I Hate Him

I feel like such a failure... But I've read many of the comments here, and thankfully, realize I'm not alone. I hate my husband. We've been married less than a year and things just keep getting worse. I pay ALL of the bills. He just got a "real job," but complains about working. Keep in mind that I'm still paying for everything, including my Xmas gifts from him (found out when I checked my CC statement). He is mean. Goes off for whatever reason and calls me every name in the book and constantly accuses me of cheating. He's also gotten physical with me in some of our bad fights, and I'm not proud to say, but I damn sure did defend myself. We have no communication between us... He can't talk about anything "real." I'm miserable. Drinking too much to drown it all. Is there hope? Or do I make the hard decision and bail??? I'm catholic and don't believe divorce is the first choice, but I'm at a loss. Counseling only briefly helped
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3 Responses Jan 13, 2013

I (for spiritual reasons) also don't believe in divorce. So maybe what you guys need is some time apart. Time to reflect, and learn how to appreciate each other. I've found that usually the only reason a guy accuses you of cheating is because they're doing it themselves. If you ever find out he's been unfaithful, that's your out. The word says so... Stay strong. Don't let the devil take your crown!!!

If you don't believe in divorce, then you need to separate right now. Before this marriage turns into 16 years (like mine) of not paying the bills. If he then divorces, it is not your choice. Please take care of yourself and do this now. He will not change if you stay in your current ways.

Well first thing..pray. so many problems for newly weds! You both need to sit and talk calmly without arguing. Your husband need to support you financially and looking after your needs like a loving husband. Dont give him your money. Take a stand and make him realise his responsibilities.