Just A Few Reasons Why I Hate My Husband

I have been married for 14 years and I HATE my husband because:


  • He eats like a ******* slob... when I see him eat I wish he would choke and die.


  • He  is articulate when it comes to expessing his wants/needs/feelings but a retard when it comes to understanding MY wants/needs/feelings.


  • He is selfish and thinks he is the only person that matters!


  • He ignores my input and tells me I don't know a damn thing then he does what he wants to do and ***** everything up!


  • After he ***** everything up he blames me


  • I have worked the same job for the last 9 years... he has had no less than 15 jobs in the same time frame ( I won't even mention the prolonged periods of unemployment!)


  •  He is insensitive and constantly criticizes everything about me and everything I do, yet I never bring up his NUMEROUS flaws because I know it would crush him... even though he gives less than a **** about crushing me.


  • He constantly runs his big mouth and never shuts the hell up!


  • He's always busy doing nothing.


  • He is a male chauvinist, who thinks women are to be seen, not heard


  • He's just plain stupid !


dumbbroad dumbbroad
41-45, F
3 Responses Jul 31, 2010

my husband also criticizes everything i do and i think i should leave him. the love is fading away. when you can't take it anymore, just pack up and leave.

You are so shallow. You took a vow - for better or for worse. Does that mean anything to you? You should see his inner self the caring gentle person that is hidden inside. If you dont agree with him, you should gently point it out through a gentle discussion. HAHAHAHListen Lady, I hate my wife because she is overweight and I find it hard to get aroused. We've hadn't had sex for close to 2 yrs and she had me convinced that I had ED. I tried to reason with her to lose weight but we just got into arguments. "Oh you are hurting me, youo judging me, you are being mean" I truly could not understand her ratinale for overeating and then blaming her circumstance for her weight issue.. and then making me feel like a loser for my inability tp perform in bed. So I artiuclated my frustration in a women's forum and I got flamed big time. That is when I realized that the problem was not with her.. but with women in general!!! There is no rationale thinking gene in the X chromosome. Instead, most women have some form of depression/anxiety/confidence issue that they project on the ppl around them. ...making their life miserable. Now, let me me the devil's advocate and tackle each one of your point - You said: He eats like a ******* slob.My analysis: OK, his table manner sucks. Does he take good care of his body? Is he well groomed? Plus, eating like a slob is your perception. I do not know how bad itis, so can't comment muchYou said: He is articulate when it comes to expessing his wants/needs/feelings but a retard when it comes to understanding MY wants/needs/feelings.My analysis: I have this issue with my wife. Porblem is - my wife's needs/feelings are so convoluted and self-contradictory that even she does not truly understand what she needs. On accassions I have pointed out the inconsistency only to be told that I do not understand. So for most parts I ignore her usless blabbering abt her needsYou said: He is selfish and thinks he is the only person that matters!My analysis: My wife is selfish and everything that she plans takes into account her needs alone. So I HAVE to butt in and express/articulate my need. To which she responds that I am being sooo selfish. When I point out her selfishness she says her interest is in the interest of the family , whereas whatever I need is insane. You said: He ignores my input and tells me I don't know a damn thing then he does what he wants to do and ***** everything up!My analysis: My wife is good with certain thing and I do not question her judgement on those topic. However there are certain areas where I know what I am doing. But she makes it a point to comment and offer her input (for instance when I am doing a fix up job around home). So what do I do - I plainly ignore her input. I listen to what she says, and then go about doing what I want. It is the best way to get the work done instead of countering her point.You said: After he ***** everything up he blames meMy analysis: When I mess up, she makes it a point to blame me and make me feel bad. So when I do take her iput and mess up, I blame her so that she understands how it feels to be blamed.You said: I have worked the same job for the last 9 years... he has had no less than 15 jobs in the same time fr<x>ame ( I won't even mention the prolonged periods of unemployment!)My analysis: This means nothing. Some jobs are stable. Some are not. What is your hrly rate like, compared to his? The fact that you bring it up is idiotic. The bigger fact is, everytime he has been out of job and unemployed, he HAS found a job. Trust me, itis easy to get into a self-pity, depressive state after one loses his job. Obvisouly your husband has enough emotional strenght to get a job 15 times !!!You said: He is insensitive and constantly criticizes everything about me and everything I do, yet I never bring up his NUMEROUS flaws because I know it would crush him... even though he gives less than a **** about crushing me.My analysis: Have you ever changed your behaviour because of his criticism? My wife is stubborn and does not. So my criticism goes more and more toxic, eventually I stop criticizinv her and dont care. To her, it is voctory/norvana. In actuality, the relationship gets weaker when this happens. It creates a disconnect. You said: He constantly runs his big mouth and never shuts the hell up!My analysis: So you want him to be mum all the time? What do you want?You said: He's always busy doing nothing.My analysis: He is doing things that are not in your list. You want him to be your slave and running your errands and it irritates you when he is doing things that interest him. I like to work in my garage, but my wife would rather have me doing the dishes in the kitchen. To her I am busy doing nthign in the garage. Yu said: He is a male chauvinist, who thinks women are to be seen, not heardMy analysis: YOu are stupid. All men are visual. That is how we are programmed. No one can change that. We are born with a **** and a mind that finds beautiful women intersting. Only God can change that. Exceptions would be gay ppl. Would you rather have your husband turn gay?You said: He's just plain stupid !My analysis: You do not respect him as a person. How can you expect him to respect you? I am sure he is calling you Stupid.

lady you need to take action NOW because this moran will never change. He has you where he wants you and he is a BULLY. Everyone knows the only way to deal with a bully is to stand up to them. Your better than him and he is more afraid than you think that you might leave him. Give him a wake up call now before he distroys your life and dont take anymore of his bullshit. Get out now and get your life back it can happen very quickly you just need to take the first step and the rest will happen.