU WILL SEE YOUR LIFE TRANSFORM. <br />
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So the TRUE question is, which direction should I take? I'm sure by this point you have tried everything to make your husband happy...can I challenge you then and ask you, "when was the last time you gave it your all to make God happy?" <br />
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I understand that these times are very dark, but if we can learn to trust in Jesus Christ, you will be amazed at the rejuvenation of your soul. <br />
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"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30)<br />
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If you can embrace this truth onto the foundation of your heart, you WILL persevere.<br />
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Dear friend, if I could just pray with you:<br />
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"Dear heavenly Father, you know our hearts and our struggles better than anyone else. I pray Lord, that you reveal your TRUTH, in a gracious and loving way, so that my friend has peace. In spite of all the emotional turmoil she faces daily, I pray that you provide her with calm spirit, and inject her with your most holy wisdom. I pray Lord, that you give this woman the courage so that she may take the steps necessary to live a life according to your will. Most importantly Lord, we pray that you give this woman immense strength, and make her a pillar of light so that she may glorify you. In Jesus' name we pray, Amen."

You have to sit down and close your heart. Accept the fact that he doesn't love you anymore. It's hard but once you have cried it all out and start seeing what he is really than you will get angry and strong! You said you have 2 boys so why are you allowing him to treat you like this and by doing that your boys think he is right. Stand up and your family is your boys. I left my husband after 18years of being together becaus I found out he was. Cheating, but I had to come to reality and accept the fact that it was him not me with the problem. He would verbally abuse me and I tried to be he wife he wanted until I realize it wasn't me with the problem it was him.

He's a loser and hopefully, when he cheats again will get STD --- go get tested!!!

I can guarantee you that he will cheat again. He will be careful in future to cover his tracks. Take it from a guy who has cheated.

You have got to get out and kick his sorry ***. Im sory but that best friend of yours is NO friend at all. <br />
She has a brain too, if he was into her she should have let you know what he was doing and not doing it to you with him.. so they are both the same mean selfish idiots.. please get out and live in peace. dont be scared, you can do it.. you will be so much happier..

He does not deserve you. He has no feeling of loyalty and does not care that you are alone. Leave him, it will be hard, but at least you can concentrate on yourself and the kids. Can't believe the jerk supported your bf.