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I too hated my husband for a very long time, fell into a deep depression over 10 years, thought this poor marriage had to be my fault. Contrire...It was him..Still hate him, he makes my life hell in little ways still, left 8 months ago, and could not be happier..I left money , stability, and signed up for a new day, new life, and smiles I forgot about.. Regret? Of coarse. I regret I waited 20 years to wake up.....
RAINBOW RAINBOW 41-45, F 65 Responses May 10, 2007

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i hate my husband even though he has tried to be nice to be an occasional outburst would show how much s*** he has in his heart against me. He's very needy, and is always suspicious. But i cant quit because of my F***** up culture.

Congratulations! Seriously, I'm really glad you're happy. I hate my husband right now. I might love him again tomorrow morning, but if I don't love him again my October 31, he's GONE!!!

Woke up and still hate him.......!!!

Haha :)

good job

Thanks for this story. It really, really touched me. I don't know if I will ever get the courage to do what I know I must, but I will think of your last words every day.

You GO girl!!! Been there Done that!!

Oh God, how I needed to read this right now.

You showed him, sister! Now you are free to have the life you deserve!

Has everyone totally given up on their vows? I mean seriously!! Hate is such a strong word. Sounds like I wouldn't even mind killing your husband if given that chance! Shame on you guys!!

I have not given up on vows...my soon to be ex-husband has. Successful marriage healthy marriage takes two. If one gives up, the other is wasting their time. And life, as we all know, is short.

Shut the hell up!

Since this was written in 2007, some six years ago. I wonder if she ever found a better life for herself. She has not been on here since that time.

ı just wonder what happened or what made you take the first step ? in between: good luck in your new life ! ı wish ı can do the same !!!

i'm glad you got your life back. Being cheated on is no way to live. I'm glad you're standing on your own two now :) Congratulations on that :))

Absolutely. Own boss.

I m very happy for you finally you re free, you have to take you re life in your hand. .. beware to not falling in the same trap.

Hey....at least you're free now.

You are my hero!

There is just no point in continuing in a relationship that is hurtful. Sooner or later you had to make up your mind. Later does not mean it was too late.
Well done

I agree with hardingphill119... it was awesome that you took a deep breath and fought your way out of that depression and out of that "go no where life" with your ex.

Kudos to you

I hate my husband ive been married 12yrs and dont know how to get out

i really hate my husband he always puts me in awkward position in front of other people especially his inlaws.today my mother in law complained to him about me that was the worst thing coz i always tell her everything and she in turn did that.feeling bad but deep down i know he created my image like that

It took me 14 years to wake up.I hated my husband and his kids more.I know it doesnt seem like a great thing to say but they made my life hell .He didn't work more than 4 weeks at a time he stunk uo the house ,he didnt clean cut the grass take out the garbage etc. his kids constantly lied the last straw was when CPS came to my home and said my son was touching his 11 year old and they questioned him at his school ,I was hell hot angry. He had the nerves to say "It's not that serious ". we constantly have knock down drag out verbal fights over his kids who was supposed to stay with us a wek and it was 3 years before I left..I decided to hell with this and I saved up every penney didn't pay one bill purchased a cheap $800 car .Viewed several apartments that seemed safe and liveable rented a U-Haul and moved out everything in 1 hour I didnt even pack I just tssed things on the trucl.Guess what??/I am now very Happy..No man is worth any woman losing value. can tell you I waited ,I cried ,I prayed ,I forgave and continued to love and give .ow the only giving is for me and my son..You can do it pre-plan and say your gonna do it and just make the 1st step.Once you have you will not believe how light your steps will become as you unload all your stress.

If I was still working (been laid off but job hunting like crazy), I'd be out of here - I was happy when I was single. I've been unhappy for about 10 years (all of my money is tied up in this god-forsaken hose) and downright miserable for the last 1 - 2 years. I'm glad (jealous is more like it!) you got out with your sanity and are able to enjoy life again!

