This Morning I Wanted To Stab Him To DeathI've already wrote a story about my idiot husband who does nothing at all but I felt compelled to write about what he did (didn't do) this morning. As usual, he always does nothing to assure that the kids get breakfast in the morning. Every Saturday, I get stuck making the pancakes, waffles, eggs or even just prepping cold cereal for our children.
Well, today just really rubbed me the wrong way for some reason. I have vocalized to him, written down, emailed, etc. my anger about him not doing his parental duty in this regard. I've even got into heated arguments (screaming, yelling, throwing things) about this do he can not continue to play dumb like he doesn't know how much this upsets me. It isn't that I don't want to make their breakfast, I already do it Monday through Friday anyway when he us at work. The issue is that he IS HERE on the weekends and completely free to/capable of throwing some pancakes together or poring cereal into a bowl. He doesn't even do that!
I woke up this morning around 7:00 while he slept. I made up my bed and went to brush my teeth and wash my face. After that I set the table for the kids. He had no excuse not to make breakfast. I sat in the couch and watched a little TV. He woke up, put his cell on charge, went to the bathroom, made coffee then sat on the couch.
We both were watching TV for about 30 minutes before the kids started to wake up. Once they were up, I sent the older to go wash up, while I brushed hair and monitored tooth brushing of the younger. This takes about 20 or do minutes. They also made up their beds. My husband could have been making breakfast then. I get back to the living room to find him with a second cup of coffee and watching TV. Watching all of my hard work like it was a spectator event. When the kids were done in the bathroom, he then goes into the bathroom to brush his teeth and wash his face. He hadn't done this already?! This is just his way if killing time so that he doesn't have to make breakfast.
So, I put dishes away and prepared to make breakfast. When he was finally done in the bathroom (he took longer than I did when I washed up earlier) he goes straight to check his phone, then plops down onto the couch. I hadn't cooked anything yet do he still could have come into the kitchen to make breakfast. Instead he watches me put up the dishes and gets a third cup of coffee.
I go ahead and make breakfast. I set the stopwatch on my cell and sat it on the couch next to my husband. From the moment I entered the kitchen, it took a total of 15 minutes and 46 seconds to make pancakes and have them in the table along with yogurt and bananas, orange juice & water.
Once the kids were seated and starting their meal he magically rises and goes into the kitchen. There, he prepares himself three eggs over easy, sausage gravy, toast some more coffee. I am livid!!!!!!!!!!!
His excuses for not making breakfast for the kids in the morning are always one if the following: I didn't know what they wanted to eat. Or I didn't want to get in your way. Or I wasn't sure if you were going to cook or not. Or I forgot about breakfast. (Yes, he had used this one several times). Or you didn't give me a chance to do anything. (Yeah, clearly I should just sit on my butt like you while the kids go hungry, in order to provide an AMPLE OPPORTUNITY for YOU to demonstrate that you will cook... eventually).
I am so sick of him sitting on his butt and WATCHING me do all of the work. I could just wait him out on it, at the kids expense. It's a lose, lose situation.
I am so fed up with him not doing his part. The bad thing is, he is fully aware of his inaction and just doesn't care. I absolutely hate him!
7yearsin 31-35, F 6 Responses 0 Feb 16, 2013