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Duper's Delight

I absolutely love that I found this!

Needless to say, the love is dead.

WTF was I thinking?

As I lie here, sleepless, kept awake by horrendous pig snoring noises...

Everyone outside this house thinks you're great and, to them, you are. Volunteer to coach, check, Sunday school, oh yes, community service, you betcha, but inside this house, there is a whole different person. We often talk, when you aren't home, about taping what goes on, as we wouldn't believe the astonding difference, if we weren't living it.

When we met, I thought, oh poor wounded bird, that first wife was really terrible. Years later, you still complain about her constantly, but make no mistake, I'm not listening to that garbage anymore. I have every idea why she ran for the hills. I bet you'll be justifying my absence with those same stories. You go right ahead. Maybe the next one will be a better judge of character.

I tell you something, it gets ignored. Years later, one of you nasty redneck friends says the same thing and it becomes the holy graille.

You control every detail of of lives, even monitoring our cell use. We are paralyzed with fear at your angry outbursts, lest anyone speak up about your behavior. Your are selfish, vindictive and unforgiving. The kids are afraid of you.

We are nearing bankruptcy for the spending that never ends. We can't even get our kids a gift without you using it as an excuse to purchase a major ticket item, for yourself. "You deserve it," you say and I, "just don't want you to enjoy anything." You've spent all our tax returns, refi'd, maxed cards and cashed in retirement and I never saw a dime. You will make sure we have no financial future. I need something, well I better wait until I get a good steady source of income, but you're planning your next vacation/ buying a boat/ perusing the new electronics you "must" have?

Circumstance made me dependent on you, but guess what baby? The party is almost over. It has been a misery and this misery no longer needs my company.

We never really blended our family, as your obvious favorite has no problem getting what the others have been told no about.

I see now that my agreeing to marry you was a serious case of duper's delight, on your part. I broke it off right beforehand, siting what I believed would become irreconsilable differences like, frugality, education, liberalism, feminism, gay rights, to name but a few but you had an answer for everything. It "would balance you out."

You see, I'm on to you. I know that, "I'll work on it," really means, I'll keep (insert financial, anger mgmt, etc. here) under wraps for a bit, at least until the threat of leaving has passed.

Then there's the misc. stuff that I'm just so done with, the skid marks, bowel problems, hillbilly redneck, lack of manners, impotent, straight garbage diet, bad driver, ignorant, mysogynistic, poor pet owner and I'm gonna stop now, cuz' really, I could so go on forever.

Guess what though... because I am so onto you-

as soon as I get that first check, I am beyond out of here!

I'm lookin' forward to freedom.

 

konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 26 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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It's funny how the FIRST WIFE is always such a bad woman, right? HAHAHAH! Should be the first indicator the H is going to be blaming everyone else for his problems.....

OMG, are we married to the same jerk??? I am right there with you

Add me?

Could'nt said it better myself you said it all for me it's strange when you hear your life story being told by another person that's living the same life

If my husband says abusive things to me, I say something just as bad right back! He does something he kniws i dont like, i do something he wouldnt like back to him! We have to give these guys a taste of their own medicine ! won't put up with his ****! I will not run away but stsy right here and ffight it

I feel your pain. I am in the exact same situation here, including the constant complaints about the ex-wife who actually did the smart thing and ran away. I am ready to high tail it too now, and each day that passes until I can is one day too many.

Hmmm...I hear an awful lot of me and I is this story

:(((((

Holy crap...I could have written that! Ewwww the skid marks!

Im a man. You are in an abusive relationship.

Don't think twice. Go to the lawyer tomorrow and file. Tell lawyer you are being abused. Mental abuse is the same as physical in a court of law.

so many people can relate to your story....i got out...i hope you guys do to...

I just about fell off my couch when I read this! Is your husband the same guy I just broke up with after 7 hideous years! I can't believe we lasted that long, but here is the clincher. He is a fat, lazy, broke, big mouth who brags about his "great radio voice" , his knowledge, his politics and his guns and is an absolute bore...but....HE has a girlfriend that is half his age and me, well I am single. I don't like to brag, but I am smart and attractive, I run and take care of myself, I am kind to people and financially responsible....what the hell? Life is so unfair and I find myself destroyed and heart broken over him now! I don't get it. I guess I am so upset that a loser like him can just move on and not even look back. I don't ever want another man in my life. This last one has cured me.

You are better off. I am wishing I was divorced...yesterday

Wow! I swear, we must be married to the same man. My husband honestly has all the same horrible traits as yours. Spending, anger, selfish, ***...glad you have a plan!

wow what a scum used all the money you guys needed......mine can be a major PIA but he does work hard and is careful with bills etc

You go girl.I'm on your side.

Maybe if you are lucky your husband will do the right thing and get a rope and hang himself lol

Right on!!

Life is a one time issue. No fun spending it in frustration. Leave him and enjoy your life.

Life is a one time issue. No fun spending it in frustration. Leave him and enjoy your life.

it's always the way, these people always seem so "perfect" to outsiders...





You are very brave in your plan to leave :) I tryuely hope it goes well for you and that until then venting on here is helpful

lol!!!!!! the only reason I laugh is because you sound exactly like me. We have 2 bathrooms in our house and the upstairs bathroom is his favorite. I don't use it or allow our children to use it, he is so disgusting. But stay focused on your plan and keep your head up. good luck

lol!!!!!! the only reason I laugh is because you sound exactly like me. We have 2 bathrooms in our house and the upstairs bathroom is his favorite. I don't use it or allow our children to use it, he is so disgusting. But stay focused on your plan and keep your head up. good luck

I am right along with them..I too wish I had your strength and courage. I am working on it.

I think we are married to the same man :( I too envy your strength. Maybe someday I'll have my own.

I wish I had your strength and courage to leave my husband. Reading your post is like a narrative of my life.

Please run and don't look back.