I am happy for you

Wow! It's hard to find strength to even think that a relationship might not be working. I am in one and it's scarey! We have been married for 4 1/2 years and are currently pregnant with our first child (after years if wanting one). We have gone through councelling numerous times but the only time that really worked was when he went by himself, before we married and it helped him "see the light", and that living without me was not an option. After we married, he reverted back to his old ways of silence, lack of interest in me, both physically and emotionally, and lack of respect. I have told myself time and time again that the man who proposed and married me is still there but he refuses to come out, despite councelling, infertility (and getting through it), and me pouring my heart out time and again. It's getting exhausting and depressing and now that we are expecting a child, I am more scared than ever and upset that he still treats me with as little respect as he does. I know he loves me but he doesn't understand how he makes me feel when he leaves me a public events for no reason, when he refuses to talk to me or to be intimate with me in any way, when he shows such a lack of interest in the planning of the arrival of our child, when he refuses to discuss issues of concern, when he never compilimemts me nor tells me I'm beautiful (instead he agrees with me when I say that I look like a "Plump" in my pregnancy) and when he refuses to be involved in many areas of my life. I know hate is a strong word but sometimes I look at him and feel that .... And the funny thing is, he knows it but he doesn't care :(

I had to reply to you because I felt like I wrote this back in 1995 to myself. Get out now. Don't put you and your child through it. I am you...20 years later. I am now miserable. Go read some of my stories. He doesn't hit me, beat me, cheat on me, gamble, drink....nothing. But we are both miserable and hate our lives. It's been detrimental to both of us and our children. Please, please, please. If you love yourself and this baby. Be happy. He's not going to change. Feel free to message me any time you like. I have been there. Hell, I am still there. But I am changing. Good luck, honey.

Mine doesn't hit, beat, gamble, drink, etc either, but I am still miserable. Making me miserable has made him miserable. So much ****** me off that I started a blog to write down every little thing. It feels good to get it out. What really makes me mad is people telling me I should be thrilled that he's a decent man. Like I should be happy that he just pays the bills. I can pay them myself. Might have to get a roommate who hates men now too or work two jobs, but it will be worth it. I hate being this lonely and unhappy when I thought I married someone else.

The baby will only make you regret staying even more. I'm laying by my baby now wishing I had chosen a better father with every breath I take and wondering if divorce is really worse than staying.

@Laura159, When there is no love but just emptiness and there is no connection. He could just be another man on the train as it were. I know what you mean. Coming in to a home that hates you. The walls hate you, the vibes are negative, everything in the home tells you to get lost...
But, you have your life that you ought to live out for yourself too.

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How does one move on? Hatred from my end is the only truth. But I still can't get out of this relationship and leave him.

less than 1 year of marriage. i dont know why we are married..... i knew it wouldnt get any better... just worse.

In the same boat. We had relationship issues early on. Do not know what the heck I was thinking when he told me, yes TOLD ME, we were getting married. Wishing you the best.

Don't be like the rest of us...get on with your life and stop wasting it go out get a life and enjoy it without him. W all deserve it but your are still on time to regret only one year and not ten or twenty.

I think this is the best post I ever read!!!!

I am so glad I found this site. I just googled and all of you are here feeling the same way I feel about my husband of 9 years now. I had a good sincere laugh at one of the post because I thought I posted it. All the similarities are here and gives me hope to follow through with my divorce. I will be filling out the papers tomorrow for sure. I have 2 adult children and we have a 6 year old together. I finally hit my rock bottom and I know I am much stronger than what I was 1 year ago. I did not know his behavior had a name (narcissist). I felt relieved to know I am not the trouble maker in this relationship. I found a picture of a nude woman on his computer 3 weeks ago and he said she was only a friend. I tried to make it up to him by being a little more sexier because I thought it was what he was looking for...wrong!!! This man is just crazy and wants me to believe I am crazy. Thanks to the person that talks about how she left after so many years. No one really wants a divorce, I just want to be in a healthy relationship with someone who loves, respects me, and treats me the way I deserve to be treated. By the way, I knew he was an addict before we married, but I was hoping he could see that I loved him inspite of his faults. I thought I could help to change him into this wonderful person I felt he was on the inside. I assumed he needed a good woman like me to bring him back to life, after all everyone else kicked him to the curve and I didn't want to be so cruel. That was then and thank God I am fully awake now!!!!!

