Why Won't He Get A Job?
I am so frustrated with the idiot who I have the misfortune to call my husband. He has only worked about 4 months of the 12 years we have been married. We have 2 special needs children who require alot of therapy. Therapy equals money and I have had to shoulder all of the financial responsibility for the entire family on my own. Of course stupid husband keeps telling me to stop the "damn" therapies because its costing money he rather spend on vacation or something. I refuse to do so. Up until last year I made a pretty good living but recently my salary saw a drastic reduction and I can no longer do it on my own. Stupid husband did finally get a job but quit after 2 months. His reason for quitting? He didn't like it. Who works because they like their job? I work because I have to keep a roof over our heads and food in our stomaches, all of which we are in danger of losing. I keep asking him to look for another job, that our lives depend on it. He says fine, always in a very put-out, angry way, like I'm asking him to do something horrible. Of course he hasn't made any effort to look for a job. I'm not sure what he does all day. I called him this afternoon from work at around 2 o'clock and it sounded like he was just coming out of a nap! I just cannot stand to see him doing nothing all day! It drives me crazy! And to make matters worse, his family will be coming for their yearly visit soon. He doesn't even have the decency to tell me when they'll be here. When I ask, he responds with "what do you care?" His family lives abroad. When they come, they stay, (at my house) for over a month. If I'm not perfectly nice to them at all times, he gets crazy mad at me. They usually (just them, without me) go on an extended trip out of town that I have to pay for. I've asked his parents to intervene on my and the children's behalf and to speak to him about getting a job. They got so mad at me. Called me a horrible wife. Said I was disrespecting my husband and told me they would do no such thing! His whole family is nuts, especially his crazy mother. He got his stupid from her too. Yesterday, we got into another fight about him getting a job. It started out casually enough but escalated pretty fast. He told me that he doesn't like to work and if we are short money, than I better look for a second job. He was driving and we were all in the car so I bit my tongue for fear he'd do something stupid if he got madder. He's still mad at me today. He didn't look at me or speak to me the whole night. He just sat and pouted and gave me the cold shoulder and basically just acted like a stupid spoiled child. He then took himself upstairs and put himself in our son's room and told my son to go sleep in my room. He always does this. Acts like I did something horrible to him and he punishes me by giving me the silent treatment and then refuses to sleep with me, as if I would want his stupid body next to mine! He really is not a good person. There really is no redeeming quality about this guy. Every few weeks he tells me he hates me and that he'll divorce me. I've always been the one to try to smooth things over with him because it stresses my kids out so much to see us fighting. Once he did leave and didn't come back for several days. My kids went crazy. They were beside themselves. They cried and cried and asked to see daddy. It broke my heart. I want to be strong and tell him to leave. But when I think of my kids, I just can't. I really have to judge my own sanity at this point. Who would keep a guy like this around even with children involved? I may be crazier than my stupid husband.