Not Sure What To Think...I've been married for 7 yrs. and have always had issues w/my IL's. Mostly with my MIL, and 2 SIL. I feel like I'm in competition with them for my husband, which feels weird. Anyway, they never make me feel accepted or good enough.
My FIL doesn't bother me too much and my BIL is nice. At one time in the beginning I felt closer to him then I do now and I need some advice as to why.
When I moved in w/my husband, he would call to talk to him. He'd be asleep or say he didn't wanna talk, so I would talk to him. After a while he didn't ask for husband and we'd just talk. He would tell me alot about him and whenever he had a bad night @ work, he'd call and I'd cheer him up.
He would call me alot in the morning too before I went to work and we'd watch the same show together. For me it was like having the brother I never got to have.He'd talk about girls he dated in the past, one's he thought were hot now and stuff he was into and made me laugh.
At Christmas that yr. my husband and I got engaged. Everyone was very happy for us, but my BIL. When I showed him my ring he leaned over and said,"Does Dad know yet?" In an irritated tone and then walked away, which upset me b/c I thought he'd be excited to have me as his SIL.
My husband and I got pregnant and soon after then his wife got pregnant too, then he didn't call much anymore.He seems different towards me, less happy and kinda pissed off at the world almost. I could tell his wife never wanted me to even hug him goodbye when we were leaving too. I've noticed that he rarely wears his wedding ring, which IDK maybe some guys just don't.
I haven't talked to his family much b/c we had a falling out, but his sister got married last summer and we went to the wedding,but he seemed happy to see me, showed me to me seat and at the reception, husband kept leaving my side to go mingle w/family and he kept me company most of the night, whichticked his wife off, but was comforting for me.He even asked me while my husband was sitting there if I wanted him to get me anything, which ticked his wife off.
When we were getting ready to leave, he hugged me and I felt sad b/c I felt close to him again and missed him so much. He told me he missed me and he loved me and hugged me tight. I got a little emotional b/c I was surprised when he said those things to me. He also took a picture of me and my daughter at the wedding on his phone. Is this strange?
A few weeks ago, I got a one ringer. His # came up on the phone log, but that was it. Not sure if it was just dialed by mistake or something else?
I'm not really sure if my BIL hates me like the rest of my IL's do or if he cares. I have no contact with him and not sure if I should try. He's the only one I respect. What do you think?