Guess what? I did the same thing. Left him and got my smile back. I was gone for two years and guess what? I came back. Guess what? I am miserble and planning on leaving again. It sucks so bad. I thought I was careful coming back. I thought he really had changed. But the past three months since I have been back he has progressively gone back to his poor me attitude and I am still alone in the house with him. I regret giving it another shot. The stress and disappointment are horrible. I had watched our relationship begin to go back to the way it was, but this week was the straw that broke the camels back. I had a hysterectomy on Monday. Interestingly HE didnt feel good Monday morning. I told him I would go to surgery myself, he pulled the martyr act and pulled himself out of bed to go with me but acted miserable at the hospital. I was the one scared to death. Scared of surgery, scared to lose my uterus, scared of cancer, scared of pain, scared of dying and here he was in a wheelchair tired with a headache and complaining to me like he expected me to baby him. All it did was **** me off. After surgery in my room if I made a comment about pain or not feeling good, it was always countered by him with his problems. The kicker was coming home from the hospital. He dropped off my presc<x>riptions, I told him I needed an abdominal binder and cough medicine. He came back with nothing, said they didnt have it and we were going home he wold come back for my meds. We got home, I asked him to get my purse and flowers from the car, he screamed at me that he would but for me to wait he had to go in and have diarrhea first. It was urgent for him, but he stood there explaining it to me for longer than it would have taken to get the stuff and help me into the house. He came back out and held the dogs back while I made my way up the stairs. He could have put the dogs up and helped me, but he didnt. He came in with me, handed me two pillows and told me to wake him up in 45 min and he would go get my meds. Well he wouldnt get back up. Finally my oldest son came home and I sent him to get it. He didnt realize that I hadnt had pain meds since 6am and he ran around town and didnt come back for a few hours. Husband slept through the whole thing. I was pissed and at one point ask my husband if later he would take care of dinner for us (I was even pissed that I had to ask). My son had to go to work and husb said he would get up later and go get us something to eat. Around 6pm, I asked if he was still planning on getting us something, he said yes. At 8 I asked if he was planning on getting up and going, he said yes. Needless to say he didnt and my son brought home frozen pizza after his shift. It was midnight. Husband still not out of bed today and still has not even asked me how I feel. Honestly I think he is mad at me for not giving him attn for not feeling well. So I hate him again. I really did think maybe we could make it work. But he will never let go of his selfishness and I know I will not be able to deal with that for the rest of my life. I am now angry at myself for even giving him an opportunity. I am even surprised that he wont even try to help me after such a major surgery. It hurts me so much, really hurts. And for the record he is not sick at all. He might have the runs, but there is nothing new wrong with him. If a friend called him and wanted to come over or go to a music show somehow he would be fine. I need to post this in my stories, I started writing about hating him a few years ago and this long post needs to be there too. My husband is selfish and I hate him. You all are right IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

keepgoing, I wonder if you are married to a man I used to date. Your story sounds crazy, but I know that this is exactly the kind of crazy way some men behave. I hope you have found your way free of this man.

My husband is not quite as bad as the ex-boyfriend I mentioned, but is bad enough. I've been with him years after I've desired a divorce :-( Don't have a job, trying to get myself in a place where I can support myself. (sigh)

It's hard not to slip into despair. I think I'm going to scan craigslist for jobs, now!

Im going to take a page out of ur book and just leave.

But HOW...... did you leave???

Yeh for you!

How did you do it? Please shre THAT story for thse of us who want to follow you.

I wish I can do that!

For almost 12 years I was this kind of a husband. To all the wives and to my wife who went through miserable life with your marriage, I am terribly sorry. Please forgive my self-indulgence, immaturity, un-mindfulness, insensitivity to your feelings and selfishness. I was complacent that I assumed everything is OK. Now she really pissed off that she shouted: ENOUGH. Then I realized everything I did to her that made her miserable. I regret the chances that I missed to make her happy. She's all of my life and I love her. Now, my realization doesn't make sense to her. Should she decide to go free, I need the courage and strength to face the consequence of my actions. She deserved to be happy

Its tough because often tolerant, accepting people don't scream ENOUGH until it is too late to fix things. When I left my ex he tried in many ways to fix things and get me back, but it was too late. I am the kind of person who doesn't say "its over" until it really is and there is no going back. I let him know I was unhappy with our life many times, I wasn't mean and aggressive about it. Maybe I should have been because after going to therapy he realized that because I was still kind, accepting, and loving toward him, even though I hated our lifestyle, he just didn't take it seriously. Maybe if I had been angry and screamed and yelled and thrown things and walked out on him a few times he would have changed. Oh well. To be quite honest I don't regret leaving because the man I am with now is my true love and the man of my dreams. Maybe things happened the way they did for a reason. I still feel sorry for my ex though because he regularly tells me he regrets his behavior and wishes he had changed things before it was too late. I hope it isn't too late for you and you can make changes that will make your wife happy and result in a good marriage for both of you. Good luck.

