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Psychotic Narcissistic Sociopath

I met my husband in April of 2010. He warned me the first time we talked that his ex wife was crazy. Crazy wasn't even close to what this woman is! She has made our lives, her children's lives and even my ex husband's life a living nightmare. I will try to make this as short as possible even though I'm sure I could write a novel after all I've been through.

The day of our first date she called and screamed at my husband telling him he was a bad father because he wasn't at his kids' chess tournament...I found out later that parents aren't allowed at the tournaments anyway. She found me on Facebook somehow and contacted my ex and his entire family. She composed an email to my husband stating that they (the ex's family) feared for my children because I was extremely promiscuous and irresponsible. She called me and sent me messages begging me to contact her. She had his ex before her send me emails about my husband. She told me she slept with my husband the night before our wedding (not true because I was with him)And that she was pregnant with his child. She at one point even told my husband he would never see his children again and we had to chase her in our car while on the phone with the police! That was all just within our first two months of knowing each other.

She started this blog and emailed me the address. I told myself I wouldn't give into her games, but I found myself letting curiosity get the best of me! Nothing on the blog is true. She is a Pathological liar! But she has followers and lots of them! They all encourage her and speak horribly of me and my husband.

Around Jan of 2011, she began abusing prescription drugs as well as alcohol. She had custody of all three of my husbands children at the time. Among other things, she put a false Amber Alert out on my stepdaughter who was at home sleeping when she wrecked her vehicle driving drunk, she tried to run over my stepson when he stood in front of her car to stop her from driving drunk, she passed out naked and fell down a flight of stairs in front of my stepson, she held a knife to her throat and told my stepchildren she was going to kill herself, she has told all three of them on different occasions that she didn't want to be their mother anymore, she has also on numerous occasions kicked them out of their home and called them unimaginable names. She would call our home and cell phones at all hours of the day and night. Sometimes she would make up stories about the kids, sometimes she would just breathe into the phone and other times she would giggle and say "love it" and hang up. She somehow figured out how to send text messages to our home number, so we would get messages at all hours of the day and night with this robotic voice saying the most bizarre things. I could go on forever about the craziness...

After we called CPS and they did an investigation, they awarded us temporary custody of the kids. While she was in one of her drunken states, we convinced her to sign over custody of the kids. She only agreed to the two oldest boys and her only stipulation was that she could still claim them on her taxes. We agreed. After she convinced the Case worker that she was sober, we had to let my step daughter go back to her. We are trying to save enough money to go to court to gain custody of he as well. A few weeks ago we received a call from my stepdaughter who was screaming! She said that he mom had called her a ***** and kicked her out of the house. We calle the police, but when they called us, they said that my stepdaughter was crying out for attention because she was in trouble.

I have taken my stepsons in for ADHD evaluations as well as counseling. It just so happens that the Dr. Has their past medical history. My husbands ex had them on all sorts of anti-depressants and other medications. She claimed they were bipolar and schizophrenic and flat out crazy! None of this is even remotely true. The Dr. Said that he thinks the mother has munchausens or was trying to get some sort of disability from the state. My stepsons are not on any medication now and tested above grade level in all subjects.

The craziness has never stopped. She continues to call and email and blog constantly to us or about us. Just today, she called my husband over ten times in a row and left three voicemails where she was clearly intoxicated and made no sense. She called me three times and left one voicemail. I answered once, but couldn't make sense of what she was saying.

I am sickened, saddened and exhausted. I don't know how to make her stop. I don't know how much more I can handle either. My husband and I have a son together now (that she wished dead by the way). He is the sweetest little boy and the joy of our lives! I stay and put up with a lot of it just for that reason, but I don't know how much more I can take.
ExCuseYou ExCuseYou 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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Hi! I found this page just now as I was searching for answers on how to deal with my boyfriend's ex wife...I truly believe she is a sociopath. I have been dating my boyfriend since April of 2013, and we live together, and it seems as though she will do any and everything to break us up. She doesn't care about her daughters, because she uses them against their dad and me. She lies about me, my boyfriend, and my three young kids all the time. I feel helpless, because what do you do???? I desperately need
advice!!!!!

