WHY Do I Hate Him?

        I've been reading some of your stories and they sound terrible and abusive.  I just hate my husband because I hate him.  I hate the way he looks, acts, dresses, acts, laughs everything!  He's not a bad guy but I really, really hate him.  He is very arrogant and thinks he's the only person on the planet who is right about any and every thing but who cares thats men right? 

           I sometimes think the mean guy would be easier because I'd have a reason to leave but the guy who is a hard worker and good provider seems great to everyone else so if I divorce him I'm just a *****.  I've just been put on the back burner for so many years and I think that may be why I hate him but again people would say "he's just trying to provide you a good life" or some **** like that.  I look into the near future though and it scares the crap out of me.  My kids are teenagers and soon it will just be me and him.  How terrible!  I look at my life and say it's a great life with no love.  I feel nothing for him a lot of times - meaning not even hate.  He's just here.  I wish him to leave me all the time but I know he never will.  So I have to either decide that this is my life or do something to change it.  I don't know what to do I just know I can't stand the man.

Markie40 Markie40
1 Response Oct 10, 2008

I am in the same boat as you ... I am a mother of 3, my husband is a VERY hard worker, and I stay at home. He is so petty over material things and thinks that is all me and the kids need .... I can't even stand to look at him anymore, I want to go away with my kids and never come back. BUT, I have no money, no job, no car .... its ALL his :( So I say if you can get out and be happy and live your life, go for it!