This is me

*high fiver* congrats for leaving. Now's better to wake up than never! :-D

I hate my husband aswell. Im happy for you to have left. I havent had the strength or guts to do it yet. Im trying to work out a plan on how to do it. Having 3 teenager kids with no money, no support means its going to take alittle longer then i thought.. I hate who i am. A weak women that let her husband .change the person shee is

I did the same. I didn't hate my ex. I loved him, but I didn't like him and I hated the life I had with him. Eventually I stopped loving him in the way that made me want to stay with him. When I finally couldn't take it any more and got the courage to leave, like you, I just walked away. I didn't ask for support, and let him keep the house while my kids and I moved into an apartment. I just wanted out and didn't want to have to deal with any more of his crap. Even though my life became harder for a while, I was much happier. I felt like I was floating on air sometimes because that giant weight I always felt when I was with him was finally off my shoulders. <br />
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Its been over ten years, and I am now with the love of my life and we have a great life together. I can't imagine being happier, and so are my kids. My ex has gone through extensive therapy and realizes the mistakes he made and has told me several times he regrets losing the love of his life because of his selfish, narcissistic behavior. I hold no grudges. I hope that one day he will find a new love and become happy like I am.

When I read your experience, I cried. My wife is just as objective as you. Strong and been very good to me. If I can make her happy again, I am preparing the strength and courage to take her terms.

I feel for you and commend you! I didn't hate my husband too much until my parents died within 3 weeks of each other and then he filed for divorce 6 months later. He said it was because "I had changed". Gee, ya think??? I hate him now and I love hating him! He ruined our family, we have 3 girls, 2 of whom will not speak to me now, he's become a born again "hypocrite" and I LOVE to hate him! He's a fat, ignorant joke and even though he caused me a nervous breakdown after the divorce, I now, couldn't be happier to be on my own. I've been through hell and back and he thinks he's GOD. I can't wait for judgement day! Hate is the only emotion that can purge your soul. Go ahead and hate him as much as you want. It feels so good.

at least youre awakeincanada now, right? LOL coudent pass it up

you all sound the same. strap thathelmet tight, here comes the shorty for ya...BEEP!!!BEEP!!!

I have known your husband for years, he to is happy, now!!

I wish I had your strength!!! I married a selfish, vicious, abusive, egotistical, belittling man. I have been in counseling for over a year because you emotionally and verbally abused me so bad I thought I was at fault for all our problems. And yet, I'm still to chicken to leave. Reading your post brought me some hope. I forgot what it means to be happy...I forgot what it feels like to smile.

I admire you, I am very unhappy with my marriage.

It doesn't matter how long it took it matters you are happy and at peace with yourself.<br />
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I just want mine to croak about the time I am ready to retire t hat would be a blessing!!!

It doesn't matter how long it took it matters you are happy and at peace with yourself.<br />
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I just want mine to croak about the time I am ready to retire t hat would be a blessing!!!

I'm a 32 year old woman, married to my Greek husband for five years but been with him for almost 11. I should have left after I seen all the signs. But instead of thinking with my brain..I thought with my heart.He has no respect for me, to the point when I'm crying because of the awfulk things he does, he gets pissed off and says I have issues. We have two very bueatiful daughters , and i tell them everyday to never have children and grow up to just get married. It's a prison term. I stay at home expected to do everything like his mother did when he was growing up, without needs, without consideration, while like his dad he goes out to the bar twice and sometimes three times a week. I tried buying a slip the other day, just to feel somewhat sexy..and was told why would i need that! " You are a mother!" I feel so old, and undisired. And while I had a row with him earlier, sitting here ready to down a few sleeping pills and a glass of wine writing this and crying; he is down stairs playing video games. The last thing i have ever boughten myself, such as clothing was about a year ago..everything is worn out. I just want to feel like...a woman. Not a slave. I want to be adored and loved upon.I'm so tired of being alone. I have had chances to have an affair...however...he wants to know about everything i'm doing. I don;t get it,, it's not like he gives me any attention, or anything for that matter..never has taken me out. Twice in one year. There are horrific things he has done to me, and because he works eight hours a day at a desk he feels like he can just do what ever he wants.<br />
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What has happened to our society? What has happened to the men in it? Where do they get this idea that because they work for eight hours it's okay to treat us women like complete crap? I remember being young and watching my grandfather working in a ditch for 14 hours a day, come home , kiss my grandmother on the cheek and still find time to take her ball room dancing.<br />
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He wants me to work. As a waitress for the fast cash. He says it's for me..however...he has proven to me over and over again when he takes my entire check. I'm really wondering if dying isnt such a bad idea.