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I met my husband in December 2009. We met at our local church. He told me he had two daughters, one from a previous marriage and one from an ex girlfriend he was living with for a brief time. a couple of months before we got married, his ex girlfriend shows up at our church and claims that they were still married. Before any of this I had already checked marriage records from several counties in our state, they were never married nor did they have a common law marriage recognized by the state. She has a long history of theft and shadiness.
She made a big scene knelt on her knees and prayed, pretending to be very saintly. But I knew she was full of it. She had stolen his property title (making him sign the house over when he thought he was signing something else), his money and his car, she was trying to scam him when they were together. She charged up his credit cards and left him in severe debt. She even placed their daughter in danger by shop lifting while her daughter was locked inside her car with the windows rolled up. She gave their daughter a different last name and claimed that the baby was not my husbands in a court of law. She had to go to court and was found guilty of child abuse. She has a long continous history of theft from California and the current state that we live in. She came up to me and said they were married. I told her I did not believe her and that she was a liar. My husband told her to leave us alone, that he wants nothing to do with her.
We had a year long relationship, and he asked me to marry him. She filed a false protection order, because she wanted the house. The title of that house was signed over to her because during their relationship, she tricked my husband. We were living in that house, and we had to leave. I was 1 month pregnant when this happened, and I ended up having a miscarriage because of it.
We currently have a double protection order: she stays away from us, we stay away from her.
She is a horrible person, who hurt my step daughter emotionally (the one from my husband's first marriage). She is the reason my step daughter does not trust me, and my husband's family does not like me, even though I have done nothing wrong. I pray to God, (I'm sorry but this is how I feel) to make her disappear every single day. I want her gone from this planet. But only God can decide when our time is up.

Your story started off similar to mine, however I'm sure she (my husband's ex) will get caught up in all the lies she has spun. I had to get a civil restaining order on her after she kept on showing up looking for "husband". The crazy witch divorced him three times! Now all of a sudden he's your husband?! Anyway it has calmed down a bit because of all the legal orders that are in place. I just feel bad that my husband cannot see he son. She interferes with the child visitation orders. The courts don't do a damn thing about it either! She keeps hollering D.V. as a reason to break the orders, she works (not) and oh the best one, she doesn't have gas money to drop off her son to see his dad. The courts still will not recognize the contempt of orders. Yet she has beat up my husband (resulted in her an arrest) and assaulted me as well. Drives on a suspend license bcz of her DUIs. Her other kids (from previous relationships), one of them almost died bcz of her negligence. She has CPS cases that will make you want to hide your kids. She so afraid of my
husband why does she call him all day
everyday to bug us and ask for money? Beats me! But she was
awarded custody-go figure! Man I love our courts system.

I could have written this. Last night was hard. It is apparent to me now that the mother of his 3 children, who suffers from borderline personality disorder, is brainwashing the children against us (parental alienation syndrome). And what sickens me is it is working. They believe every foul lie that comes out of her mouth because she is the "victim". You should hear what she has the kids calling me. It is disgusting. I am so tired.

Wow, she sounds very crazy. I have just divorced myself after a 2 1/2 year separation and my ex is narcissistic and paranoid at best. When she first filed for divorced I dragged her kicking and screaming to a counselor... it did little good but only took the therapist about 10 minutes to realize that she had a "narcissistic personality disorder along with some other deep seeded issues." Now I'm divorced and trying to date. She has a boyfriend and that is cool with me but I'm terrified when I eventually do meet someone that she'll behave in ways similar to what you've described above. Just if she is unhappy (and she is) then no one can be happy and because it is all "his fault" that is enough justification in her mind to do anything to anyone to achieve her goal and that goal is to break up you and your husband, so try to fight through it.

I am in the exact same situation. Exact. She has two kids with my husband. When we have needed help she wouldn't have anything to do with them (took them 2 days a month or less for two years and wouldn't pay child support) and then when we wanted her gone and felt like her absence was probably the best thing for them she found a way to get them back. She calls 10 times in a row if she can't find a zippy cup. She sends my husband naked photos and then tries to blackmail him for money. He and I have a son together now and I think I am leaving him because I can't do it anymore and I want to protect my son. I am thinking about moving out of state even though I live in paradise on 12 acres in the mountains in a ski town and am within a half hour from the city and my family. She reads my Facebook page and shows up places I want to go. I can't take it. I just can't do it anymore.

I am in the exact same situation. Exact. She has two kids with my husband. When we have needed help she wouldn't have anything to do with them (took them 2 days a month or less for two years and wouldn't pay child support) and then when we wanted her gone and felt like her absence was probably the best thing for them she found a way to get them back. She calls 10 times in a row if she can't find a zippy cup. She sends my husband naked photos and then tries to blackmail him for money. He and I have a son together now and I think I am leaving him because I can't do it anymore and I want to protect my son. I am thinking about moving out of state even though I live in paradise on 12 acres in the mountains in a ski town and am within a half hour from the city and my family. She reads my Facebook page and shows up places I want to go. I can't take it. I just can't do it anymore.

She is jelous of you,Just like my husband's ex.Just because people have a child w/ someone else doesn't mean they have the control(i have 3 kids from my ex and he never causes issues for us)She said my husband couldn't c his daughter,my husband finally said"ok,i won't"and we called her bluff .She has changed her tude,don't let her win!