I Hate My Job And Am Depressed

Hi everyone

Can I start by saying that I really hate my job? Ha.

I've been at the same place for 4 years but my roles have changed 3 different times. I always thought maybe it would be better if my role changed, if I travelled more and if I made more. All of those things have happened and I couldn't be any more miserable!  

I'm American but I live and work abroad in Europe.  I initially came here 4 years ago and I got this job I wasn't so keen on from the beginning but I thought things might change. A few years later I got a promotion and then I decided to stay.  Now it's over a year later, and I freakin HATE it. I don't care if I'm in Kenya right now for work. Or that I travel around Europe for meetings.. I feel like I'm not doing that great of a job because I'm not motivated and just feel uninterested and uninspired. I wish I could snap out of it, focus and do a good job but I feel so depressed that I'm blinded. 

My contract is up in about 3 months and I know I should be applying for other jobs, but I am so confused at which way to go, I'm paralyzed.  I need to figure out what I really want to do in life but I just don't know. Now I have a boyfriend here and good friends that I really care alot about. Leaving the city I live in isn't an option at the moment because in actuality I love where I live, but I just hate my job. So I have a few vested interests in staying here. On the other hand, there aren't many jobs opportunities here and I would have to stay in a certain line of work I'm not so interested in due to what's available in the country.

I am one confused little person. Sigh.

Does anyone have any advice? Maybe career advice or helpful suggestions?



AmSoLost AmSoLost
26-30, F
3 Responses Feb 2, 2010

Hey there lockpick and stalone! I'm sorry for the late reply, but I want to thank you for your advice. I am still at my job but after I got back from Kenya, I started connecting with different people in a field I would like to work in, so I'm hoping that something works out! I have just 5 weeks left in my contract so I need to think about what to do ... should I renew the one I have if I dont have another job yet or maybe take a little break and see what I can find? what do you think?? <br />
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Thanks to you both for your advice, it's most appreciated :)

Hiya, I think you'll need to move on and find a job/career that you really like. Even if they'd paid you double and promoted you again, you won't be happy as this job is not where your heart is. I had a similar experience when I was younger so I kind of know what you're going through. It's important to find something you think you will enjoy doing because all the money and prestige in the world won't make you happy if you're stuck in a job which you despise. On the other hand, if you're doing something you like, you won't even notice the pay cut and sometimes even longer working hours. If you want to change careers, do it while you're young. It becomes harder as you get older as employers get pickier and think that there's something wrong with you (at least they do where I am). I hope this helps. All the best to you!

AmSoLost,<br />
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I can relate to not liking my job and being lost. My advice is that if you want to stay then you have to fund that action. So instead of looking at it from a "I need a job", which is really saying "I need funding for my life activities." Then you may want to start looking into what it takes to launch your own business for your geographic location. Do not do this lightly as it will be very difficult and costly. The goal is to have a business that produces profit from which you will fund your life activities. <br />
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I myself have been attempting to employ this advice for years, so if it works for you my hats off.<br />
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Good luck.