I Hate My Husband And I Love Him Too

I dont know if I am the only one feeling this way. But when I love my husband I really love him. We have fun together and I love being with him. But when I hate him, I hate him with all my heart. He is a controlling husband, and if he doesnt get what he wants he starts a war.. I hate the way he thinks, acts and how he treats me when he is mad.

I am in a face where I hate him. He wants me to quit my job because I am required to travel once a month. He also travels as a job requirement, at least twice a month. But he thinks that since I am the wife, I should get a 8 to 5 job and be home to take care of his kid and our kid. Since I am not willing to do that, he stopped talking to me and he said that he would not try to be a better husband anymore because I dont care about the way he is feeling. ... Of course I do care, but he is asking for something unreasonable. He needs control, and is selfish of him to think that it is ok for him to succceed in his carrer but not for me.

How can you hate someone and love him at the same time??
Carovale1 Carovale1
26-30, F
2 Responses Aug 5, 2010

I feel the same way abt my wife. I love her and hate her at the same time. She is great in all department.. tolerable in some department (like her spending habit)...but I hate her for being overweight and not doing anything abt it... her weight has taken the fun out of her life as well as my life. I do not get aroused by her and in the last 2 yrs we've had sex may 2-3 times. Mostly I ********** watching **** on net. I hate my life .. and for this problem I hold my wife responsible for it.

Absolutely. Unreasonable people, whether husbands or not, affect the way we live our lives. A partnership is just that - two people agreeing on the way things are - not one person laying down the law.