I feel your sadness through the words on the screen. I will pray for you. You are a woman and you dont need him to validate that. I know sometimes you want someone to say something nice or show you some attention, especially from your husband but if he doesnt and you solely rely on him to make you feel worth anything, you will never feel good. Buy yourself a new outfit, fix your her up, take your daughter to a movie cause if you dont present yourself differently than what you have been doing sadly, your daughters will do the same. Children follow by example. Teach them to not need a man to "make" them feel special. you can email me and chat if you would like.

The first thing that comes to my mind is: ''Divorce his sorry a**!!!''. Unfortunately it is not an easy thing to do with this type of man. Scumbags like him are likely to pull some cr*p like threatening to take the children away from you, threatening to get you financially broke, refusing to pay child support, or even becoming violent. So you have to be very smart about this if you ever think about getting out. Do not ever let him know you're thinking about leaving him if such thoughts pass through your mind.

You DO deserve love and happiness and to be treated with kindness and respect. But you won't get it from him, he won't change. Maybe try standing up for yourself a little the next time he says something insulting to you... Maybe go see a counsellor by yourself, at least once, so they can give you advice about what to do in your difficult situation. If he ever lays a hand on you, call the police, get a restraining order so he can't come near you or the children, and get a divorce.

To those of you who have been married 20+, I'm right there with you; too just googled the same thing "I hate my husband"...and it makes me sad and I can't believe i'm sitting here typing on this site or typing those hateful words..I'm frustrated,tired, depressed and like lorimac1008, I've always been such a happy, happy person, but not so much lately. Curious, do your husbands play xbox? My husband is 48, plays all the time and I feel so lonely and so damn frustrated. I've asked and asked for him to just at least tone it down a bit to no avail. Ugh, I don't feel like doing a thing; my house is in disarray, my bills aren't being paid, etc...i'd definitely say i'm a depressed person. Just wanted you to know that you aren't alone and I feel some comfort knowing there is somewhere I can come to type out my frustrations without having to really discuss it with friends or family.

yes infact right after a row with mine...I'm in tears hurting because of the lack of attention. He is playing Mortal Kombat Live on 360.

To those of you who have been married 20+, I'm right there with you; too just googled the same thing "I hate my husband"...and it makes me sad and I can't believe i'm sitting here typing on this site or typing those hateful words..I'm frustrated,tired, depressed and like lorimac1008, I've always been such a happy, happy person, but not so much lately. Curious, do your husbands play xbox? My husband is 48, plays all the time and I feel so lonely and so damn frustrated. I've asked and asked for him to just at least tone it down a bit to no avail. Ugh, I don't feel like doing a thing; my house is in disarray, my bills aren't being paid, etc...i'd definitely say i'm a depressed person. Just wanted you to know that you aren't alone and I feel some comfort knowing there is somewhere I can come to type out my frustrations without having to really discuss it with friends or family.

Googling "I hate my husband" brought me to this website and I feel like I found home. Thank you for telling us you left. I'm watching your example. I've been profoundly miserable for more than 20 years and am starting to wonder if maybe it's too late to do anything. I've always been open with my husband about how much I can't stand him but now my anger's showing up in places beyond the marriage: church, friends, the check-out counter, and so on. That's really worrying.

I googled the same thing only with an added expletive. I can relate to the concern you now have for your anger spilling into other areas of your life. It's weird, I am the kind of person who each day wakes up with a smile despite very hard times lately. I put music on. I start pleasant conversation. I know that I am suppose to make a conscious decision to choose to be happy and I do it. By the end of the day, all the effort is for naught. I will have been made miserable by the hateful, sideways comments made by my husband all day long. I choose to ignore the first twenty or thirty and let them roll off my back with the hope of a change in his mood. If there were a Nobel prize for tolerance, I'd be in the running. But sadly, each and every day ends in disappointment. My general happiness is changed to being depressed, and angry. If I get a phone call, I don't take it. If my grandbaby tries to talk to me, I go in my room. If I had a plan to be productive, nothing gets done. Like you, I have become worried. I don't know what's going to happen. But I have a strong feeling something will and very soon. Thanks for letting me share this with you and let me know if things are looking up for you. I'm interested. -LoriMac

I am the same 13 years, my youth is fleeting, my heart is heavy and now his affecting my children.

your success story is music to my ears and encouragement to my soul after 25 years with a disgusting sociopath. Happy days on the horizon.

Good for you ! You only live once. I will leave someday too !

congrats....I am next...

