My husband left me and our for kids. Three he has raised and the last is his first son, who is 6 months. He said he needed to go find him self. We've been together for 5 years. We just got married in sept of 2012. Why couldn't he have found him self before we got married. He's been gone 21 days. I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO HURT IN MY LIFE. How do you get over something like that?