What Happened?

  My mother used to be so involved in my life.  She was my girl scout leader, my panther cub cheerleading coach, and my team-mom for softball.  She came to every ballet practice and recital.  She even started taking ballet herself.  We had so much in common, and we were together all the time.  That was a very long time ago.  It is hard to imagine that she is the same person.  Today I am 21 years old, and my mother is almost 50.  My mother has always made plenty of money as an LPN.  50 grand a year may not seem like much to many people, but it is certainly enough for life's simple needs. A few years ago she started smoking crack on a daily basis. She has moved out of a house into the trailor park I grew up in.  She took back the vehicle she gave me when I got my license.  Instead of three cars, she now has one.  She can barely afford to put gas in it or heat her home.  She never spends time with me or my three brothers, and still asks that my unemployed, loving father pay her for costs.  I go months without hearing from her and she is never home.  When she does spend time with my little brother and neices and nephews, she spends the time drunk. And she drives them around like that!!!  Every time I see her she is drunk.  Now I, myself dealt with a heroin addiction for about three years.  She claims that heroin is much worse than crack.  I am having trouble feeling any empathy or compassion for her, despite my own addiction experience.  Just thinking about her ruins my day!  I love her so much and I just want her to be the mother that she used to be.  What can I do to cope with this???  Someone please help.

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1 Response Feb 17, 2009

This sounds really bad. You NEED to talk to her about this. Tell her she needs to get her life back together. This will relieve alot of stress on your family, and can help to put things back to the way they were. If she wont, try to take things a little bit at a time. Keep in mind this WILL take a while, but in the end it'll be worth it. Plz try this. I know im no expert, but this might help you.