Good for you. Wish I had the funds to leave. <br />
Tried calling lawyers, they only want $$. <br />
Called the police, they can't do anything. <br />
So I'm stuck. <br />
Need to win the lottery.

$14 fill out the paper work yourself.

atleast u had the courage many of us just drop the very idea of giving up hell for heaven coz of family presurre n society presurres... i hate seeing noone else but myself in this situation ... the thing i hated the most today m gong through it... getting married in the age of 21 isnt a wise decision... hes 5 years elder to me but wht ... his family never loved me or accepted me.. n he just acts tht nothing happened... i hv been humiliated by him n his family and i dont think i can take it anymore... i will start working asap.... i feel insecure.. i could hv left this pittyful lonely life... its been 2 years now.. just because i hv my moments wid him... keeps it going.. but i dont till when .... i feel lonely , noone undertsnads me.. i just want independence and right to breathe on my own terms... mty husband says he loves me.. but seriously hes a chicken whose just a man wid words and not a man of words.. he hasnt done anything for me just once took care of me when i got hospitalised... i loved him for tht... but there have been issues i cant tolerate... i just want peace ... i want to reborn as a man... i think thts how one gets freedom in india....ppl say women are free now... but thts not true we r burdened and the most burdened of them all... i love my parents and thats wht keeps me chained... i cant see them going through a deal of emotional trauma coz of me leaving my husband...

atleast u had the courage many of us just drop the very idea of giving up hell for heaven coz of family presurre n society presurres... i hate seeing noone else but myself in this situation ... the thing i hated the most today m gong through it... getting married in the age of 21 isnt a wise decision... hes 5 years elder to me but wht ... his family never loved me or accepted me.. n he just acts tht nothing happened... i hv been humiliated by him n his family and i dont think i can take it anymore... i will start working asap.... i feel insecure.. i could hv left this pittyful lonely life... its been 2 years now.. just because i hv my moments wid him... keeps it going.. but i dont till when .... i feel lonely , noone undertsnads me.. i just want independence and right to breathe on my own terms... mty husband says he loves me.. but seriously hes a chicken whose just a man wid words and not a man of words.. he hasnt done anything for me just once took care of me when i got hospitalised... i loved him for tht... but there have been issues i cant tolerate... i just want peace ... i want to reborn as a man... i think thts how one gets freedom in india....ppl say women are free now... but thts not true we r burdened and the most burdened of them all... i love my parents and thats wht keeps me chained... i cant see them going through a deal of emotional trauma coz of me leaving my husband...

atleast u had the courage many of us just drop the very idea of giving up hell for heaven coz of family presurre n society presurres... i hate seeing noone else but myself in this situation ... the thing i hated the most today m gong through it... getting married in the age of 21 isnt a wise decision... hes 5 years elder to me but wht ... his family never loved me or accepted me.. n he just acts tht nothing happened... i hv been humiliated by him n his family and i dont think i can take it anymore... i will start working asap.... i feel insecure.. i could hv left this pittyful lonely life... its been 2 years now.. just because i hv my moments wid him... keeps it going.. but i dont till when .... i feel lonely , noone undertsnads me.. i just want independence and right to breathe on my own terms... mty husband says he loves me.. but seriously hes a chicken whose just a man wid words and not a man of words.. he hasnt done anything for me just once took care of me when i got hospitalised... i loved him for tht... but there have been issues i cant tolerate... i just want peace ... i want to reborn as a man... i think thts how one gets freedom in india....ppl say women are free now... but thts not true we r burdened and the most burdened of them all... i love my parents and thats wht keeps me chained... i cant see them going through a deal of emotional trauma coz of me leaving my husband...

Don't have kids and if u do run, it gets worse! My husband has never stuck up for me ever. Open your eyes is he selfish and never listens to you? Then run.

Awesome! That takes a lot of courage. May I ask, do you have kids? I find the whole having kids together complicates the divorce angle. Although of course I was with my husbando for years before we had kids and should have left him when it was much easier to do so.

I keep thinking... if I finally make him leave, I will have the joy, energy and motivation to earn the $2K more I will need per month because of having two households...

I hope some day I find the courage and strength to do the same. I am very happy for you.

Hurray! U go gal ! and better b late than never :p

congratulations ..on a new and better life

oh my goodness. Congratulations.

Yay!

I wish I had the guts to do it.

Me too!

me three... :( congrats though!! so happy for you!

me four

way to go!

Well done, it must have taken a lot of guts to do that., You go!!

congratulations! Dont wear any helmet now, ok. Cheers to us!