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I Never Listen...


My mamaw always told me the right thing to do but I never listened. My life would be a lot better and very different. But I never listen.... Just like now...

So I met my wonderful boyfriend he has a son with the ex wife of course... He has the sweetest and most precious son. We'll be  together 4 years in a week... Our son I call him that because hes all of our son... At first he wanted me and his mom meet terribly. This child loved me we do the football practice and we have things we do at home thats just our play time he loves zombies... His parents are older so they dont really play with him the way I do. I run around with the guns and fall out dead he loves it. I do all the sports his dad would do that but he has to work. So football practice is our thing... I dont like for him to be just dropped off and then shell come back and get him... well I dont leave him he could get hurt and shes not there. So last week I had a vertigo problem and couldnt take him I begged her to stay she didnt. He was so sad she didnt stay and was kinda hurt that I couldnt take him that day... I felt awful about it...
But anyway the ex wife... I call her my ex wife lol... we get along and do a lot of things together. Because He our son wants us to be friends so we sometimes ride together to games. But if shes around her friends at games she hardly speaks to me... She thinks shes above doing all the practice and taking him... She thinks her shiot dont stink and shes better than me... She drinks a lot at night and is a loving drunk she hugs me and kisses me so shes like jeckyl and mister hyde...
at times though I cant stand her and I get so jelous of her... I'm 10 years younger and a lot prettier than she is but shes frilly and fancy wears really nice clothes. I'm not really one to dress nice all the time. I'm a jeans and t shirts kinda gal but she has a sugar daddy and she has a good job as a teacher shes a little more spohisticated and educated. I'm just a redneck girl from a small town in alabama... I try not to sound so country but once you get to talking no matter how much you try to speak correctly your true self comes out...
But anyway we had a fall out about a year ago and this girl we both knew told her all this stuff I said which I didnt. She was a **** starter... anyway were over this but still I have that grudge about what happened... I was the one who got hurt the most she wouldnt let our son come over unless his dads there it really hurt me I love him as my own child. And she used him as a pawn to hurt me...
I guess I just have a jelous bone like the song...
He told me my bf said dont be friends with her but I was lonely I have no one here. so I did and now look...
Am I crazy for being jelous?  Just like right now I'm on this diet and I've only lost 11 pounds in 2 weeks. In 3 weeks shes lost 26 pounds. She was bigger than me so I understand it but I'm what they call a husky woman and I dont get thinner if I work out or exercise my musles form and I get muscular where usually other girls arms get thin my dont I get muscle... Muscle weighs more than fat so I feel I'm not gonna succeed as she has it really bothers me to not do as good as  her... Why am I like this... I dont even like him to talk to her long on the phone... Thats crazy I hate being this way can anyone help me.... I feel like she has this mind trip on me that he would drop me and go back to her in a min if she wanted it.  He says yeah f'n right... I believe him.... why am I like this?
agnes1977 agnes1977 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2012

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To me it sounds like you really need to get her our of your life as much as possible. She is indeed playing mind games with you and using you to get whatever she wants and can from you. All she is doing it pulling you down and making you feel all of these feelings right now. She's making you doubt yourself and sooner or later, if it hasn't already, it will start to affect your relationship with your boyfriend and or the boy. She is in ex for a reason and you need to keep that in mind and keep her as your ex as well and not a friend. Obviously you need to be civil to her because of the child or she will make your life hell as far as the child goes, but you need to stop being her friend. You don't need to ride with her to games or drink with her or hang out with her period...not even at a family function that she may be at! Be yourself, and that includes your adorable southern accent or whatever, dress how you like to dress and stop comparing yourself to her. Like i said, she is his ex for a reason and with you for a reason too. It's obvious he loves you and has no desire to go back with her. So let her be an ex and nothing more and stop being jealous of her....if anything she should be jealous of you for all you have and all you are!

Hi jaded1112, i am sorry to hear about your problems with your ex.And agnes1977, i suggest you break up with your seemingly "wonderful boyfriend".He can`t be that "wonderful" if he seems to side his ex alot AND since he is already a divorced man(a divorced man usually have problems within himself as well(that is why he is DIVORCED, you and him just don`t seem well suited as well.)But then again, you said you "wouldn`t listen".You will end up regretting if you don`t and it will be too late for amends as you cannot turn back time.If something really terrible happen, you will not only end up emotionally, mentally and physically destroyed but also end up regretting for the rest of your lifes.I have tons of experience seeing people with relationship like yours, and it does not get better even as time goes by.

I love my boyfriend very much so I'm not gonna leave him... I could never just walk away from his son I've been here since he was 4 years old. He would be devastated if I were to leave... I know what its like to have someone leave your life suddenly I cant do that to him or my bf...

Well u shouldn't have been friends with her for starters! I had some insecurity over My dh's ex and I was right he had gone and had sex with her and got her pregnant, had sex with her at least once a month while she was preggo and a few months after.......to be honest I believe if a man has a chance to sleep with some one he has already slept with he will take it every time because its familiar. Dh and I are still trying to work it out for our 1 year old and 2 month old. I was pregnant while she was pregnant too so our sons are both the same age. I am tired of trying My dh is nine years older than me and he doesn't satisfy me sexually anymore, idk if its cuz of the cheating or just cuz he can't keep up with me anymore.....however I hate his ex so much i think ill leave him just for that reason. She has tormented me and my famil
y(My aunts, uncles, mother, fatber) since before our sons were born.(small town in oklahoma) u may love her son but ultimately he is HERS and she will use him any way she can.sorry but u shoulnt get attached

I'm very attached I've been here 4 years and I love the son sooo much... I know he is hers and shell do what she likes... I've figured that out since the other day I couldnt keep him at the time she wanted but he was coming later... She wouldnt let him stay 2 hours more because I didnt jump when she said to...

I can tell you from experience if your not happy your kids can tell and if your unhappy with him the kids will tell too. Do yall argue much? With him cheating your heart doesnt feel the same does it? Mine didnt when my sons dad cheated I didnt have that same love anymore. I couldnt get past it. We divorced because I couldnt get it out of my head. I didnt trust him. I worried who hes out here f**king around with.
It was hell... My bf is 12 years older and I had him go to the dr and get testosterone shots hes like a stallion now... dont know if thats part of the not pleasing you. With my ex I could see him having sex with that girl when we were having sex that bothered me. So I wasnt into it as I had been before...
I hope it gets better for you...