Can't You Just Let Us Be Happy?Ok so me and my husband just got married about one month ago although we have been living together for over 1 year and a half. We have a new born baby boy, born September 25 2012.
My husband was married for 7 years and just got divorced this year. He has a 4 year old daughter with his ex. Anyway...here is my story.
We met May 2011 and he told me that he had been seperated since May 2010 due to cheating on his ex wife's part. So our relationship grew into something beautiful...until his ex wife found out about me. She was very unhappy that he had someone else although she at the time was living with her significant other. She said horrible things about me to his mother that I had not met at the time...so his mom had a very bad image about me. She started posting horrible things about me on facebook, also pictures of him and her together just so I would get upset.
I learned to just brush it off.
When she found out I was pregnant she was livid. Sending me harrassing text messages and "romantic" ones to my husband. My husband had filed for divorce since 2011 and she just did not want to cooperate. Until finally they setteled it this year. She basically got his family against me saying untrue things about me to them. She continues to post things about me on facebook and things about my husband. I have asked her nicely to just let us be happy but she acts like a child.
A month ago my husbands brother passed away, when she found out, she went to his mothers house and stayed there for one week to help the family grieve. Am i the only person
who finds this disrespectful and inappropriate? On her part and on his family's part for allowing that? I mean I am his new wife and was carrying his child. I feel like I deserve a little more respect than that.
So after my son was born my husband asked her if we can see his daughter for one day so she could meet her little brother. I had only seen his daughter once because she did not allow me nor my husband to see her. Surprisingly she agreed. But now I found out that she told my in laws that the little girl came home very rude and disrespectful. I mean come on! The little girl is 4 years old and has a communication disorder,so she hardley even speaks.
Clearly she is lying. The child was really good with us and seemed to really like me and my newborn son. I feel so emotionally upset that she keeps on trying to make me look bad in front of his family. I just dont understand what her motive is. They are already divorced...me and him are now married and have started a family. What does she want?
I spoke to my mother in law about this and she was very unsupportive and basically said that nobody will ever take her place since she was his first wife :-(
I don't know what to do anymore this has caused a major toll in our relationship. I just want to be happy.
Please give me your input on this thank you.
agonz17 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 Oct 17, 2012