My Husband Wants All My Moneyi swear i can't have anything that is just mine! i have been working on getting my ssi benefits and my husband is constantly harping on me to call the people up to see when they are going to start paying me (which i have called and i am still waiting to hear something). he was so excited about maybe a card came in the mail the other day from them that i was going to get my money finally so he could have the card! well, it was another card that i signed up for hoping to hide some money away that would be just mine. well, he started asking me why i would want a card like that. its not free like a debit card. which i know, i would rather pay some money to use it, at least then i know i will have money of my own so that he can't get it. he already has my bank card, and refused to have another card made. he doesn't see the reason why we should have 2 cards at the same place.
today he is out riding his motorcycle and he doesn't know that my green dot card came in the mail today. so i am hiding that one. at least if he doesn't know about it then he wont stop me from activating it. i am so tired of this happening. he says that the money is both of ours. but if it was meant for both of us then why is he the only one that is allowed to carry the cards and buy what he wants. yeah sure he buys me things sometimes, but it takes months for him to do it. but when it is something he wants he gets it right away.
i do have a paypal account where i am trying to get filled up with working on the internet. i haven't sent him anymore money out of that account in a year. but still don't have that much in their to work with now. and my husband doesn't understand why some marriages have separate money. he doesn't think it would work out right. well, it's because their is always someone in the family that spends money left and right when they have it and the other person saves it and doesn't blow it on everything they see.
i'm the saver of the family and my husband is the biggest spender i have ever seen! he buys things left and right for his motorcycle or any other things he wants. even when he knows we are in a bad spot with money for the month he still spends it on his self. we haven't even been out together for months. but he sure finds the money where he can ride his motorcycle for miles and miles. we haven't done anything fun together at all in a long time. even when a concert came to town that we both wanted to see, he couldn't help himself but spend money so we didn't have enough for the tickets to go. he bought himself a stupid ps3 game, that cost $80.00! so after he done that their was no way we had the extra money to go to the concert, which would have cost 100 for the both of us. that right their showed me that he really doesn't care if he takes me out any place at all.
i'm sick of being stuck at the house, but don't have anyone my age to go out with. i don't want to go out with my aunt and uncle cause they don't go out and do fun things at all. they are super christains, so going out having a drink or something is not going to happen. so i try to endure being stuck here at home. even though it is about to drive me crazy! while my husband goes out and have fun without me, doing god knows what and with who. anyway i have ranted enough. i'm sure some people here know what i am going through.