Planning To Leave

My husband and I have been married for almost ten years and I absolutely hate him. When I try to have a discussion with him about our problems, he always acts as if he doesn't know what I'm talking about and it drives me crazy. He's had ED for the past 3 1/2-4 years and refuses to go to the doctor for it. (Just another thing he ignores) He's not a good father at all. He pays no attention to what our children are doing in school. I'm always the one to take them to doctor's appointments and visit the school for different events, which from observing most moms bringing their kids to dr's appointments, I'm not alone. He has a major anger problem. Whenever we discuss something, he either gets extremely angry or acts clueless. I'm sick and tired of it and I'm ready to leave. Right now, we live in a hotel and have been for 9 months now. I have no idea where our storage with all of our belongings are and when I mention it, he changes the subject. I'm tired of living a lie and I am planning to leave as soon as I can. I'm not working right now. I need a job, a car and a descent place to take my kids to live. I can't live like this anymore.
cocoahoney cocoahoney
36-40, F
2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

I hope u find a job and get your life on track. Remember in a divorce u are entilted to some of hhis SS if the marriage has been at least 10 years.

Thank you. In 17 days, it will be 10 years for us.

OMGosh your telling my story! I've been with the same guy for 13 years, common law, 2 kids together. I thought I was the only one dealing with somone that either gets angry or acts clueless. This stupid behavior drives me insane. I think it keeps me sick. And the ed thing. WILL not go to a doctor to deal with this issue and so we havent had sex in over a year, he just ignores it and ignores me. I really hate him. I'm sorry you are going through this pain but thank you for sharing. It helps me to know I'm not completely alone. Men are ridiculous

It's good to know I'm not alone, but at the same time, it's pathetic that your husband would change so drastically. I'd be better off for him to say he doesn't love me and he wants a divorce than to keep pretending. I don't love him, but I just try to keep the peace until I can get on my feet.