Another Holiday With No Gift

my ex pulled the same crap.. all the good stuff for him.. all the gifts for him.. all the clothes for him.. I remember having to ask him for a few $$s so I could buy a pair of pantyhose to wear to church.... but he bought himself a $200 suit

he already had a whole closet full of clothes and suits and shoes, I only had 5 dresses and just tshirts and sweat pants.. and 1 pair of dress shoes...

for my birthday we went to ihop ... for his bday he spent $300 on a party *smh*

I got punched in the head on Christmas Eve then got a watch and earrings for Christmas. I think you should consider getting marriage counseling before you call it quits that way you can say you tried it all..

my husband has never given me gifts- ever. he is a selfish a**hole. When you described christmas it sounds just like my place.... I say cheat or leave- get what you need elsewhere.

move on. you are still young. I marrried a highly grumpy, critical man. He never remembers to give gifts (maybe once in 10 years). Now, we are about to celebrate our 15 year anniversary. I have wasted my youth, looks, on him. I have become depressed and now eat to much. I should have moved on years ago, but i guess I was scared. Now I have 2 sweet kids, and no job, so I feel stuck.



I use to work in Human Resorces, and the one thing I learned, is PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE. Guess what 15 years later, my guy is still selfish, critical, grumpy, and I have upped my antidepressants. Ugh.I'd advise you to polish up your resume and move on. I feel stuck- don't do what I have done.

It seems like my situation but the only difference is we are not facing financial crises,we havebeen married since 3.5 years and we never celebrate our anniversory,he never gave me any gift ,he just bought me a ring during early days of our marriage,we spend christmas at home alone because our families lives in another country,we have a 2 year old daughter he takes care of her but he has nothing to do with me..i just dont understand men,they think a mother sits at home and sleep all day and they are the only one who wake up early and do work and we are just a piece of crap.

my late husband did ...he loved unconditionally ....but being alone in this world is so hard ,,,,

but i dont think i will ever find another man like him ...i think thier are all married or dead ..so what hope is there for the rest of us ....and i think what your husband is doing is mean ....i think he needs to grow up

Reading these posts just make me feel like there are no good men around. I can either completely relate to what you all are going through or I can see myself in the same situation soon because of the way things are currently going in my relationship. Is anyone out there really happily married? Is there a guy out there that can really love his woman unconditionally? Discouraged.

It sounds like a lot of your problems revolve around financial stress. That's so hard to get through, and it puts the husband in a really embarassing position which might be why he is so negative with you. It sounds like you both have a lot of "staying power" though, commitment, and the guts to work through your problems together. Did you try to talk to him about his negativity? A lot of people just don't realize how negative they are because they aren't happy themselves, their mood is not condusive to "Oh Hi honey, how wonderful you look today!" because they're in the dumps in their head, from all the problems in their own life. Maybe if he worked at it, he could become more self-aware and more positive with you. Maybe you could start the trend. Sounds like his "making a million dollars" attitude is also a kind of ego cover-up thing, trying to act big because he feels like a failure and hopes you don't figure it out and leave him. I think you'll pull through. Good luck!

What an *******